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[BelleGirl]

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Almost made it...drank husbands left over half glass of wine while cleaning up. why??? no good reason except I dropped my quit. as I said before I can do things like that lately without a prethought. it wasn't much, but it counts. I am trying to figure out what is wrong with me that I do things without thinking for a second.

All I can do at this point is commit again and this is day one.

Hope all had a happy thanksgiving. I am glad I wasn't drunk. I guess that is the upside.

Today is the teens' "Friendsgiving" at our house, of course. It is every reason to be sober.

[paulywogg]

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Morning nesters hope everyone had a great day yesterday,Belle sorry about the wine, Nursie yup I'm always shocked at the people who have one drink with dinner then switch to coffee,what's the point? I've had drink dreams too and it's always me arguing with myself if I should or shouldn't,much like real life,Ava,the situation with my daughter is ok,all I can do is be here for her and the boys,waves to the gang and wishes for a happy and healthy AF day!

[Pavati]

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Good MAE All:

I am happy to say the feast was a huge success and I had a great time. My husband's sister and family were going to go out of town but bad weather kept them here so there were more cousins around and more fun. There was SO MUCH delicious food and we played a big game after with lots of laughs.

At the end of the night my son put a Pyrex dish on the stove and went to make tea - he accidentally turned the burner under the dish instead of the kettle and the thing exploded ALL OVER the kitchen. I mean all. over. We'll be finding glass for months. Sorry to say we had to throw away a whole bunch of leftover food that hadn't been put away yet - a very sad situation.

Belle - I never had that feeling like a half a glass would be sufficient. As Pauly says - who does that?? I wonder what mechanism is keeping you doing that? Anyway - so glad you came back right away. Stick with us - you got this. How lucky for you that you get the kids all at your house. Our place is very small, so that would never happen here. Sounds like fun.

Ava - that thought is sad but also comical. Thank goodness we don't drink.

Go, Nursie!

Hi, everyone. Happy SOBER Friday. I'm glad to have the day off - I will be hitting the trails between the much needed rainstorms.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

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Pav, your dinner sounds awesome. What a difference from a few years ago. I am glad you enjoyed it.

Ava, so nice to be able to get up early and go for a walk with Carl. I love that about being sober. My situation is different because of the fact that it was -20C this morning, F’n COLD!

Nursie,Belle, Pauly, yeah, who does that? 1/2 glass of wine? What’s the point?
Belle, you just have to make yourself stop. Get booze out of the house, change your routine. Do all of the things you did before when you quit.

Hello G, I am singing in the choir tomorrow and will sing for you all.

Xo
Don’t drink today, it’s gross.

[Byrdlady]

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Belle, I can sympathize with the ‘Why did I do that?’ question. I had 12 days (which was the longest I had gone several times). It was 8 o’clock at night and I had made it. My hubs went downstairs to use the bathroom and I raced to the fridge and poured a coffee mug full of wine from the box and gulped it down. I was so mad at myself. WHY? In retrospect, one reason is I didn’t get all the AL out of my space (it was available). #2, I didn’t solicit the help of my hubs until after the ultimatum. Easy to see now in the rear view, but not so much, at the time. Have you spoken with your hubs and asked for his support? It sure helped me. To this day, he doesn’t know the FULL extent of my problem, but he knows enough to understand I’m a card carrying Alkie. As the saying goes, ‘I can resist anything but temptation’. That’s especially true in the early days. I know you can do this...I’ve seen you!
Home safe and sound and so glad to be here. Had a great visit yesterday. No AL in sight. I wonder how AL became so important to me when it’s so ‘not a thing’ with my family?
Wishing everyone a cozy night. I’m so thankful for you all. Byrdie

[Lavande]

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Good evening Abbers,

I didn’t hear anything here about Black Friday shopping. I didn’t go either, haha!!!
At least 9/10 of my shopping is done online anyway so why waste gas & your precious time, right?
I’m geared up for what will probably be the last craft show of the year. I didn’t sign up for anything in December but that could change. So I’ll be out hawking crafty stuff from 10 am to 2 pm tomorrow

I kind of think the people who leave a half glass of wine on the table just really don’t like wine. I may be wrong but I have observed people doing that over the years. I wish i didn’t like wine, Lol. I also wish I had not chosen it as a weapon to beat down what I was truly feeling at the time. I am grateful that dark & depressive time of my life is long over - never going the again!!!

