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[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

I really appreciate TT starting a birthday party thread for me but she lives in a time zone half a day ahead of me - sort of prolongs the torture of turning 60 :H :H
Don't get me wrong, I am grateful to be alive & well, sober as a judge, enjoying grandkids & all my friends here
I'm going to throw myself a big ass party here in March for my 5 year anniversary - you're all invited to that as well!!!!

Wishing everyone a safe & cozy night in the nest - stay warm.

Lav

[Myluck]

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Hi all. Some bad news here - DH slipped again tonight - I came from shopping after work and he smelled like vodka. We spoke and he said he realized he needs help and asked me to help him. It was while he is still intoxicated. We will talk tomorrow, I am sure. The smell of vodka makes me sick!!! Oh my god. I am so sad, but I think it is a big step that he is no longer in denial. I am thinking now how can I help - my work covers counseling. Shall I start with that? Just family counseling and once we talk about AL abuse may we will be referred to a specialist in that area??? I was thinking to see if he is open to take pills that will make him sick if he drinks. I don't know anything about those and who can write prescription for it? Is it a primary care doctor? I really want to help him. On the other hand I am very happy today - our daughter was accepted in the University of her choice - we got letter today. Just sad this happiness is tainted with this AL crap!!!

[Icanwithoutacan]

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Hey all. Winding down day 4. Had a terrible tension headache today and grouchy. Not so much urge to drink as the idea I might want to drink again tossed around a little more than past three days. Oh well. Samstone I really needed your post . Thanks

[little beagle]

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Hey I can, hope you feel better tomorrow.
Sam that really was wonderful. It put a big smile on my face.
Humble you are sounding so strong.
We had a picture perfect day here in south Louisiana. I am sorry to brag, but I love these southern winters. I took the doggies for a walk this afternoon and enjoyed it.
Have a great one all.

[3June2013]

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Myluck it sounds like hubby is starting to recognize he needs help, and that he has a problem. This is cause for celebration! I'm sure you know he has to want to stop drinking before he can actually do it.

Wanting to stop is key. I remember driving home from work thinking I'm not going to drink tonight. Then going to the liquor cupboard (which no longer exists BTW) and pouring the first of 5-6 drinks in a sort of trancelike state. Before I knew it I was three drinks into it.

One day I just realized that I was no longer in control. And with the help of everyone here I took back that control.

I hope you're able to get hubby to counselling. That's a great second step!

[Pavati]

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3June2013;1600574 wrote:

One day I just realized that I was no longer in control. And with the help of everyone here I took back that control.

3J - that is the thing that I have to remember and keep coming back to. I am taking back my control. Sometimes it feels like I am giving up my control - I am giving up my "right" to drink when I want. But Sunbeam made a post that has resonated with me - I have control as long as I choose not to drink. The minute I choose to drink, I give my control back to alcohol. I'm too stubborn for that.

Sam, thanks for your inspirational words. I needed them today. I had a work white elephant gift exchange and I would say 1/3 of the gifts were bottles of something or other. I did not want to drink at the party, but I got frustrated that I would never "enjoy" a beer with those folks again. But that is the OLD me thinking - the new me knows that it is a myth that I can pick and choose when I drink and how much I drink - AL was making those choices at the end. So I breathed, stayed strong and came here to post as soon as I could. I could be drinking to forget the bad day, but then tomorrow would be worse, and I'd still have to deal with the stuff from the bad day. Who needs that?

Ok, wise ones. I'm settling in between you, butt velcro firmly attached. Safe and sound. Good night to day 17.

[STEADFAST]

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MAE Nesters!

First,i want to wish Lavande Many Happy Returns on your birthday! My wishes might be premature too, since i'm in Australia, but i may not get onto MWO tomorrow (Friday.) So Happy Birthday Lavande! And thankyou for your posts here, very much appreciated.

It's impossible not to see people drinking and celebrating at this time of year, but i have no desire to partake myself. Sure, i wanna hang out with friends and loved ones, but a few days of drinking would set me back six months or more. It's simply NOT WORTH IT. I'll catch up with people, and remember it all!

Gone are the days of forgetting what happened the night before. Gone are the bumps and bruises. Gone is the embarassment. Gone are the hangovers, the multiple bank withdrawals, the insanity of the alcoholic cycle.

