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Welcome Satz , Binge and MWO and others. I am not as computer savvy as many here, nor as gifted at going back and forth without losing my posts! I just trudge forward and don't look back! And that's not so different as what you are about to do here. Satz, I looked back at your posts, you have been around a while. And Binge, I can't address binge drinking directly...unless you count every night drinking as much as you possibly can, and then I am there. So I will give you the nickel tour as to what it takes to be almost one year sober! That's all I have so far! When I came here that first time in early 2010, I thought I was at the end of my rope. Unfortunately, after a year of trying to tame this beast, I learned that the rope was a little longer. The year I spent trying to moderate was the year I absolutely drank myself nearly to death. Once you try to take AL away, and then you get some, it's like you drink JUST TO DRINK! It's crazy. I will tell you this, but you will have to find it out for yourself: It is MUCH easier to get AL totally out of your life than it is to try and live with it. The thought of giving up my crutch was impossible to fathum. I had never gone an evening without it let alone the rest of my life! But that night on January 19, 2011 I made a promise to myself...and by god I have kept it. My husband of 24 years had packed his things and the next conversation was going to be who gets what. All I had worked for about to be lost for the sake of a dam drink! That first day was hard! I'd been coming to this site for a year, and made half hearted attempts at stopping. I managed to get 12 days in twice...I hung my hat on that, saying to myself, If I can do that, then maybe I don't have such a problem after all! I came to this nest, and I latched onto the words of those people who were doing what I had to do. NOT DRINKING! I followed their words and their actions, and pretty soon, I had a week under my belt (drinking joke). Then I finally hit 13 days....that was big. We can talk about that later. But what you have to commit to, is that AL is bigger than you are, and you must get it out of your life. YOUR life, we aren't talking about anyone else in the house....we are talking about you. All you have to do is get thru that first awful night. Mind you, you will be thinking of AL 24 hours a day and will even dream of it. Do NOT let this lessen your resolve. You must get control of your mind. The mind chatter will drive you nuts. Do whatever you have to do to keep your mind busy. Listen to music too loud...bake some cookies, call a talkitive friend just get yourself thru the awful hours where you would have normally drank. Then by say, 8 that night...you are essentially thru it. Rinse and repeat! Day 2 is the same way...but day 3 is big...that's when AL is out of your bloodstream! You will now be operating on your own power!! But first things first, read on this thread all you can. If you need something to help you sleep go back and read all my posts!! Bahahah....You will learn much from these folks here who have walked in your shoes. Just remember, do not give in tonight no matter what and no matter who.....all you gotta do is get thru THIS day! You can do it. Byrdie
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All you gotta do, is get thru this day. AF 1/20/2011
Welcome Satz , Binge and MWO and others. I am not as computer savvy as many here, nor as gifted at going back and forth without losing my posts! I just trudge forward and don't look back! And that's not so different as what you are about to do here. Satz, I looked back at your posts, you have been around a while. And Binge, I can't address binge drinking directly...unless you count every night drinking as much as you possibly can, and then I am there. So I will give you the nickel tour as to what it takes to be almost one year sober! That's all I have so far! When I came here that first time in early 2010, I thought I was at the end of my rope. Unfortunately, after a year of trying to tame this beast, I learned that the rope was a little longer. The year I spent trying to moderate was the year I absolutely drank myself nearly to death. Once you try to take AL away, and then you get some, it's like you drink JUST TO DRINK! It's crazy. I will tell you this, but you will have to find it out for yourself: It is MUCH easier to get AL totally out of your life than it is to try and live with it. The thought of giving up my crutch was impossible to fathum. I had never gone an evening without it let alone the rest of my life! But that night on January 19, 2011 I made a promise to myself...and by god I have kept it. My husband of 24 years had packed his things and the next conversation was going to be who gets what. All I had worked for about to be lost for the sake of a dam drink! That first day was hard! I'd been coming to this site for a year, and made half hearted attempts at stopping. I managed to get 12 days in twice...I hung my hat on that, saying to myself, If I can do that, then maybe I don't have such a problem after all! I came to this nest, and I latched onto the words of those people who were doing what I had to do. NOT DRINKING! I followed their words and their actions, and pretty soon, I had a week under my belt (drinking joke). Then I finally hit 13 days....that was big. We can talk about that later. But what you have to commit to, is that AL is bigger than you are, and you must get it out of your life. YOUR life, we aren't talking about anyone else in the house....we are talking about you. All you have to do is get thru that first awful night. Mind you, you will be thinking of AL 24 hours a day and will even dream of it. Do NOT let this lessen your resolve. You must get control of your mind. The mind chatter will drive you nuts. Do whatever you have to do to keep your mind busy. Listen to music too loud...bake some cookies, call a talkitive friend just get yourself thru the awful hours where you would have normally drank. Then by say, 8 that night...you are essentially thru it. Rinse and repeat! Day 2 is the same way...but day 3 is big...that's when AL is out of your bloodstream! You will now be operating on your own power!! But first things first, read on this thread all you can. If you need something to help you sleep go back and read all my posts!! Bahahah....You will learn much from these folks here who have walked in your shoes. Just remember, do not give in tonight no matter what and no matter who.....all you gotta do is get thru THIS day! You can do it. Byrdie
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All you gotta do, is get thru this day. AF 1/20/2011
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