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[K9Lover]

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Overit - Good job on TTFP!!! Once that is done, you really don't need to waste one more second thinking about it! And by the way, if you're like me, it doesn't matter if margaritas weren't your "thing"...I'd just about drink anything put in front of me, and way too much of it, every single time. Keep up your good work, you are really showing strength with the AB, it's not easy but you're doing it! :h

[TJAF]

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Hello Nesters. I see many of you are struggling. I can empathize. I have been in your shoes far too many times to count. I posted this on another thread a couple of days. I modified the post slightly, Just my thoughts on what's worked for me after failing so many times in the past. I can thank our Senior Members for the Eureka moment. ...

Nesters I am now at 164 days. Not much in the greater scheme of things. We have folks here that are a true inspiration. That have remained sober long after time has dulled the agony of addiction.

I want to be one of those folks. I am sure you do as well.

When I read their posts I see their strength and resolve but I also see a plain honesty about their struggle. My challenge to you is to take a hard look at what it is you want. Some of you speak of the future without a true honesty for the present. You cant drink and then wish it all away with a promise for future sobriety. I know, I did that for nearly 30 years. The only thing that I can reason for the 164 days of my sobriety is my understanding that I simply can't drink today and think that someday I will be sober. The present and the future are forever joined at the hip.

Stay well and succeed.

[DancingGirl]

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DipGal;1610380 wrote: Hello nesters,

Here's a ((hug)) to those struggling. Although I don't have any cravings, I think about it constantly. I finished a week AF for the first time in 28 years. Just had a conversation with DH (who needs to abstain, but won't) about this journey I am on. He is very supportive of what I am doing even though he isn't joining in. At least he isn't trying to sabotage me.


Today is the first day that I really think I can do this 30 day thing.. And, maybe more. We'll see... BBL

I'm so happy for your DipGal - you started and I returned about the same time last month and I've been following your posts and wishing you the very, very best!
:l

[NoSugar]

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TJAF;1610383 wrote: The only thing that I can reason for the 164 days of my sobriety is my understanding that I simply can't drink today and think that someday I will be sober. The present and the future are forever joined at the hip.

It is amazing how we can repeatedly fool ourselves that the future can be different without dramatically changing the present. The image of them being forever joined is a great one, TJAF. You can still take it a day at a time, knowing that that day's success is linked with the future you want and deserve.

[DreamThinkDo]

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DipGal;1610380 wrote: Today is the first day that I really think I can do this 30 day thing.. And, maybe more. We'll see... BBL

Dip, that is a HUGE step forward, when you begin to see that it may be possible. I am so proud of you, staying strong when faced with so many hurdles. inkele:inkele:inkele:

[Rahulthesweet]

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Hello Nesters,

Wanted to share I feel great. After a long time I am in control. I am here in Macau on vacation had plenty of chance to seek away and drink. Heck was in casino gambling a bit but no drinks for me. Even won HK$600 today.

Its been 4 days now and planning on continuing this for at least 30 days

Kids too had a blast. It feel so liberating not to hunt for drink anymore and be able to enjoy and spend time.

Went for swimming too felt awesome!

Wishing all the best and folks on the east coast hang on warmer days are coming soon.

[DreamThinkDo]

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Rahul - sweet news on Day 4!!!! inkele: inkele: inkele: for you too!

[Loveless]

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Just got back from an AA meeting so I feel a little better now. Still day 11. Returned the bottle i bought last night that I left unopened. I have been taking some new prescriptions Ive been getting for my anxiety/depression/paranoia/AL cravings etc such as cyroquil and valium. They are working for alot of things but I am afraid that with the way I am that i will end up using them as a "replacement" addiction.....not sure what to do on that front. one thing I am concerned about is that since i returned from detox 3 days ago my husband is still drinking and doing drugs in front of me....by no means am i going to use that as an excuse to relapse, its just making my struggle that much harder....

But I WILL continue to fight. I am not going to let this disease beat me.

