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Hi, Momof3.
Glad you're getting right back with your program and not letting 1 event take you back to where you were.
Even though you have a very busy life, it might be worth it to make a habit of checking in here and posting - at least a couple times a day. Even if you're just saying hi and that you're fine (which everyone will be happy to hear), you are developing a new pattern so that next time you're tempted to drink, perhaps you'll be more likely to come here and post about it before you do it.
Just typing it out is often enough to stop you from making a bad choice. Wait for a response. I can just about guarantee you that no one will say that buying a couple bottles of wine and drinking them sounds like a solution to your problem. If MWO is your main tool to becoming sober, you've got to use it.
The other thing about posting regularly is that you will develop relationships that will help you not choose to drink. Of course we should be accountable to ourselves but at the beginning, most of us don't have enough self-respect to value our own opinion very much. We've probably disappointed ourselves so many times, it doesn't even mean much any more - we feel worthless, weak, and trapped. By engaging here, though, most people start feeling accountable to the group. You won't want to disappoint people who have helped you and you won't want to sound like a hypocrite to someone you have encouraged not to drink. I know this sounds like a need for external justification (a problem many addicts seem to have) but for once - let's use it to our advantage! As your self-respect grows with time AF, you'll be the main person you don't want to let down and you'll still have the additional support of all your sober peers.
A great tool is to commit to posting before drinking. It could make all the difference.
All the best, NS
momofthree;1685861 wrote: I never thought at all about coming on here, I was out the door to get groceries with the kids and the liquor is attached to the grocery store which made it that much easier.
Glad you're getting right back with your program and not letting 1 event take you back to where you were.
Even though you have a very busy life, it might be worth it to make a habit of checking in here and posting - at least a couple times a day. Even if you're just saying hi and that you're fine (which everyone will be happy to hear), you are developing a new pattern so that next time you're tempted to drink, perhaps you'll be more likely to come here and post about it before you do it.
Just typing it out is often enough to stop you from making a bad choice. Wait for a response. I can just about guarantee you that no one will say that buying a couple bottles of wine and drinking them sounds like a solution to your problem. If MWO is your main tool to becoming sober, you've got to use it.
The other thing about posting regularly is that you will develop relationships that will help you not choose to drink. Of course we should be accountable to ourselves but at the beginning, most of us don't have enough self-respect to value our own opinion very much. We've probably disappointed ourselves so many times, it doesn't even mean much any more - we feel worthless, weak, and trapped. By engaging here, though, most people start feeling accountable to the group. You won't want to disappoint people who have helped you and you won't want to sound like a hypocrite to someone you have encouraged not to drink. I know this sounds like a need for external justification (a problem many addicts seem to have) but for once - let's use it to our advantage! As your self-respect grows with time AF, you'll be the main person you don't want to let down and you'll still have the additional support of all your sober peers.
A great tool is to commit to posting before drinking. It could make all the difference.
All the best, NS
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