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[JackDanielsGirl]

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Morning all,

Day off from work so I can finally post again. Welcome to all the newbies and returning newbies.

In the wise words of a senior member "when you wake up, you will never wish you HAD drank the night before." These are words to live by.

All is well here not one drop of AL in almost 3 weeks, lots going on with the fam and work so I have been busy, busy, busy.

Keep strong my friends and stay the course.
love JDG

[Byrdlady]

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Morning, Nesters!
Great to see everyone! TJ, yes, I've seen folks slip and fall with cough syrup, so I have pre purchased stuff like that along with mouthwash so it doesn't happen by accident. Great job on spitting it out!
Misty, good to see you!
Abbie/Abby I can tell you that I've done things when drinking that make me cringe today....but you CAN rewrite the ending to the story. Changing your behavior going forward will make a lot of the past go away. Just like the euphoric recall we have about AL, we only remember the good things! Same with people, once you start demonstrating responsibility, you will earn their respect back.

My date down below would be a whole year longer if I had been able to get my act together....It is what it is, and I'm proud of my 2+ years....(but dang it, I wish it were 3+!!) It's a good thing they don't execute people who take longer to get to the finish line! What I found is that quitting completely was inevitable....it was just a matter of when I accepted that fact. Do yourself a favor, and get onboard sooner than later. It IS worth it, and you will save yourself a TREMENDOUS amount of grief! Trust me on that one.

Do whatever it takes to get thru this day AF. I don't care what ANYBODY says to derail you, get thru this day. If Oprah were offering you 10 million dollars to do it, I bet you'd find a way...same thing, only this is worth MORE than that, this is getting your life back....one day at a time.
Have a great Hump Day! Byrdie

[TJAF]

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C-Developer;1551836 wrote: Hey Guys,

After a long day of airports and cabs, made it to Vegas this afternoon. We are staying at a place called the Aria Resort and Casino. It is a pretty swank place, and about on par with the Bellagio.

I am not actually required to do anything until tomorrow, so I went and worked out at the health spa and got a hour long massage to calm my nerves. I just got back from dinner with about 9 other people, and managed to sip on my water with dinner without so much of a word from the rest of the people.

However, after tomorrow when the show kicks off, I have a feeling the pressure it going to be on me much more significantly than it was tonight, and if the various conversations I overheard tonight are even remotely true, it appears strip clubs, open bars, and generalized debautchery is the bill of fare.

I am feeling confident though, but I will still be looking forward to coming back home on Saturday. I just want to get this show done with my sobriety in tact.

Thanks for all the words of encouragement guys.

C

Well Done CD! You passed the first big hurdle in day one. If I can bore you with some additonal advice, while you are young and single whatever you do resist the temptation and the peer pressure to hit the strip clubs. First off they lure you in with the women but they make thier money on the overpriced booze. Between the girls and the cute bartender they will be hustling you to buy/join them in a drink. Not to mention your peers. Things get way out of controll when you mix all of those elements together. Secondly, as you pointed out, you are Mgt. The saying may be, "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" but believe me in this dog eat dog world you have rivals and they will be taking notes. You can handle the open bar bit. Just dont show up for the first half hour or so. Nobody will notice you're not drinking after that first half hour or so. Keep in touch and stay close to this thread. You have done incredibley well considering your self described isolation in a new town/job. Be very proud!

[K9Lover]

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Hi Nesties!

CD - I am thinking of you amongst all that debauchery. You sound strong though so I know you will be fine! Remember how good you'll feel in the morning as opposed to those struggling with dizziness, nausea and a headache! I took my daughter to Vegas almost 4 years ago, just the two of us. I had never seen the "family" side of Vegas before. I didn't smoke or drink on our 4 day trip. On my previous trips I never even realized the sun came out in Vegas. LOL I was amazed every night at being in bed watching TV by 9pm everynight, but then I thought "hey maybe this is what normal people do..." Anyway, I am rambling today...stay strong, you're doing this for YOU, not for anyone else's approval!

When all else fails, remember my favorite 2 sayings:
-A craving never lasts as long as a hangover; and
-You'll never wake up in the morning wishing you'd drank the night before

Stay strong everyone and Welcome to all the Newbies. Remember that you NEVER have to feel the shame and embarrasement brought on by drinking ever again...all you have to do is not pick up that first drink.

