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[3June2013]

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Moss as long as there's no AL in the house, right?

[MossRose]

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3J - I am just not sure I care right now. I had something happen tonight that is beyond my comprehension. I just didn't realize that someone could be that evil. Will I drink? I don't know. I'm on a ledge right now. But thanks for reaching out.

[Byrdlady]

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Welcome BV and P!! First step is the hardest so you are on your way!

Moss. Remember I used to drink AT people and eat AT people and all I became was a fat drunk. The folks I tried to get back at by drinking were fine
and I was the one who suffered! Please do whatever it takes to protect your quit. Tomorrow you will be so glad you did! You've read the stories here 100 times, starting over sucks. Keeping it going IS easier than that. Eat something. Thinking of you. Byrdie

[Byrdlady]

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Moss. Getting wasted isn't going to make that person less evil. Instead it will give them MORE power. Don't blow your hard work on an asshole. Stay strong no matter what and no matter who. B

[Dottie Belle]

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Moss hang on it is NOT worth it...I have done the same thing and the person feel/suffers nothing...take care of yourself first.

[MossRose]

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Byrdie, thank you so much. You are right. He isn't worth it. I am not going to drink AT him That would be a total feather in his cap. Screw that.

[Samstone]

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Well done Mossey. Thinking of you, friend

[MossRose]

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Thanks Sam. It's friend's like you that keep me strong.

[MossRose]

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Dottie - just saw your post.. Thank you.

[MossRose]

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It's too early to go to bed, but I think that may be the safest thing to do. I'll read, while I'm crying, because i just can't believe that someone could be so mean. He obviously wants to hurt me very badly. And he did. So, tomorrow is another day, right? Love you all. xx

[I'm Strong and in Control]

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MossRose;1579984 wrote: It's too early to go to bed, but I think that may be the safest thing to do. I'll read, while I'm crying, because i just can't believe that someone could be so mean. He obviously wants to hurt me very badly. And he did. So, tomorrow is another day, right? Love you all. xx

Moss - when I'm that upset all I can do is go over it in my mind. Got any bubble bath? Climb in a hot tub with a cup of tea and something aromatic. If you've got candles, light 'em. Take deep breaths and try to let it go. If it is something he said - is it true? Is there a way that you expected him to behave or wanted him to act? What did you want from him? These are the questions I ask myself when I'm upset with someone else. Hope it helps.

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Hello & welcome to Pavoti & welcome back BV!
The nest is a safe place to settle in, get your plans made & find support!

MR, I am very sorry that someone has hurt you but please don't look for reasons to drink. There are no reasons really, no excuses. I have to tell you that I drank AT my husband for years, he was insensitive & just plain unavailable. Then I found out 5 years ago that I was about to become a grandmother & suddenly I had a reason to get myself together. A little over a year after I became AF, when I was finally happy for the first time in years my husband walked out on me & our 37 year marriage. Did I drink over it? No way! I was & still am determined to never let him or anyone else drag me into that AL fueled miserableness ever again.
Whatever is going on in your life, you can handle it better & be stronger without drinking

Wishing everyone a safe night in the nest! It's cold tonight but the fire in the fireplace is toasty.

Lav

[Cat Belle]

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Lavande - what you just said really hit home. I have never thought of it that way, but I have drank AT people AND situations for years. It's weird to realize that. What an absolute fool I was, especially since I have found that I handle stress much better sober, and laugh now at the absolute idiocy of some people. This little tidbit of self discovery has put a grin on my face....

Onward and upward my nest friends! Tomorrow is the beginning of a wonderful new week! Y'all hang tight here.

[Myluck]

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Nesters, I hope you all are having good night! Moss - be strong! I know you can do it! I am looking forward my 3 rd week starting tomorrow of being AF. Feeling great.

[I'm Strong and in Control]

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My 4th week starts tomorrow and I'm in the 7-day stretch. Sitting here with a glass of pretend red wine. All the alcohol has been removed - it's called "Fre". Doesn't taste anything like wine, but I can't find anything other than coffee and green tea that I like to drink. I thought I'd like to have a bottle on hand for when we have company - I could look like I'm drinking and not have to make up lies or excuses.

About 15 years ago, I weighed nearly 300 pounds. Not sure why I'm talking about this. It was before I met hubby - he never saw my REALLY fat pictures. These last few weeks, I've been eating like the "old days". Nothing off limits and constantly. I dropped him off at the airport tonight and my screaming little mind knew where all the comfort fast food was - Portillo's, KFC, White Castle, Gyros, Dunkin Donut, etc. etc. It was like driving a car load of toddlers - and I was alone! (I did buy a chocolate bar at the checkout in the hobby store). It was exactly like my brain before I told myself I wasn't drinking and meant it. Constant chatter about getting something to stuff into my face. I need to exercise the same self control over my food cravings too. Probably the same switch to get myself out of bed in the morning and do some exercise. Anyway, I'm sitting here with my fake wine - thinking that it's not good to be drinking alone. Going to watch some TV. Hope you all have a good night.