I hope everyone is having a wonderful AL free day

[K9Lover]

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TJAF;1610383 wrote: When I read their posts I see their strength and resolve but I also see a plain honesty about their struggle.

Well said TJ! This whole sober thing didn't click for me until I was brutally honest with myself. No more pretending that I wasn't that bad, or that I didn't do certain things when I was drunk, or that all the bad stuff in my life wasnt a result of my drinking...the sooner I was honest about the problem, the easier it was to work on the solution.

[Rivergal]

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Each time gets worse

Brummie;1610336 wrote: Hello Everyone. New here but on Day 4. Doing not too bad so far but trying to avoid justifying a drink this weekend when I will be out with others at a birthday meal. I start by making rules such as only when out, only with a meal, only at weekends but none of them work, so think I have to try and stick with abstinence. I did Sober October and felt really pleased with myself but it crept up to a bottle of wine plus a night and I was back where I started by November. This seems like a good idea...nice group it seems

Seems like each time we " go back out" or resume alcohol, things only get worse & more quickly. That is why they call it a baffling disease. I think it is much easier to abstain than moderate, maybe because I cannot moderate. When AL gets inside of me, he takes over & all bets are off. Day #16 for me & doing well. I just know I cannot let my guard down. The guy dying in Rain in my Heart after abstaining for 10 years was an eye-opener...I would soooo regret developing irreversible liver damage! Sticking to sobriety. Make it another sober month Brummie, there has to come a time when we can slay this f***in' dragon for good!

[available]

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Oh Jane how many posts have we all lost. I now right click, select all and copy. I just need to remember to do it when i am doing a long post.

Day 3 is not easy, i actually thought the first week was terrible especially that "i deserve a drink Friday" but one day at a time, you can do it!

Brum, we can never justify a drink, its a poison, it gives us no satisfaction at all when we think about it. It destroys us.

Oh River i was so sad when Kevin died, my immediate thought was he was still drinking but alas no he had done the damage 10 years plus ago and they young guy i so thought he was going to die but now he is not drinking. Such sad stories on that doco. Al is the epitamy of evil in everyones lives.

[NomoreJim]

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MAE All
Haven't posted for a few days have been trying to get shoveled out. This is day 9 for me! I haven't stayed sober this long in years. I have been going back through some of the posts that I missed the last couple of days. During one of my breaks from shoveling snow I caught a little portion of a news clip about binge drinking and it could have been about me. There is an alarming trend in the number of people who are drinking more and more and hiding it more. I am so glad that I found this place. Just wanted to agree with so many of you who have already stated that moderation doesn't really work at least not for me always ended up drinking more. I know that I can't ever take another drink and I'm ok with that. I honestly don't want to drink any more.

[nellie78]

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thank you to everyone Byrdie et al who responded to my musings. I really like the thought of my future depending on today. Simple but it has resonated with me. I think that deep down I know what the answer is it's just so overwhelming seeing the massive commitment spread out in front of me. This is why the good old 'one day at a time' approach is the one i shall be adopting from now on (backed up with all the usual sensible stuff I know is necessary: sleep, food, exercise, reading loads on here) x thanks guys, day 5 today feeling tired but peaceful.

[Byrdlady]

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NomoreJim, that's the best news I've heard all day! Congrats on your 9 days, I'm very proud of you, we all are. Some really great posts today about bullshitting ourselves...it is a relief to be out of THAT cycle....do I? Shouldn't I? How much? When? It never ends until it ends!!

Jane, lost posts is my middle name. I'm sorry it happened to you. But I'm glad to see you! I'm sorry your doggy has a cone on his head. That could be us, so there's that to be thankful for!! Hugs dear lady!

Hope everyone is doing well... envision yourselves sober! It's great! Byrdie

[Dottie Belle]

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Didn't get the drain fixed so plumber will be there tomorrow...$$$$$$$$$ but what can I do??
Stopped by the cemetery to wish mother a happy birthday....she has been gone 5 years...sigh...
Fellows will be here to fix broken pipe in the front yard tomorrow..$$$$$$$$
Will have stay in until summer at this rate.....boohiss...