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[lolab]

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Hello satz. If you're trying to be alcohol free, then I'd use last night not as a a semi-victory - but as a learning experience. Look back to see what made you choose to drink, and make a plan that deals with that for the future.

I just looked at the other thread, and I think others just weren't online when you were posting - you got some decent responses now...:-) But really - the nest is a really nice place...and not somewhere to be banished to...(wink).

Today, I'm glad first to read your description of what happened...Lav has gotten into your brain...:-) that you "chose" to drink....and I'm encouraged by your description....and that you poured it out and came back right away AND that it was not the experience you thought it would be.

I think you're going to be fine - BUT - even though there are some others who have done the same thing and come right back and been fine, I do think you should be extra cautious. There's something about opening that door that makes it difficult - but not impossible - to slam it shut again. Those feelings of wanting to drink might be stronger in the next few days - as alcohol does its damndest to try to weasel back into your life. We're all hanging onto you tight, friend!!!

Everybody have a great Sunday. Nursie, I hope you're doing ok...

[Nursie]

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I'm good, everyone thanks for all the responses. And steady, you hit the nail on the head. I am the one everyone comes to.
My mom apparently relapsed badly yesterday and called me and had read me the riot act about how easy it must be for me not to drink. How easy it must be to turn my back on her. She said hurtful things as usual.
I am far from drinking, I can assure everyone of that. This miserable sequence of destruction is unacceptable. I see no use for it any more.

I just saw two people who had sober time relapse (my mom and my friend) and what did it get them?Pain and embarrassment. How did it make me feel? Disgusted. Because that's how I will be if I drink.

I am not only not drinking, but I am setting some healthy boundaries. I can't save the freaking world and still stay sane. And I'm certain nobody expects me to, it's my own self expectations.

Relaxing today.

[Starfish1]

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Good morning!

Love to all my friends this Sunday morning :h
Hey steady- I cannot believe your post about having to claim some emotional space for yourself .,. Dh and were just having that same comcersatiOn. It is so draining to always have to be the peacemaker and feel the pain of the underdog in the family . I have one daughter who is the black sheep and no one else seems to care how rudely they treat her. It is heartbreaking to me and I tire of all the drama. I too have always put myself last but In this point in my recovery I need some help in supporting her.
Wow Jane- sober on las Vegas. You are hitting the jackpot!
Today- sorry that beast snuck up on you but thanks for that great post. That is helpful advice for all of us
Nursie- hope your day and your week are much better - you deserve better than all that. You are doing so well!
HI aus, ff, Lolab, uw, Stella, aw, Byrdie, cg, bull, K9. Chill , lifechange and all!
Happy and sober Sunday

[Jolie]

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Morning all,

Jane - sounds like you are doing great in Vegas! Good for you - I'm sure you see lots and lots of drinking there (sorry - don't know if you were going to the casinos or exactly what you had planned).

Nursie - Sending you a big :l I know lots of times stressful situations used to lead me to drinking but looks like you are handling it all wonderfully. Hope you can just take it easy today and remember your Mom was saying these things because alcohol is back in her system - we all know what that will do to our mouths at times.

Belle - a native Marylander? Wonderful. Looks like you may be getting the snow but I think it will miss Lav and I - not too disappointed about that.

What's everyone have planned for today?

I came home from church, made a pot of chicken noodle soup and now make a german chocolate cake.

Hubby and I watched the movie "Courageous" last night - excellent movie - would recommend it to anyone.

Hope everyone has a super sober Sunday!

[Byrdlady]

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Morning! Jane, please give my best regards to the $200 worth of nickels I lost in Las Vegas some years ago. Tell them I miss them very much, and I am sorry that it turned out like it did. I was planning to come back out and get them...and their friends, too...but it just hasn't worked out yet. Sniff, sniff...Jane, you sound great!
Lolab once started a thread that dealt with how folks felt after they caved and drank after a period of AF time. It was very interesting...NOT ONE person said they were glad they did it. In fact, it was more a 'wall of shame' full of Guilt/Shame/Remorse (the GSR brothers, I call them). If you are considering drinking, take it from those who worked so hard to string along AF days, and then succumbed...it is NOT worth it! I did it many times... it was never worth it.
Today, I'm so glad you came back, and feel the same way. It'll be worth writing that post number down in your journal somewhere...and next time the thought comes to mind, you can use your very own words to stay strong. I did that and it helped me MANY times until it finally stuck. I'm so glad you are getting back to business. It only takes a few good AF days to get your mojo back. Strength to us all today....Byrdie

[BelleGirl]

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Happy Sober Sunday, everyone!

