Newbies Nest
Running...you always rise to the occasion!!! Stumpy's hair was a staple around here we are going to miss it. Did it die?
Alcoholic...I've been thinking about you. I see a couple of red flags, if you will indulge me...#1, your self appointed name. #2, You are drinking at work and you are in the medical field #3, you've only been at it since Monday! I checked the roll call list and I didn't see your total AF days....but you are telling us that you are trying to avoid AL yet you are still having 2 glasses per day. I don't know where you are in your journey but when you first came in, you were shaky and scared, like all of us. The primary goal of this place...is to try and help you get 30 days AF. That's the premise of this site...you will hear and see MANY differences of opinion as to what happens after that, but that's for another day....the first goal is for you to get those 30 days in.
Make NO mistake...every single one of us LOVED AL! We couldn't bear the thought of giving it up for one night let alone a lifetime! So give your AF self a chance....if you sail thru the 30 days with just mild thoughts of AL and are doing fine and the days pass quickly...by golly maybe you ARE one of the lucky ones! But if you find yourself pacing the floors and looking at your watch and having obsessive thoughts from the time you get up til the time you mercifully go to sleep, well....pull up a twig...you might be one of us.
When we are trying to let go of AL, it is just like breaking off a relationship...no different. There are stages of grief: Anger, Denial, Bargaining, Depression and finally, Acceptance. When you came here, like all of us...you were angry! 'Something's got to be done....I've HAD it with this life!' Then you move into the next phase...Maybe my problem wasn't so bad after all! Other people drink more than I do! If I can go a day without AL what's all the fuss, that proves I can DO it....' Then the bargaining...."if I can just have ONE drink" If I can make myself stick to just 2 glasses per night, I'll be ok" If I can just drink for social occasions I will be ok". Does any of this sound famililiar so far?? I know you are having mind chatter....but you searched out a sight for people who have serious AL problems, you chose a name that supports that...so what am I missing? It really IS more of a black and white issue than you'd think....either you are drinking, or you are not. Did you ever know someone with a heroin addiction that was 'just cutting down'? This is a progressive disease...I bet if you take a hard look in the mirror ....can you say you were as bad as you are now last year at this time? Change is hard, gosh knows...we ALL know that, but wouldn't you agree that you came here to get help? What is it you are trying to achieve? We will be here every step of the way....we are serious about quitting...but we can't help you be a better drinker....we CAN help you become a NON Drinker!
Nobody tried harder to make it work than I did....I never drank harder than the year I tried to moderate. We are here for the asking!!! Byrdie
Running...you always rise to the occasion!!! Stumpy's hair was a staple around here we are going to miss it. Did it die?
Alcoholic...I've been thinking about you. I see a couple of red flags, if you will indulge me...#1, your self appointed name. #2, You are drinking at work and you are in the medical field #3, you've only been at it since Monday! I checked the roll call list and I didn't see your total AF days....but you are telling us that you are trying to avoid AL yet you are still having 2 glasses per day. I don't know where you are in your journey but when you first came in, you were shaky and scared, like all of us. The primary goal of this place...is to try and help you get 30 days AF. That's the premise of this site...you will hear and see MANY differences of opinion as to what happens after that, but that's for another day....the first goal is for you to get those 30 days in.
Make NO mistake...every single one of us LOVED AL! We couldn't bear the thought of giving it up for one night let alone a lifetime! So give your AF self a chance....if you sail thru the 30 days with just mild thoughts of AL and are doing fine and the days pass quickly...by golly maybe you ARE one of the lucky ones! But if you find yourself pacing the floors and looking at your watch and having obsessive thoughts from the time you get up til the time you mercifully go to sleep, well....pull up a twig...you might be one of us.
When we are trying to let go of AL, it is just like breaking off a relationship...no different. There are stages of grief: Anger, Denial, Bargaining, Depression and finally, Acceptance. When you came here, like all of us...you were angry! 'Something's got to be done....I've HAD it with this life!' Then you move into the next phase...Maybe my problem wasn't so bad after all! Other people drink more than I do! If I can go a day without AL what's all the fuss, that proves I can DO it....' Then the bargaining...."if I can just have ONE drink" If I can make myself stick to just 2 glasses per night, I'll be ok" If I can just drink for social occasions I will be ok". Does any of this sound famililiar so far?? I know you are having mind chatter....but you searched out a sight for people who have serious AL problems, you chose a name that supports that...so what am I missing? It really IS more of a black and white issue than you'd think....either you are drinking, or you are not. Did you ever know someone with a heroin addiction that was 'just cutting down'? This is a progressive disease...I bet if you take a hard look in the mirror ....can you say you were as bad as you are now last year at this time? Change is hard, gosh knows...we ALL know that, but wouldn't you agree that you came here to get help? What is it you are trying to achieve? We will be here every step of the way....we are serious about quitting...but we can't help you be a better drinker....we CAN help you become a NON Drinker!
Nobody tried harder to make it work than I did....I never drank harder than the year I tried to moderate. We are here for the asking!!! Byrdie
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