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Herbie------ sorry hate when iPhones change words! Not Bernie- herbie! Lol.

[FlyAway]

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Australia;1228258 wrote: Herbie------ sorry hate when iPhones change words! Not Bernie- herbie! Lol.

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[timpin]

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Hi SL

Glad it all went well, and now perhaps to have a little fun ? Like going into bars and having nice long soft drinks and watching the boozers all around you ! It might not work for everyone, but it certainly does for me. Because I stay away a lot I am in bars most nights and have learned to cope with it. Maybe going out to pubs might help you to accustom to it as well ?

I now have the perfect way of fending off people who insist that they want to buy me a drink. I just tell them that I was turning into a bit of an alky and needed to lay off it. Strange how the truth shocks people into not insisting on buying you an Al drink. They also get curious and start asking questions. I think it is great that I can do something that they cannot master !

Anyway sorry to ramble on. Let me know if you decide to try my method.

[FlyAway]

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Timpin I know that you read the Jason Vale book too. And you know that he says not to avoid the pubs and parties. I find that it doesn't bother me to be in a pub either. I'm usually just stunned a bit by how drunken people act. DH and I were in a casino a few weeks ago and I saw about 6 security guards take one guy who was drunk and out of control and slam him up against the wall. And two women walking arm in arm supporting each other (barely). Makes me wonder what the attraction to alcohol was to begin with.

[timpin]

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Hi Flyaway

Funny thing is that when we were both heavy on AL we would probably not even have noticed that incident happen and even if we had, we certainly would not have remembered much about it the next morning ! You know the other thing is that it would have been all so easy to become involved in the brawl if we were full of Al because drunks tend to be drawn to incidents like that and so many actually get involved in brawls when they perhaps don't even mean to. I reckon securuty guards can see a drunk coming a mile away and if one had even spoke out of turn he or she would probably have got it too.

So yes, I totally agree with you.AL has nothing to offer and it has no attractions to me anymore. As you say, I have read Jasons book. I have read it thoroughly several times and I totally believe in it. It works for me and it will work for many others too although I accept that some won't necessarily agree. I was however a pretty hopeless case, drinking more and more with no chance of stopping. Now I have gone for 43 days with no current desire to touch another drop. Of course I have to be on my guard all of the time, but I don't want to go back to where I was. How are you getting on now ?

[Audrey14]

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Morning Nesters!!!

I slept very badly last night because my BF snorrs very loud:upset:
Finally he went to sleep to another room and i get some hours..than kid woke up at 7 a.m.
Feel like a zombie...but without hungover..

FreeFly - congrats on your 6 days and thanks.
Yes, bedroom is my favorite place here I like to spend a lot of time here - reading, writing, talking on skype, eating..


Unwasted - i agree with you that boyfriend-alcocholic isn' t the easy situation to deal with when you want to recover from AL..he loves me and he cars about me and he doesn' t push me to drink..the problem is that he doesn' t really want to quit AL..the actuall plan was that we support each other in recovery..with his mind he wants but he' s addicted too..maybe if the partner is non-alcocholic, he/she doesn' t completaly understand your problem but he/she can support you better with clear mind..
At the moment i just have to admit what the situation is for me (i can' t change other person, only influence) and find the better ways to survive..

Lavande - i already wrote about my situation..yes, it' s not very good for recovery but i found one thing which actually helps me (maybe i'm selfish...) - when i see my BF drunk i feel relief that i'm sober and i wouldn' t like to see myself like this..probably it could be good idea that some sober person makes video of you when you' re very drunk and shows you..i don' t think so it will be pleasant..
And, yes, i talked to my daughter and i told her about yestarday...and she' s a huge motivation for me...

Australia - glad that you' re doing well..actually "aussie friends" helped me yestarday!!! When i posted yestarday in newbies i understood that i need help ASAP but Europe was sleeping, USA - another time zone, so i posted in Australian thread and got imediate answer from senior member!!! It was so helpful!!!!
I was sitting in bedroom, posting, looking at clock and slowly getting calm...
THANKS AUSSIE GUYS!!!!!

[Ruinator]

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I made it through the night. My sleeping schedule is so messed up. I'm up for 12 hours and sleep for 12 hours each night. I wake up and within 30 minutes am so bored I'd rather just go back to sleep. I haven't really focused on eating better since with no job I can't go out and buy my own food. I have a gym membership but just have no motivation to go. I think about how I need to stay active and do things but when I think about going to the gym I just get pissed off and make excuses up. I haven't tried the L-Glutamine chewables yet. I might go to GNC and try them out when I run out of the capsules I have now.