Jolie, not a flake of snow here in my part of VA, so I'm not disappointed either. I spent a number of years living up north, where it snows for months on end...I am very happy to be back in this area.

Today, I can second what Lola said about the next couple of days. Once you slip, it is easy to say "what the heck, I already messed up, so why not put off Day 1 for a couple more days". That can lead to more G/S/R and more drinking, and...rinse and repeat. Good job coming back to the nest and fessing up so quickly. Stay close to the nest for sure!

Jane...hope you are having a wonderful AF time in Vegas. Seen any great shows? Kudos to you for staying true to your AF self while on vacay.

Nursie, you have your hands full, but are an example of strength!

[lifechange]

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just a short one to say goodnight!
had a wonderful time ice skating with the girls this afternoon--and am now baking cookies and finishing costumes for the (our) beginning of carnival tomorrow at the school.
would NOT have been able to do any of this 2 weeks ago. thankful, yes i am!!
a good evening to you all.!!

[lolab]

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Here's the thread byrdie's talking about. My ears were ringing! :-)

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...ate-53575.html

[Today]

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As usual, Nest support to the rescue! Thanks for kind words and encouragement, and interesting links. So many ideas floating around here, sometimes you need to know what thread to pull. I think that goes for knowing what triggers are more sensitive than others. I am proud I made it through some difficult days regarding work stresses and that I managed 33 days AF. Now I can re-start more vigilant and resolved.

Byrd, Belle; GSR is a great acronym! I will definitely keep that in mind, especially in the next few days.

Nursie, your resolve is absolutely inspiring, hope things settle down with the people around you and you can have some calm around you instead of all the storm..

How is JIV? Must be a good time of year to be there, not too hot so you don't crave the frozen margaritas available on every corner! Your strength too for an AF vacation is very inspirational!

Canadian Girl, how are you? Let's do this together and get those AF days under our belt

[Lavande]

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Hey Nesters,

Good day in Lav-land
Just sitting here watching my 10 month old grandson crawl around with the lid to something in his mouth - like a doggie

Glad everyone is feeling strong, stay safe in the nest overnight!
No snow = :yay:

Lav

[canadian gal]

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Hey Nesters!

How was everyone's weekends?? Mine was super busy and exhausting, so I had no energy to post, but I was reading. Weekends are my busiest days for work. I actually slept for 9 hours last night!!! (I'm usually a 7 hour a night gal). I have to renew my visa tomorrow so that I can stay in Beijing for another year AND I am completely organized and have all my things ready! That would not have happened had I been drinking. So am very pleased with myself! Today is day 5 for me and feeling great!

Jane- I so admire your strength for being in Vegas sober. You rock! Enjoy those brownies and have a bite for me!

Nursie- Glad that you are feeling a bit better. Life sucks sometimes. But I admire your strength and determination not to drink!

Today- Even though you drank, I admire the fact that you were able to pour the rest down the drain and come right back here the next day! That shows real determination. I know you will get right back on track. I'm happy you learned from it and found out some more triggers :-)

I have to go to work now and wont get home till 10 pm tonight, so probably wont have time to post. To all my other nesters, I hope you had a great weekend!

[shueaddict]

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A week ago I posted here, feeling depressed and paranoid from AL.

I have managed the whole week AF and dedicated more time to educating myself about AL, practicing urge surfing and reading posts like crazy . Thank you all for being here and so honest.

Star ? well done on 30 days:goodjob:

Today ? thank you so much for sharing that and for being able to get back so fast from the dark place.

Arrghh ? lost the post again ? and my first meeting starting in 5 minutes

Will just have to say have a great week, all, stay strong !
:h:h:thanks:

[shueaddict]

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Lola B ? did not forget to post about the ?sleepy tea? ? just that the ingredients were listed in Hungarian (very strange language) ?here?s the magic formula:

- lavender, chamomile, coriander , cardamom and lemon balm (better tasting than just lavender & chamomile)

Sweet dreams !

[lolab]

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ahhhh...shueaddict, you had me at cardamom.....:-)

[Nursie]

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Good Morning from my neck of the woods,

Today, your strength to say "I don't think in going down this road again" in mid drink is of hurculean strength. Standing ovation.

And Las Vegas sober? My Gawd woman! I need to go check out your thread. Remember that movie with Nicholas Cage; Leaving Las Vegas? By the way his son has been in rehab recently.

I digress... Shue, you are back and in Rock Star form. How was the meeting?

I slept for 14 hours last night. I thought I was lying down for a rest and slept the night through. Today I feel like it's time to clean clean.