Newbies Nest

[Guitarista]

Hi SL,

Depending on make/model of your car, you'd probably get a reconditioned motor like new fitted for under $2000? I'd be ditching that mechanic too. Online car forums specific to your model can be a gr8 resource for ideas and good fairly priced mechanics. Anyway, all the best with whatever way you go. Keep smilin.

[Byrdlady]

Nursie,
Prize Patrol here with your 2 Cheeked Salute from the whole gang!
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GREAT JOB on getting those 7 days behind you! You'll get no cracks from us, those are the bottom! We are so proud of you!!!
Eloise, I'm having 10 hour days, too, they are tough. I really oike my new job tho, I will be glad to sell something!
Wishing everyone a cosy night! Stick close! Byrdie

[available]

Morning nesters

To the newbies it is a wonderful feeling each and every day to wake up sober. I choose to remember sometimes the agony i put myself through each and every day and now look at how my life is today and i so never want to be back at day 1. What i would lose is incomprehensible. I never thought i could make it to nearly 3 years and in 3 days it will be 2 years and 11 months sober. i still dont think it is me with all of this sober time, the proudness i feel in myself is wonderful.

J i am so glad you had some you time and it was just what you needed.

Sky why do you need to be sociable when you are newly sober? You will find many of us hibernated for 3+ months and only socialised when necessary and always with a plan. When i go out now i have no tolerance for drunks and i go out early and leave when i want just like NS. I stopped drinking just when the silly season was starting and it was a nightmare for me but i basicalliy stayed home for all of December and January. My determination to get rid of al was my first and foremost priority and the world did not end with me being unsociable.

Nursie congrats on your 7 days and Third well those 3 weeks have flown by, good on you girl.

Wags, i am sure my paranoia will ease and i am sure Mads just loves all the attention she is getting. She is home with the kids while i am away for a couple of days. I am driving the kids nuts with texts on how she is and has she had her pills and is she breathing properly. Of course she is fine!

Well going to do some course work and enjoy the sunshine for today.

Take care x

[Lavande]

Good evening Nesters,

Congrats to everyone making progress toward their goals

I am self-employed these days & putting in some very long hours too. Grateful to have a clear head & enough energy to pull it off at this point!
Hibernation is what I did for a good three months, I needed that time to convince myself that I was going to succeed. After that I only accepted certain invitations where I felt I would be relatively 'safe'. Bottom line is you have to do what you have to do, don't put yourself in harms way

OK, it's after 8 pm but I'm still working.
Wishing everyone a safe & comfy night in the nest!

Lav

[Pavati]

Hi, Everyone:

TTC - I agree with what NS says - as usual. The KEY is the ability to leave exactly when you want to. I got that advice here and followed it until one time I felt pretty good and went with a friend to a party. I got to a terrible place where I HAD to leave, but my ride didn't want to. I actually went outside and logged on here to get some support to get through it. I never have put myself into that situation again.

I only have a second to check in. Welcome back Sky. Hang tough, nest.

Pav

[Justme Again]

Hi Nesters

Happy Saturday morning!

Time to cheer up. I am digging in my fixer upper town house and have a lot to do. I enjoy the DIY stuff. It is a clean out, renewal and fixing (recovery) on many levels.

I am an introvert and anti-social person by nature, so just reading where you all have to be on a weekend gets me anxious! Good luck with your social obligations and plan a way out when the pressure is too much.

I 've recently joined a community whatsapp group. Very chatty bunch... and last night was interesting. The men esp, like the voice notes. Stupid when you are drinking!!
Every passing hour the voice notes made it clear who is on the booze train.
It was very weird to be 'exposed' to drunk people while alone at home.

TTAC, Nursie, Inthesky - good job on staying sober!
You too Mr. G!

Ava - really happy for you that your dog is ok for now.

Lav - I would love to have orgnic, free eggs! But I don't like chickens. How many quails would I need to feed 3 people? Do you know?

Have a great Sober Saturday!

[j-vo]

Good unhung Saturday morning,

Getting ready for a long day, but as I said, when I want a break, I'm takin'.

Lav, what is your business?

Ava, what coursework are you doing?

So many people here taking on new adventures. Would it have happened with our heads still in the bottle. I think not. I haven't gotten to new adventures, but for me, waking up and moving through my day productively is a big win. I started walking again. I've always loved the feeling of a good workout, but I'm starting slow. It does feel good to sweat!

Have a great Saturday.

[Eloise]

Hey

Wagmore the 10 hour days are just going to be the norm.
Thanks for doing the PP1 Brydie, I need to find a balance here.
I wouldn't say I like my job yet. There are so many things I have to figure out and this includes figuring out how to handle people from so many different cultures. I will have to tackle learning Chinese as well.
I am still in a temporary housing situation as well. Maybe I will rent an apt this week? Let's see.
I was also a little sick this week but doing pretty good on that front. I had to have a health check here and I passed with flying colors. Amazing what a clean life style does to your health, pretty cool.