[Dottie Belle]

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Morning all,
Going to hang close to home today. Need some rest and to catch up on some things. I think some of this medical stuff is from the horribly stressful summer I had...my dad, selling all the stuff in the house, working on the house....husband medical stuff and doggie died...good grief..that is a lot for anyone....so I think my poor body said enough already and retaliated by going face down, literally. so there may be no underlying cause other than NOT drinking my stress away and finding a more healthy way to cope....or I am trying to make this too simple....who knows...
dottie

[mywayin]

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How long does it take...

Hello all. I've been lurking for the past few days as I am on day 3 AF. I wish you all well and I have a question for the experienced. I've been drinking up to a bottle of wine at evenings with dinner for many years. My hand are a bit shaky and I find that very embarrassing. How long does it take for the shakes to go away?
Thanks

[K9Lover]

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Welcome Myway!

I'm no doctor, and everyone is different, but typically it takes 3-4 days for the physical symptoms to disappear. If you are at all concerned, or having severe withdrawals, I suggest you go see a doctor, there is medication that can help. Good job on getting to day 3 AF...the worst should be almost over. Please let us know how you're doing so we can help!

K9

[Lavande]

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Hello & welcome Myway! Glad you decided to join us. Good job on making it to 3 AF days :wd:
Be sure you are drinking lots of water, tea, to stay hydrated. You should be feeling better very soon.

Dottie, I really believe that stress is involved in all dis-ease!
You may want to see this article:
How stress influences disease: Study reveals inflammation as the culprit
Hope you have a good day.

Hey there K9

[lifechange]

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hello Nesters!
I managed to come down with a terrible head cold, so though I've read all your posts, I will wait until tomorrow to write more. Stay strong everyone-- I'm feeling very positive here at the end of day 4.
good night..

[available]

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Good morning nesters

Good to see everyone has been AL free. Today I am feeling better albeit it tired. The dreams keep me awake bloody all night. Wish I could remember them as they are pretty intense but I know they will pass. Thursday is always a good drinking day for me, well everyday was, but work today is extremely busy so my plan is to go to the shops before work and get what i want so no stopping at the shops on the way home. I like my little plan so i am AF for another day.

Have a great day/night everyone and well done CD on being strong, what you are doing would test the will and strength of any alky, keep going.

[halo]

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[QUOTE=NoSugar;1551831]. We are so lucky to have this site and support for quick corrections. Mistakes don't have to lead to disasters.

/QUOTE]

Thanks No Sugar for your sound words, I didn't fall into a disaster, but am more determined not to make any more mistakes that may lead to that path. AL is everywhere, at every gathering/event and celebration. Having the MWO as a community where an AF life is the norm is a comforting place to be. Joining the Sober September thread for some additional positive reinforcement :l

[trinity8753]

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Stupid! stupid! stupid! day two and drunk,,,,,:upset: i thought i could moderate.. I realise i cant. I'll never be a "normal" drinker. We went out for tea and had two beers with the little one. On the way home we went to the shop... my bad thoughts kicked in.. he bought two beers and i got six ( any excuse its my day off) failure....... fighting it agin tomorrow

[Lizann]

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Mywayin
From personal experience it takes about three to five days. My doctor gave me medication to help. Hand in there it's so worth it!

[K9Lover]

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Trinity -
You should call it a day, get some sleep, and start over tomorrow. All you can do is keep trying. None of us got it on our first (or maybe even 100th) try. Don't beat yourself up, just start over tomorrow. At least you realize you cannot drink "normally" (whatever that is...it's NOT normal to drink poison). Have a good sleep and come back to us as soon as you can!
K9

[trinity8753]

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Ok, please i want to get it all out so here goes..... I drink every night, i work shifts so when i work nights I'll drink in the morning, i'll think nothing of polishing off half a bottle of rum at 7am til 10am then staggering off to bed because i tell myself its exactly the same as drinking after a day shift and going to the pub after work....The other day i watched disneys Robin Hood with my two year old son at 9am and drank half a bottle of rum whilst i did it. I'm disgusting. i realise now i need more help than i thought i did. My behaciour is not right. truth is im drinking now... and truth is ive got my ten men head on and i think i'm invincible... i feel aggressive, i want to fight and i'm angry. this is not me at all. I shout, i swear. The piece of me that does not like this person has found my way here. i have realised I cannot moderate. But why is it that people react so badly when you tell them you will be going out on whatever occassion but will not be drinking? my friend had a massive hissy fit almost! what do i do say "oh yeah go on then i'll drink but the chances are i'll punch someone in the face and become a total nightmare?" Rum is my bad so i thoughjt i could just have a few beers tonight.. i was wrong but i'm still not writing tomorrow off. I need help, i shake, sweat and get the worst stomach upsets. Ive had days when i can hardly get of the loo with the withdrawals:argh: