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    #61
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    yogini,

    I read on the "Tough Start of AF#4" thread something you wrote to Jamms. I hope you don't mind if I comment on it. In my opinion, it's just my opinion, the MWO painted a much too simple picture of the MWO program. She did continue to drink from the beginning without problems as if a miracle occurred and I haven't read of anything like that happening on this forum. Maybe it has happened I just haven't read of it. I don't know what Jamms thinks...I hope you don't mind the comment. :-)

    Anyway about tonight. I do have a strategy. To be honest, I used to tell people I was on antibiotics and that always shut them up. I've decided I'm sick of feeling as if I have to make excuses. So, if anyone asks, I'll simply say I'm not having wine tonight because I don't feel like it. I won't disguise it in any way. If they push it, I'll simply repeat what I've said. If they don't drop it I'll smile and say excuse me and that there's someone I need to talk to and I'll leave the conversation.

    I'm 47 and I'm a big girl. I may have made some bad choices in the past but I don't have to explain myself to anyone. Especially when I'm making a good choice! If someone is pushing it it means they're nosy and impolite. That's my opinion.

    You have an awesome goal! I'm so proud of you! :happy:

    Be
    "Action is...the enemy of thought." :l Joseph Conrad

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      #62
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      You can do this Be. I have been to a couple of Christmas dos and stayed AF, its the beginning bit thats the hardest. Once you're in, with an AF drink and chatting it will be fine and I am sure you will have fun!
      And no, you dont need to explain to anyone...I always say I am driving and they leave me alone...
      Enjoy!!
      Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
      Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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        #63
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        You'll feel great when your home, sober and safe in the knowledge that YOU are in control.
        To Infinity And Beyond!!

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          #64
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          Day #6 :goodjob:

          ND- I made it last night. :goodjob: I hop you did, after I posted to you I started to watch "rain in my heart" but my pc kept freezing I got annoyed and went to bed. I will check in for you later.

          Johnny- I hope you are feeling better today.

          Be- Thank you for being concerned. :l I can tell you that I totally agree that the program was portraid way to "simple" by the women in the book. The book is way too short! LOL:H I'm sure it is "sugar coated" . I am aware that the journey is not going to be easy and simple. I too hope to be able to drink as moderatley as she did, if I start to slip, if any of us do, we'll be here for each other. You have a great plan for this evening! I'm proud of you. I agree that if someone pushes the issue after they've been told "no thanks, I'm good" they are rude. Probably have a AL problem themselves. Doesn't misery love company?

          Thank for the support Starting, ginger ale is a good idea. I'm going to get some with some berries. if I can get berries now.
          :l
          :teeter:JAMMS

          "I'm safe.. up high...no one can touch me...why do I feel this party's over?...."

          "no pain..inside...you're my protection...how do I feel this good SOBER?!"

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            #65
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            YoWza!! Ouch! Phew!
            "Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children." Kahlil Gibran
            Clean and sober 25th January 2009

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              #66
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              Oh yes, its usually the peeps with a problem that want you to join them...
              Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
              Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                #67
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                I will try. Never get past day 4. Becoming...what dosage of topa do you take. How long have you been taking it?

                Everything I need is within me!

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                  #68
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                  bright,

                  Right now I take 50mg in the late morning and 75mg in the late afternoon and it seems to be just about right.

                  I'm off to get ready for the party. I'm going to walk in and knock their socks off. You'd have to know me. I'm a very nervous person. People always tell me how pretty I look and all I see is the things I think are ugly. I'm determined to walk in there looking like, well, like a beautiful me. Becoming ME at LAST damn it. Not trying to be anyone else. Not trying to hide or be scared or better than anyone else. Just me.
                  "Action is...the enemy of thought." :l Joseph Conrad

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                    #69
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                    :h Be - You know we will all be looking to hear how things went at the party and will be checking in on you tomorrow! We are ALL pulling for you!

                    Be & Jamms - Thank you for your comments about what I thought I remembered in the book. Yes, I do see from the forums here what a struggle we all have! I've fought this battle for too long and I'm ready to take my power back! "SHE's BACK" ... Hey did you guys see that internet thing going around about POWERFUL WOMEN????

                    MOTTO OF A POWERFUL WOMAN: Live each day in such a way that every morning when your feet hit the floor Satan shudders and says: "Oh Sh*t, she's awake!"

                    Bright - OK we are all pulling for you to make it through day 4!

