I am a very successful professional in my community and I wonder how many people saw me in my drunken state making a fool of myself. I know I embarrassed my children and their friends made sure to tell them every time they saw me out. So a few years ago I hook up with a new love through the dating service, I slowed down my drinking, everything seemed to be going well and he asked me to marry him. Soon after we are married I find out he is addicted to Opiates. It has been a roller coaster ride since that point and I find myself drinking nightly sometimes two glasses of wine and many times 3-4 glasses. With my bypass I am not suppose to drink like this; it's probably eating a hole through my tiny stomach. I have many stomach issues from the bypass and I thought wine helped calm my stomach after a bad food day and I use that excuse plenty - but when I wake up the morning after a heavy night of drinking, I realize that I have a problem; I never feel good in the morning, I'm tired most days, can't focus on my work and the cycle usually starts over after dinner each night.
I've tried to tell myself I don't have a real problem but when I look at the people I've hurt, what I have done to myself and the shame I feel about my drinking, I know I have a real problem. I don't know which way to head with this. My marriage is in a lot of trouble (another story for another day), I'm not feeling really stable emotionally right now (got laid off and just started a new job, sold my house of several years and moved to a new town into my husband's house). A lot of changes and disappointments last year; what was suppose to be a fairytale wedding turned into Nightmare on Elm Street.
With my husband in treatment for Opiates, but smoking pot and messing with his medication he is still sliding downhill and I have no support from him (he a compulsive liar and I can't believe a word he says). I am also dealing with issues with sick and elderly parents. I want to stop drinking, but with all that goes on around me, I don't know if I can ... I ordered the book to read first. I'm going to research the medications recommended. I won't go to AA; I don't want anyone to know that doesn't know and I do live in a new community and I know nobody here. I don't even want to tell my doctor (my regular doctor of 26 years died last year, so I have to find a new doctor).
Too much on my platter, but I need change even if it is baby steps.
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