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[KENSHO]

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WMM, I'm sorry for what you are going through. Sounds like something you recognize as unhealthy. It can only help to have a supportive environment. Good wishes to you this weekend! Sending :l

[whitemarshmom]

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thank you all for your supportive words.. I have been a member since 2008 ( my daughter was almost a year, when i realized i was in trouble) she is almost 7 now.. I think this is the longest i have stayed around and posted, you all are so welcoming and so supportive, I have followed some of you since your recent day 1 2 3 4 5 etc , and read your posts that are so similar to mine.. young kids, stressful jobs, reasons to put off qutting, I have a plan in place for my upcoming travel for work, Monday July 28th, its not a conference, just me going to our corporate office, working, helping to train the new guy, back to my hotel , work out at the hotel gym , something for dinner ( carry out) read my book , maybe catch up on an on demand movie ( check in with MWO) and bury myself in the fluffy hotel pillows and sleep well

[Starfish1]

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sweet Jesus! wicked day!
I overheard the "C" word .. the document crashed and we lost 2 days worth of work.:upset:

[Starfish1]

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[QUOTE=frances;1686313]Just a pop-in wanted to tell Star and NS how much I got out of their posts...very nice. /QUOTE]
Aww, thanks, Frances:l

[Pavati]

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Hi, Nest--

I'm back from my days off the grid - I feel recharged and ready to go. One little AL thought one of the nights, but nothing big.

I can't read too far back but I did read back and skim a bit. Thanks for all of the cool posts, Kensho, Star, Pepper and NS (and really, everyone).

Sorry for your troubles with your husband, WMM - I think when you finally quit (which I KNOW you will do), you will find the strength to do what you need to do re: your mean husband (get help working it out, or get help getting out). I hope you stick around and let us help you.

Sarah - I hope today was a successful Day 1. We are all rooting for you.

Rahul - I hope you get some rest and time to unplug.

I am on my way to bed - I hope you all hang on tight.

Pav

[Rahulthesweet]

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Good Morning Nesters,

So the day begins. Thanks Byrdlady and Pavati.

More travelling coming next week for 2. Days, then next month as well too.

Take care

[available]

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Rahul, thinking of you. Every day is different in sober land remember that and its up to us what we make of the day. I know that i just appreciate every day i am sober.

I am visiting my mum at the moment and we had an hour long talk on my drinking and how worried she was and how proud she is of me. She also told me the long list of alkies in the family and we both hope by my not drinking that alcohol will not be a major part of our families lives anymore. I would have been petrified months ago to have this conversation with my mother, every defensive button would have been pushed to the max but i am not defensive anymore, i am an alcoholic and i told her that today. As i said 1 drink is all it will take. My brother died of al, she is so proud that she will not lose another.

Have a safe and sober weekend everyone. xxx

How was that day 1 Sarah?

[Sarah42]

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available;1686444 wrote:

How was that day 1 Sarah?

Horrid. Didn't do it sorry to say. I can only say excuses right now. Tomr should be better..so hopefully then.

Sorry to disappoint.

Sarah

[Starfish1]

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Good Morning, dear nesters

Just a quick check in today. I have a super busy weekend. A house full of company (sisters and some brothers in law). My dad died in June and tomorrow is his birthday. We all wanted to be together to get thru this first one.

Love you all so much! Will check in when I can

[Lavande]

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Good morning Nesters,

Awaiting severe T storms, again!

Sarah, get that day 1 done, you will be perfectly OK

Greetings to everyone! Congrats to everyone finding their way out of this addiction mess.
Wishing a terrific AF Saturday to one & all!

Lav

[lifechange]

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Hi Nesters!

A quick fly by from me, too-- Can't wait to have time on Monday to read back in peace and quiet!

Ava, did see your last post about your talk with your mom and I am so happy for you. How fortunate your are to strengthen your relationship with her and to be free of the alcohol hell. Thinking of you.

I truly hope all here will find peace and have at least SOME easy going, clear moments this weekend!! :l

[Byrdlady]

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Good Morning, Nesters!

Ava, your note really struck me. This is an amazing journey, isn't it. When we are in the grip of addiction, we ARE so defensive and those buttons get pushed and we shut the door....correction, SLAM the door on those who are confronting us. I did it 1000 times with my hubs. It is amazing that we can talk about it now without all the denial and deflection that used to take place when he was trying to get thru to me! I guess we are MOST sensitive to our vulnerabilities. Acceptance is a huge step in our world....the biggest! It brings with it a lot of peace. I would never have imagined it. Rolling around up there is my head used to be an awful place and I wanted to get away from it and escape. Now there is MindPeace and it is awesome. Yes, bad things still happen, but I am learning to process them better. It's as if I am operating with more information now, and I am, because I'm not preoccupied with getting my fix, or recovering from it. We fought acceptance pretty hard, didn't we? But we were fighting the very thing that would save us. Now, when I think about not drinking again...the 'FOREVER" thing....I flip that around and say, I don't have spend forever being a drunk, which is exponentially worse. Today, it doesn't bother me one bit that I will not drink again, but it took quite a while to get here, but I will tell you, it is worth every squirm of discomfort. I am so happy for your renewed relationship with your mother, your children and yourself! Well done, Ava. XXOO, Byrdie

[wagmore]

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Starfish1;1686494 wrote: Good Morning, dear nesters

Just a quick check in today. I have a super busy weekend. A house full of company (sisters and some brothers in law). My dad died in June and tomorrow is his birthday. We all wanted to be together to get thru this first one.

Love you all so much! Will check in when I can

:l :huggy to you Star. I hope you and your family find comfort in each other's company this weekend.

[Starfish1]

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Oh, thank you, Wag :l
We are going to mass tonight (my daddy, me and sisters are Catholic) and then out to eat. Tomorrow morning, we will go to church with my step-mom ( Methodist and married to my daddy for the past 28 years) and then lunch at her house. I am just so happy we will all be together for this difficult time.

[Byrdlady]

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Starfish1;1686576 wrote: Oh, thank you, Wag :l
We are going to mass tonight (my daddy, me and sisters are Catholic) and then out to eat. Tomorrow morning, we will go to church with my step-mom ( Methodist and married to my daddy for the past 28 years) and then lunch at her house. I am just so happy we will all be together for this difficult time.

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