Welcome June! Your going to find a resoundingly understanding group of people here, let us know what your looking for from MWO and you will get plenty of advice and direction.
Mr. V I know what you mean about the lack of wanting to do anything, I still suffer from that a lot of the time. As I have mentioned countless times on here before, I used AL as a reward at the end of the day. From everything I have learned from Kensho and looking up dopamine, I would do whatever i thought I had to at work or home to get to my reward. Without the anticipation of AL at the end of the day, I just don't feel like doing the work anymore. I did the bare minimum most days, and have gotten better in the past few weeks. The idea of making 80k has me a little more motivated. Goals really kick the dopamine up, even if they are personal. I also think instant gratification has become a challenge for me too. The more scrolling i do on facebook, or even on here, makes me less inclined to go do things. I think that is why exercise is great, it forces you to do something that is initially uncomfortable, but you get that reward at the end. pretty soon you start anticipating the reward and feel better! Good luck with the walks!
Kensho I think you have the right idea with the 100 day reward. I am trying to get back the motivation I used to have during the pink cloud, or rather when I used to drink. I found that finding meaning in the everyday things helped, but having a goal at the end is definitely a motivator as well. Maybe set a midway goal as well, like a massage visit instead of the whole spa thing. Just yesterday I was thinking 8 months sounded so far away, when it is really only 20 days away. My motivation for quitting has been waning since...the beginning really haha. I am trying to think of a nice 8 month treat to keep me motivated since I will have made it 2/3 of a year. I still think your an incredibly strong person, if i had one drink you wouldn't hear from me for a while, I'd be back to my old shinnagins in no time.
Mr. V I know what you mean about the lack of wanting to do anything, I still suffer from that a lot of the time. As I have mentioned countless times on here before, I used AL as a reward at the end of the day. From everything I have learned from Kensho and looking up dopamine, I would do whatever i thought I had to at work or home to get to my reward. Without the anticipation of AL at the end of the day, I just don't feel like doing the work anymore. I did the bare minimum most days, and have gotten better in the past few weeks. The idea of making 80k has me a little more motivated. Goals really kick the dopamine up, even if they are personal. I also think instant gratification has become a challenge for me too. The more scrolling i do on facebook, or even on here, makes me less inclined to go do things. I think that is why exercise is great, it forces you to do something that is initially uncomfortable, but you get that reward at the end. pretty soon you start anticipating the reward and feel better! Good luck with the walks!
Kensho I think you have the right idea with the 100 day reward. I am trying to get back the motivation I used to have during the pink cloud, or rather when I used to drink. I found that finding meaning in the everyday things helped, but having a goal at the end is definitely a motivator as well. Maybe set a midway goal as well, like a massage visit instead of the whole spa thing. Just yesterday I was thinking 8 months sounded so far away, when it is really only 20 days away. My motivation for quitting has been waning since...the beginning really haha. I am trying to think of a nice 8 month treat to keep me motivated since I will have made it 2/3 of a year. I still think your an incredibly strong person, if i had one drink you wouldn't hear from me for a while, I'd be back to my old shinnagins in no time.
thanks Pav!
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