[andrealeigh]

Good morning,
As always I enjoy reading your posts, they truly do help.
I have not stopped drinking, not really even slowed down but my therapist and I set a stop date for me for Thanksgiving. Why? Because that is a significant day in my life. I come from a huge family (seven sibs, lots of nieces & nephews, great ones too plus my own kids and g'babes. All of us drink, the adults. I figure I will keep trying to quit and by Thanksgiving I will be able to say no, that would be nice. I chose that date because it ups the game for me somewhat. I like to be challenged and if I can survive Thanksgiving with no AL with my huge family, I can survive anything. LOL

[abcowboy]

Good morning Andrea, great to see you here and doing something to get your life back. Picking a quit date is a step in the right direction but don't fall into the trap of carefree drinking until then. I've seen in other recovery circles where the three day rule is recommended when a chosen quit date is in the future. Try going three days without drinking, then only have a maximum of 3 drinks if you drink. It's kind of like conditioning your body and brain to get used to the idea that you are in control, not alcohol. It might work for you, it might not, but it'll get you on the right path. Regardless of what you do, accepting you have a problem and are doing something about it is fantastic!

[andrealeigh]

Thank you abcowboy and I will try that method. I will try just about anything. Today I went to a store to pick up a few things, choosing that store deliberately because they rarely have my favorite wine. Lo and behold they did have it and I was cruising the aisles saying...its ok if they have it, you don't have to buy it but I did anyway and I felt like I was taking home a treasure. OH BOY! Looky what I have, I felt defeated. I keep staring at it, slobbering over it. Its crazy. I don't drink anything but the pinot. I don't like beer, I don't like liquor but I will go to three stores to find my pinot.

[ThirdTimesACharm]

Good morning,
As always I enjoy reading your posts, they truly do help.
I have not stopped drinking, not really even slowed down but my therapist and I set a stop date for me for Thanksgiving. Why? Because that is a significant day in my life. I come from a huge family (seven sibs, lots of nieces & nephews, great ones too plus my own kids and g'babes. All of us drink, the adults. I figure I will keep trying to quit and by Thanksgiving I will be able to say no, that would be nice. I chose that date because it ups the game for me somewhat. I like to be challenged and if I can survive Thanksgiving with no AL with my huge family, I can survive anything. LOL

I really hope that strategy works for you Andrea. For me, it would be very hard to not drink at a Thanksgiving party if I had been drinking all the way up to it. I've found that just a few days' sobriety brings a level of clarity of thinking that I just don't get from even light daily drinking. That's why I know moderation will never work for me.

I do encourage you to not drink for a day and see how you feel after that. Maybe you'll make it to two, and three and a whole week. By that time, you might feel completely differently.

Good luck, and keep checking in!

ThirdTimesACharm

[Byrdlady]

Hey all, busy day here, I made some Thanksgiving cookies and cleaned out a closet. I am hosting Thanksgiving this year, so lots to do.

Andrea, thats an intersting strategy. I was just looking at the calender, Thanksgiving is 26 days away. In the life of an alcoholic, that is a long time. It would ne like having a colonoscopy scheduled for that day! If you started tomorrow, you would have almost a month under your belt. We can talk ourselves out of a lot in 26 days. Our minds are influenced by one thing and when we threaten AL's blood supply, it will do ANYTHING to trick you in to continuing to drink. When is the best time to stop drinking? TODAY. Tomorrow never comes for us when AL is still in charge. Just a thought, I hope your resolve to quit remains in tact as you wait for the other shoe to drop. I found that I never drank harder than when I tried to limit myself. We are all different, so different things work for different people, but I would try to get as much sober time as I could BEFORE the holidays. You arent giving anything up, you are gaining a life! One drink just leads to another, if you are like me, I was drinking about a bottle and a half a day, thats thirty nine bottles you would save your liver from processing. We will support you the whole way!

Hope everyone has a good evening! Lets see if I can post a picture of my cookies. ByrdieIMG_2505.jpg

[Guitarista]

Jumpin jalapeno's Byrdy, How the hell did you do those pic scenes on top? Those cookies look unreal man!

Hi Andrea. All the best with the plan for TG day. 26 days away eh? What is your drinking plan in the meantime, until then. Some folks 'party' up hard when an end date is present. This may not be you, but either way take care of yourself friend.

Day 78 and the feeling's gr8.

[Lavande]

Good evening Nesters,

Had a lovely visit from my daughter & her family. She is still on crutches, no weight bearing on that foot for at least another four weeks, ugh. I grilled outside since the weather has warmed up nicely for the weekend

Justme, I have been raising chickens for 12 years now but I know absolutely nothing about quail or their eggs. I buy my day old hatchlings from a hatchery in Iowa & have them shipped here to Pennsylvania. I know they offer quail, ducks & other birds. Not sure where you are located but you can look up Murray McMurray Hatcheries, their website is very informative.

Andrea, maybe it would be a good idea to gradually reduce your wine intake as your quit date approaches. I did that myself to avoid problems.

J-vo, when I retired from nursing I opened a small embroidery & Monogramming business. I have a jome shop, just me & two commercial machines. Fun most of the time!!!

Eloise, seems you are settling in your new environment nicely. I am happy for you!

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all.

Lav