Hooray for today! Let's enjoy it AF guys!

love Steady

[Lavande]

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Good morning Nesters,

It's Thursday, the feast day of Lav's 60th birthday :H :H

I like your list of 'positives' Steady
We lose nothing & gain so much when we kick AL to the curb!

Wishing everyone a terrific AF Thursday!

Lav

[HumbleRider]

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Byrdlady;1600498 wrote: :H:H:H

I was just saying over on her birthday thread, leave it to a bunch of alkies to start the party early!!! Bah! XO.

Haha, so true and funny! Happy many years sober birthday Lavande. I aspire to be like you n my 60th (only 2 years away).

Lucky, sorry about your dh's slip. My husband is also a former drinker, and we've both done that in the past. What's good for you is that he seems ready to do something about it and you seem capable to help. Congrats on your daughter's acceptance.

LB, I feel strong, but yesterday I got that agitated what to do next bored feeling. Fortunately, I did not feel a strong desire to drink as I would have, but it's that same feeling that would lead me to drink in the past. It's rough to get through, drink or no.

Pav, I too am stubborn, and I like the way you use that to your benefit when it comes to not picking up that drink!

Steadfast, thanks for the reminder about the bumps and bruises being gone. Especially after my son died, I can't count the times I woke up with huge bruises and vague recollections on how they got there. I even walked into a door in the middle of the night and had to go to work with a fricking black eye.

Everyone, thanks for being here as support for each other. It really helps. Day 46, no headache this morning.

[Overit44]

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Here!

Everyone sounds so strong. Keep up the good fight!

LAV-Happy Birthday.

[K9Lover]

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Is it time? Is it time? Is it time????

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LAV!!!!

Hey at least I was ahead of schedule yesterday instead of behind as usual! :H

Myluck - So sorry about DH. The pills that make you sick when you drink are called Antabuse. I take them and my doctor prescribes them. They truly do work. Can you look into getting a prescription? Congrats to your daughter, you must be so proud!!

[Overit44]

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Myluck-I also take antabuse. No way I could do it without it. But, HE CANNOT drink while on this drug. It will make you deathly ill. Some people have even reported reactions with foods such as vinegars or cleaning products that contain alcohol. I know that myself and K9 have had no reactions such as those. Good luck.

[Mr Vervill]

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MAE Nesters,
Jumped out of the nest for a bit, sitting on a tiny twig. Must have gotten too big for my britches, and the twig snapped. After completing 2 weeks, walking with my wife, who by the way has given up AL in support, along the avenue in our little burg. It was christmas on the ave, and the wine shop was having a "tasting". Damned If we didn't talk ourselves into the shop. That went fine, but the next night at the neighbor's Christmas party....
Sure enough, woke up Saturday morning with the GSR brothers having a big ole party in my head.
Then on the road for a few days for work.

Back home with a day off, Back to Day 1.
Today I am not drinking.

Hey Arctic, loved the post, need to heed the advice.

Good to see you back too, ICan.

Happy Birthday Lav.
I will say that my wife said she has noticed a big difference in me over the two weeks I had stopped. She said she felt she got back the man she married. So, I got that going for me.
Stay strong everyone

[available]

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MAE one and all

Just a quick check in to say day 20 for me and for the first time in years i woke up and looked in the mirror and smiled at the thought of being af. God before being af, i could not look at myself in the mirror, it was hard enough to get in the shower and face the day. The need and want for al is slowly abating but its still there. Yesterday after another talk with my arsehole office manager I thought fleetingly about a drink, messaged my daughter and she said "no mum". that was all i needed, so iced tea it was. I cant wait for xmas and my juicer.

My main decision to give up al after many attempts was that i was losing control also, i was on a merry go round from hell but i needed to give up for me and when the want and the need is there it has been okay. It hasnt been great, it hasnt been fun to give up al but its okay and i'm okay with okay.

Byrd, I so loved the starting a party before a birthday comment. So very true. My ex husband used to have a week off work to celebrate his birthday.

Well i am glad everyone is strong and trying to be strong. There will be no more Day 1's for me and for today I will not drink.

[Myluck]

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Thank you all who replied yo me!!! This place is such a support system for me.
Overit and K9 - is it just regular family doctor who prescribes it or somebody else?