Thanks,
Ruin

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters!

Reading great reports from folks here today

SL - knew you could manage, good for you!

Audrey, hope you are hanging in there.

Ruin, good for you as well. I really wish you could get outside for some exercise, frsh air & sunshine to help improve your mood

FlyAway, drunk people in a casino - yuck
Glad that will never be me!!!!!

Wishing everyone a safe night in the Nest.
Lav

[Herbie]

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just popping in to say night.. my day was a bit better, not as depressed but I have a bit of anxiety ... all business related ... I have chewed up a few calms forte tonight... Not much happened around here today, couple of neighbors popped in and went to the feed store in town.

Hoping for a better day tomorrow, the weather is suppose to be better and that always helps... plus I can't wait for the days to start getting longer again.. it is so dark by 5:30 it makes me feel like its 10pm and I should be in bed.

Going to go put more wood on the fire and call it a night

Sleep well my fellow nesters

[windy]

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Hi Nesters,

Everyone seems to becoming so strong and there is a lot of determination I see here. I know too that this site and the energy generated here has been the key to my success and I can not believe it has FINALLY happened to me. I am getting over the worst part of giving up alcohol and feeling like a free person. I really want to encourage all of you to never give up...It is really fun coming out the other end and the rewards are worth every bit of the hard work you put in to it. Trust me.

Last night was the big dinner I have been dreading since ....well...forever. I truly felt it would be best not to go, but I felt I had to for many reasons other than obligation. One of the biggest reasons, was I needed to do this thing sober and remain sober and to be tested in a social setting. I was surprised how easy it was for me once I got over the initial anxiety. It was the first time it was truly easy after 80 + days of no booze. I really didn't think I could do it and it was out of my control to do it. Like when you want something so bad you might every pray for it .... and then don't get it. I really want to be sober and was convinced someone was going to take it away from me. I had to convince myself I DID have the control to own this. I feel liberated. FINALLY. I can do this forever if I (me, myself and I) want to. And believe me I do.

I want to say, it does get easier and I guess that was the surprise for me. As if it was (again) different for me. I thought I would white-knuckle this thing and quite frankly, I didn't have to. NO BOOZE BRAIN....I am flabbergasted. OH BYRDIE....I hear you now. Someone asked me what meds I was taking because I wasn't drinking. I just said "I started a 100-day abstinence goal and was too close to give in". It worked. Hardly anyone was drinking that much and I think the host has a lot of booze left. I wonder if they were counting on me to take care of that. That was my test and now with practice makes perfect. I can do anything I want.... and so can you...fellow nesters. You have the control, but you have to be in the game 100%.

And one more thing...I went to bed at midnight and I am up bright and early at 5:30 a.m. feeling like a new person...I am literally amazed I don't have a hangover...


Have a marvelous day/evening.

[FreeFly]

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Beautiful post Windy - thank you. You're an inspiration :h

Oh, and well flippin done! :goodjob:

[cellist_by_night]

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Newbie nest's newest recruit

Hi everyone,

:new:

I'm just making myself comfy in the newbie nest. I've read a few posts and find them truly inspirational. Thank you. Day one for me...here goes....!

xx

[windy]

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:welcome:Welcome Cellist by Night -- HERE GOES...That's for sure...You are in for a great ride..so strap yourself in and get comfy...
We are glad you are joining us. Get Day One over and see just how marevlous AFness can be.

FreeFly -- I am following your journey and wishing you much success for the Holidays. You can do this!!

Okay .... I have to ask...Where is Blonde??? I miss her happy spirit and I KNOW...it's only been a few days...but still we do get used to certain things around here.

[FreeFly]

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windy;1228620 wrote:
FreeFly -- I am following your journey and wishing you much success for the Holidays. You can do this!!

Means a lot Windy - thanks for the faith :h

Off now for xmas roastie with friends and feeling excited about NOT drinking. Cool

Have a great day all

[Lavande]

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Good morning Nesters!

Hangover free mornings really rock windy :H
Congrats to you for passing your big test with flying colors!!!!

Hello & welcome cellist!
Glad you jumped into the nest for support. Have you read the MWO book yet? You can download it right from the Health store here

FreeFly, enjoy your holiday gathering & let us know how it went.

I have much on my to do list today so here I go!
Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Sunday!!!!!

Lav