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                      #70
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                      Wow Yogini!! I LOVE that motto! Thanks for posting it!

                      Yes Be, we wanna here how you did...so come on girl...spill!

                      Its 5am here, I cant sleep but feeling good as its Friday...hope you all are too! See you later x
                      Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                      Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                        #71
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                        How did it go, Becoming...

                        I liked your post about being a big girl now and what to say. I am going to use that. Be sure to fill us in on what happened. I am always amazed at how people push alcohol ...then realize I always have done that also so I could have company.

                        I like the "I am on antibiotics" message of the designated driver one. Maybe I will just tell them I am ALLERGIC to alcohol...I break out into stupidity and clumsiness and embarassing behavior and blackouts..!!! That out to shut them up, huh?

                        After my stressful day yesterday I am happy to report I did not drink. Today we have terrible weather and I will be stuck in the house all day. Will keep busy busy busy and online.

                        TAKE CARE EVERYONE

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                          #72
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                          Time to spill...

                          Day 4 for me! I walked in and couldn't believe it. For the first time in about 10 years of these things they had, right next to the food a FREE WINE BAR. They have NEVER offered free drinks. They're usually $5 a pop. So, I got a soda and piled up my plate. My HB was nice and did the same. We talked with people and basically hung around. I just put my back to that damn wine bar. No one asked what I was drinking. Not one person.

                          Did I mention the damn wine was free?

                          I spent about 3 hours getting ready. I haven't done that in so many years I can't even remember. Maybe my wedding? LOL I got lots of compliments and felt so good. One guy, he's very well known and normally doesn't acknowledge me (he's so damn handsome I can't even begin to tell you. Think of Richard Gere with hair down to his shoulders.) told me I looked as hot as Sarah Palin. Now, normally I would have melted and mumbled something under my breath. Actually, I haven't had a compliment like that in a long time. Anyway, I said, "Wait a minute. I'm much older than she is so I had the look first." He didn't know what to say then just laughed. I couldn't believe that came out of my mouth.

                          Then it was time for the give-aways. Everyone puts business cards in a basket and they give things away. I've won a beer baseball cap once in about 10 years. This time I won two gift cards and my husband won one! Plus we got three great referrals for business! One is from, literally, a businessman I've been trying to target for over a year. I thought he was "touchless". This referral is so big I can't even begin to explain.

                          Basically, I'm on cloud 9. When I was getting ready last night I looked in the mirror and said to myself, "Please, just let us get there safe and come home safe. That's all I really want. Honest." And look at what happened!

                          On the way home I got a pint of chocolate/peanut butter ice cream. I ate the whole thing! When I went upstairs to put my PJs on and take my makeup off I realized I never put mascara on. LOL I laughed so hard. That's something I put on every day and I forgot.

                          Anyway, thanks so much to you all for your encouraging words and support. I couldn't have done it without you. I knew I'd have to report back and didn't want to dissapoint you, or myself.

                          I watched one woman at the free wine bar. She kept going back and back. That would have been me last year. She didn't enjoy one bit of what else was going on. It was so sad. She didn't even have a smile on her face. But I'd be willing to bet I know what was going through her brain, over and over and over..."wine, it's free. Wine, it's free, more wine, it's free, more wine, it's free, more, more, more."

                          Thanks, I love you guys, :l
                          Be
                          "Action is...the enemy of thought." :l Joseph Conrad

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                            #73
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                            FREE WINE! good for you for not touching it. You're doing great Be, keep it up. I know you must of felt so proud of yourself. How are you feeling physically? hope all is well today. Keep your eye on the 7 days AF goal! :goodjob:
                            :lilheart: "Love is large, love defies limits. People talk about the sanctity of love...love is by definition sacred. Not some love between some people but all love between all people"
                            ~Jennifer Beals~:huggy

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                              #74
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                              Thanks 1more! Physically I feel fantastic. I'm a little sore from a walk yesterday in the snow but it's a good sore, you know what I mean? I was going to do some yoga and I already have to go out and get supplies for the store. Maybe when I come back. I have my purple mat all ready to go but my son used my stretch band for some science experiment. Grrrr! Have you been practicing long?
                              "Action is...the enemy of thought." :l Joseph Conrad

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                                #75
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                                Be!!! I am SO VERY proud of you!!!! You are an inspiration and a true star!!!
                                The rewards are coming your way now hun x
                                Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                                Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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