ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

[universal]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Hi guys,

Savvy - big hugs to you. I wish I could help. Just know we are here for you.

CS - for the first 4 years after my daughters birth I drank to oblivion almost every night. When my daughter was born my husband left and my mom passed away almost right after. I felt so alone and AL had that numbing effect that I really needed. It has only been in the past year since I have been on MWO that I finally feel like I am getting some sort of handle on this. Af days are easier and the drinking days are fewer but it takes a lot of time and effort. There are days when it is so much easier to just crawl into the escape of the bottle and it is often a fight not to for me.

You are not alone - ODAT is the perfect thread for us all to check in and not feel the preassure - just the support of everyone that is going through the same things. So please, keep checking in - we're all here in this struggle together.

See you tomorrow!
Love always,
Uni

[CS04]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Thanks Dingbat and Uni. And AKGirl too. I will write a longer response later -- right now baby is into stuff in computer room! (scissors and pushpins -- don't send the cops here!)

Got some lemon water goin on right now, and no wine in the house -- just beer. It is cold and windy and it doesn't really sound appealing right now.

Savon, what are you grieving?

[New Day]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Savy --- our hearts are with you... waves of grief will come unexpectedly. :l
CS ---- I'm also struggling, your not alone here. In fact it's my bewitching time right now .... the dinner hour and I'm alone again tonight .... "so no one would know I was drinking" mind. I'm going to make a AF drink and hope that helps.

[greeneyes]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Savvy, I'm sorry you are feeling low...... :l It won't last forever. Acknowledge it and let it pass. I wish I could do something to lift your spirits. Try not to drink, though. Al is a depressant and won't help in the long run.

[CS04]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Dessert as Ammunition against AL

Well, I put off witching hour for yet another hour tonight. I have only had 2 so far tonight, and drank water with dinner.

I was active with Moderation Management about 12 years ago. One tip that someone shared was the idea of having dessert after dinner. Most of us drinkers don't have a sweet tooth (CHOH takes care of that), and many times when dessert is offered at a restaurant or party or something, many of us go right on drinking (I do anyway). But something sweet generally does not go with AL, so it can be a nice shift in the evening to stop drinking. I know that MWO suggests avoiding sugar so as to not invite cravings. But I think it is a tip worth considering, especially now that the holidays are upon us, and treats will be abundant. One Christmas cookie in lieu of an extended night of getting sloshed might not be a bad trade off.

My two cents. I may have some peppermint hot chocolate before I go to bed.

[CS04]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Anyone havng headaches when cutting way down on AL? It's only been 2 days, but I have had headaches upon going to bed, and woke up at 4 AM with it still. Took some aspirin and it finally went away, but it's back now.

[universal]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

CS - wow, interesting, never thought of that sweets angle but yeah.........I don't have a sweet tooth but a drink of baileys after a meal always works.........

interesting.........

And yes, headaches are normal.......like cutting out caffeine.......it's the dehydration..........drink as much water as possible.....

[neurogenic]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Hi All,

I had shocking headaches last week CS, almost most as bad as the hammer yielding post two bottles of wine ones. I just swallowed plenty of neurofen when needed, and it passed about day 4-5.

Im curerntly finding myself with a sweet tooth, so aggree with you about drinking the whole way through desert. I just bought some dark chocolate to stash the fridge, Im not a choccy person, but have been having a nibble evry now and then.

Savon, really hope you are ok,

neuro

[dingbat]

ONE DAY AT A TIME Tuesday

Yes on the sweet tooth thing!!! I have never been much of a sweets eater, but I sure seem to be trying to make up for lost time lately:H!!! That's why I'm convinced that for many of us, we have some sort of sugar metabolizing problem, especially those of us who also suffer with depression/anxiety. There's some research out there to support this, along with info on supps to help stabilize moods. I'd really like to get to a doctor who is open to this and who is willing to do bloodwork to test for low vits and minerals, rather than insisting on the ADs.

savvy, I'm so sorry. I wish there were words; but there really are none.:soothe: