How to cope with loneliness?

[Fidel]

How to cope with loneliness?

Kath, Wow !!

You have certainly been thru the mill ........ and I take my hat off to you for fighting back so often ......

When you mentioned opiates, I didn't click until you mentioned 'poppies'. From what I've heard, that is really rough to kick.:goodjob:
( How the hell can they send the pervert to the same place your daughter was ?)
Gorgeous, you have amazing strength.... and my sympathy to you for your mother.

My last post sounded a bit cynical : what I meant was, there is a person in my life I could grow to really love, and I was throwing it away while being aware of what I was doing.

Kath, I've had a walk in the park compared to you...
Strength, Sister !!

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

I think they cynicism comes with the early sobriety - I know sometimes I feel so bad after a bender, I don't want others to know how sensitive I am so cynicism a great cover...

Yeah, try and keep the cunicism at bay with tat One Special Person (for a start) - they really appreciate our vulnerability, and it's a good healing starter. Yeah, my story ain't pretty - but that is addiction for you. When I have one drink it's like ALL over - and off I go again, drinking around the clock and roaming around the country side. Dangerous.

i LIVE my sobriety today, and will not compromose it for anything.

It is DAM crazy about my ex - thing. I am working hard at forgiveness there, that is for MY OWN sake and the sake of my sanity and sobriety.

I have plenty of gratitude, many of my mates are still drinking like I did and it is SOOOOO sad. My man is in prison (drink driving number 12, I was on the back of the bike - no helmets - and we failed to take a corner and, well, WHAT A MESS, couldn't walk for 2 weeks. That was back in May.) He eligible for parole next August.

We are both VERY determined to be AF and clean. I know I have to work my own programme only, and he must work his.

Life is grand today, Fid, and yours WILL get better...getting some time up, the fog does lift and clarity and serenity DO return! Bless

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Hey again Fid - time for me to hit the sack, shall tune in first thing before I head off for my journey to the jail (is a 3 hour trip). Keep up the good work, miracles happen in our lives with sobriety and true love is one of those miracles, FIRSTLY that true love is four oursleves......nighty night...have a great day (that sounds sooo cool!)

[Fidel]

How to cope with loneliness?

Kapo, night to you,

Safe trip tomorrow, and regards and speedy time to your man ......

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Morning Fid ( or whatever timezone you are at) Thank you for your contact and kind words last night. Am off shortly but just wanted to wish you all the very best for the beginning of your first AF weekend in some time. Watch out for anxiety, frustration, niggliness etc, take deep breaths and WAIT the bastards out! Win the day! Bless you, I will get back on tonight!

[wannabe]

How to cope with loneliness?

This web site is a great place to come and invest your lonely hours. For us that have a lot of these, it certainly passes the time away. I feel a little guilty at times that I have the hours to be lonely and unproductive.. As a mother of 5 grown kids, I was so fortunate to be able to be an at home mom,I never went back to work. My hubby works twice as hard so that I we able to do this. ( I only work about 6 hours a week tutoring if you can believe that)
Anyways I can relate to your loneliness,but think maybe we bring it on ourselves. I think to myself sometimes, get yourself involved in something lady, go and do some volunteer work, just do something. But I don't I just ...well I spend a lot of time at the computer.
Let's do somethings Swans. Got any ideas. I understand down in states Thanksgiving goes on for four day.

[1967]

How to cope with loneliness?

gosh i wish i had seen this post.
i was feeling exactly the same.
what did i do? i drank for two days thinking that would somehow fill the void.
anyhow, coming out on the other side now. and knowing i cannot touch alcohol, period.
back on the wagon. this disease really is stronger than i ever understood. i think i'm finally getting it now.

[wannabe]

How to cope with loneliness?

This web site is a great place to come and invest your lonely hours. For us that have a lot of these, it certainly passes the time away. I feel a little guilty at times that I have the hours to be lonely and unproductive.. As a mother of 5 grown kids, I was so fortunate to be able to be an at home mom,I never went back to work. My hubby works twice as hard so that I we able to do this. ( I only work about 6 hours a week tutoring if you can believe that)
Anyways I can relate to your loneliness,but think maybe we bring it on ourselves. I think to myself sometimes, get yourself involved in something lady, go and do some volunteer work, just do something. But I don't I just ...well I spend a lot of time at the computer.
Let's do somethings Swans. Got any ideas. I understand down in states Thanksgiving goes on for four day.

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Hey 1967, Fids, Wanna et al... yeah it surely took me many, many "rock bottoms" to finally get it through my otherwise quite intelligent brain that alcohol and moi quite simply a VERY BAD mix! One too many, a thousand never enough, and always leading back to that dreadful place of despair, loneliness, guilt shame..lalalalala. I face my recovery one day at a time, and today has been another day won, not having had the first drink. Forgiving ourselves is a vital step in order to move forward, we DO acutally have an illness ( I believe) - it is not a MORAL issue! Bless

[swans]

How to cope with loneliness?

wannabe;480129 wrote: This web site is a great place to come and invest your lonely hours. For us that have a lot of these, it certainly passes the time away. I feel a little guilty at times that I have the hours to be lonely and unproductive.. As a mother of 5 grown kids, I was so fortunate to be able to be an at home mom,I never went back to work. My hubby works twice as hard so that I we able to do this. ( I only work about 6 hours a week tutoring if you can believe that)
Anyways I can relate to your loneliness,but think maybe we bring it on ourselves. I think to myself sometimes, get yourself involved in something lady, go and do some volunteer work, just do something. But I don't I just ...well I spend a lot of time at the computer.
Let's do somethings Swans. Got any ideas. I understand down in states Thanksgiving goes on for four day.

Hello I am back sushi came out awesome, I feel I dont have to even go to a restaurant any more, I figured it out, well almost all rolls, I still cannot make those fancy rolls with the avocado and caviar on the outside.........I have been trying to keep busy, went out shopping and went for brunch with a friend. Thank you all for the support, I see that I am not alone in this. Wannabe.......I recently took up beading classes to make earrings and jewelry, that should keep me away from the booze, keep up all the good work:h

[swans]

How to cope with loneliness?

Awesome Janie you are onkeeping busy is the way to go!!!

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Hiya Swans - how you going today?

[swans]

How to cope with loneliness?

Hi Kapo:

Cannot complain, I have slipped up over the holiday:-( BUT!!!!! I am learning how to cope with this addiction one day at a time. Sounds like you have been there as well......Hope you are doing well today....

[kaponium]

How to cope with loneliness?

Sure have mate - more times thaan I care to count. IKt is about today though, and I havent had a drink or a drug for quite a few now. The more time I get away from the last bender, the clearer my mind becomes and life is a dance. take care... forgive yourself... keep on keeping on!

[swans]

How to cope with loneliness?

Kapo, thanks for the support, I am back on the wagon today, keep up the good work