How to cope with loneliness?

[AAthlete]

How to cope with loneliness?

Popeye;478734 wrote: This will be my first Christmas alone......

Popeye, not to argue semantics but when you are around family you are never truly alone. Enjoy them for the gifts that they are!

[swans]

How to cope with loneliness?

Fidel;478826 wrote: Howzit !!!

First post here, and I'm on antabuse for 5 hours now....
Anyway, on leaving the doctor's office yesterday after getting the prescription, I popped into a pub for my last 2 beers ( well, actually 3 ), but you know how it goes.
That was a great thing, because I met a guy I haven't seen in years who was then in the hassle I am in now. To talk with him was inspirational.
But, to get back to this thread, we both agreed that we got in this situation because of loneliness and boredom.
My main inspiration for stopping is because in the last few months I have turned from being a pleasant guy with some drinks in me, to a belligerent drunk.
Not the best way to cure loneliness!!!
Thank you, all of you .....:new:

:welcome:Fidel, you are on the right track, loneliness is the root of drinking, at least for me and you, I plan on finding new ways to cope with those feelings. Its easier to deal with this when you know what causes you to abuse alcohol in the first place.

[Fidel]

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Swans, yes ....

I'm now looking at all the things that interest me, but I never did : like radio-control flying, sea kayak fishing, etc...

You know, a change of view from the wine glass on the coffee table.

A wonderful new life awaits us ...

[swans]

How to cope with loneliness?

I am looking forward to it! I will keep you posted and you do the same, today is Thanksgiving day in the US and I am off to cook because tonight I have a dinner to go to, I am actually preparing sushi for the first time:radioactive: wish me luck, have a great day. I will add you to my buddy list.

[Habsfan]

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Welcome to the site Swans

I'm a newbie as well, on day 5 and doing well.
I'm glad you've posted on teh board and had replies from other members. We're all in the same situation Swans, wanting to get rid of the Beast. It can be done.
If ever you're feeling alone and tempted I'm sure you'll find many buddies here on MWO willing to help. Don't be afraid to call on us.

The 10 most important 2 letter words in the English language....if it is to be, it is up to me

Hope the sushi turned out!

Russ :new:

[Evie.Lou]

How to cope with loneliness?

Loneliness is a Biggy....Check out local AA groups or Women for Sobriety groups.Find an Animal Shelter that needs help.I find that helping others "usefulness", as Emanuel Swedenborg called it, is the best cure.

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

How you going at the mo, swans?-

[donnaA]

How to cope with loneliness?

same life i live , drink and see the internet.

[Fidel]

How to cope with loneliness?

Swans,

That is so cool !! Making sushi is real hard work ..... I tried to make for a number of people a few years back, but my rice was either too sticky, or fell apart, so I just went the sashimi route. ( Which I prefer, anyway ).

Hey !! a note : a had a minor date last night ..... first time in 20 years of dating that I haven't had charisma ( right! ) in a bottle or up my nose. ( I kicked that powder 3 years back - I thought I had nothing else to ever worry about. ). I've gotten away with drinking a long time, because I don't show signs easily, like slurred speech, etc.
The cool thing is, I felt far more dignified being sober....

This medication rocks, because it takes all choice away from you..... I feel a bit nauseous, tho, but I believe that's normal.

Swans, bud, I hope your dinner went way great!!

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Please feel free to tell me more DonnaM - sounds like not much of a life, drinking and netting. Have done the drinking-around-the-clock thing...used to have a personal mantra..."Drink/Pass Out/Come To" shit it was misery. I have won that battle by putting down the dam drink, spending three days feeling like total CRAP, but the light WAS at the end of the tunnel and today I am fit...mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically. If I can do it anyone can. I was considered a "hopeless case" by all. NO exaggeration.

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Hey Fidel - what meds you on? You sound really positive and great to hear that. Yeah, I cross-addicted to opiates and gave them away three years ago too, was really hard withdrawls, and was drinking again in NO time. You are so right about the dignity - ain't it grand to hold your head up. Also for me with the dating thing, people can get within 3 feet of me now as I am not paranoid of REEKING of the booze.

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Sorry Fidel - just scrolled back a tad and see you aon antabuse - GOOD FOR YOU! That is determination!

[Fidel]

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Kapo, howzit, man !!

It must be almost weekend for you there.... this is gonna be my first dry weekend in many years. I'm enthusiatic about it.

The story is, I was in the outlaw biking scene for 15 years, doing coke and record-breaking drinking. Then, as these things happen, I fell in love 3 years back, and the object of my affection didn't know of my powder habit, but I found out she hated it. I had to stop fast!! and I had to leave the club, go straight, move home, buy a car, get a haircut, move into a new life.... and once I did that, she dropped me. ( she just liked bikers ), and I am eternally grateful to her...

Last 3 years, the drinking grew slowly... about a month back, I met someone else : no great passion from my side, but she really cool to be with. She spent a weekend or 3 with me, and we drank a storm.
I arranged to see her this last weekend, and never got a round to phoning her, and ignored her calls because I was my out my tree Saturday, trying to pick up women, and talking sh*t, and sleeping someone's couch and being obnoxious...
I felt so bad Sunday, I did it all again....... clever, hey?
Regret Monday came. ( Once again. ).
She sms'd me Tuesday to ask what's happening to us, and she misses me.....
I resolved to take steps, so that when I called her and explained, honestly, what happened, that I could tell her what concrete steps I have already taken, as opposed to talk only.
Last night I impressed her, and I will continue to impress myself and all others.
( She told me I'm glowing, and it was only 36 hours AF then ).

Kapo ( like "Boss" ), if you haven't fallen asleep by now, can you post a link to your history ....?

[kaponium]

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Yeah sure, I'll copy/paste it here in a sec. Like yours, Fidel, it ain't pretty. Punk rock, bikers drinking around the clock - coke many years ago, opiates til 3 years ago...f^*ked relationshps, violence...lalalalala! Great to hear you heading into your first weekend sober - you sound determined. I take it a day at a time. I had 7 plus weeks up sober and clean (again!) recently, but got pissed off with my BF when went to visit him in jail and headed straight to bottle store and my dealer - LOL - All that got me was even MORE mess to clean up in all areas! Am chalking up 14 happy clean and serene days now - would love to support you in any way poss!

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f8...ory-28487.html

Here is link, Fids