Hello to absolutely everyone & wish ing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[paulywogg]

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Lav,I went into Kmart to price a new carseat for Romeo and had forgotten it was black Friday until I seen all the sales! I loaded my arms up with sweaters,jeans,slippers etc and actually got outta there pretty quick, driving by Walmart tho forget it!

[lifechange]

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Good Unhung Saturday morning, Nesters..

Was up at 4:40 this morning, feeling well rested, so I got out of bed and called my dad early. It didn't sound like he'd been drinking at all so we got to have a and clear conversation,.. I won't have to repeat everything next week.:happy2: I have to say, that's one of the great advantages to being sober. I love remembering the conversations I had with my girls the night before.. it was getting to the point where I'd ask them questions in the morning at breakfast that we'd discussed in full detail at dinner. It was so frustrating for them and so shameful and sad for me. WHY would I want to miss out on the time I have with them? WHY would I choose to drink instead of spending the time with them? That's what I always asked my mom.. "How could you choose alcohol over me? What's so bad about me, that you don't want to be present?".. I of course now understand what she was dealing with.. and I feel very grateful to be done with drinking. To understand it actually is my choice.. As you said, Ava, it's my choice to put that wine glass/bottle/spout to my mouth and drink.. and once I decide and learn not to do that, to find other ways to deal with my emotions/feelings/life situations, nobody can take that away from me.

I'm glad to hear that everyone had such nice Thanksgivings. I could relate to you all who see that you were the ones doing most of the drinking in the past. I was also the main culprit, convincing others to drink more so that I wouldn't have to alone.
Pav, how sad about the left over food.. especially as that was what you were really looking forward to! And what a mess to clean up. It sounds like the gathering was lovely, though.. just a couple more days and we get to celebrate 6 years with you and Ava!:love: Have fun on your hike and enjoy the rain..
[MENTION=16180]BelleGirl[/MENTION], Hang in there! Don't give up trying! I experienced that quite often the last times I quit.. the crazy, erratic acting on impulse.. not even seeing that there had been an impulse. I think what helped me the most was/is putting all of my past experience with quitting to the side and beginning again, as a true "newbie", coming here each and every day, reading and listening to others with new ears and eyes, concentrating fully on rediscovering tools, finding new ones, letting go (for the moment, at least) of my past failures/successes and just being present with now, NO alcohol in the house (I would guess even your husband could quit drinking for a while to help you out!), staying in if I felt it could be dangerous to go out to the shops.. remembering that my life depends on my choices and I can begin the life I want to have in any moment. You can do this! It helped me so much to hear that as long as I don't give up trying, I am succeeding!:hug:

Oh, Have to run.. my neighbor just called for a coffee before she heads off to the market.
Wishing you all a lovely Saturday.. will check back again later.xx

[BelleGirl]

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Checking in. Thanks yet again for all the advice and support. Nobody understands this crazy alkie life like fellow alkies.

No drinking yesterday which makes this day 2 already! Had a house full of teens for their Friendsgiving. Son thought he messed up the turkey as it was not ready when he thought it should be (he did it all on his own), and they all went out for pizza. while they were gone, I checked the turkey and it was up to perfect temp everywhere and was perfect. He still felt like he let his friends down, as they had already eaten. They all had desert and hung around for quit a while...longer than I could stay up. I think they had a great time, and by some miracle everything was cleaned up this morning.

Day 3 and nothing shall deter me from getting through it AF. I'm determined. gotta make that FIRST 7 day goal.

gotta run for hair appointment. have a good day all.

[Pavati]

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Morning all:

Yes, Belle, way to go. Funny about the turkey. I guess you have a lot of leftovers now??

Have fun at the craft fair, Lav. Is it fun? I would assume so. You probably get to know some of the regulars?

Byrdie - it was telling my husband that made a difference to me. I was COMPLETELY honest with him and he was very serious about helping me. I know his life is easier without me drinking for sure - fewer weird fights, and a designated driver every time (easier, but not necessarily healthier).

Nar - that is SO COLD. I'm not sure how you ever leave the house...

I had a very lazy day yesterday. Cleaning, hiking and watching TV - we're on to Broadchurch. Love it.

Enjoy it out there,
Pav

[Nursie]

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Hello Nest!
Another day sober is always a good day! Cleaning all day today.
Xoxo

[Guitarista]

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Hola mi amiga's!

Congrat's on day 3 Belle. Badass!

Nursie! There's another badass!

And over there is LC = Total badass!

Early Sunday morning here. Today i'm at work. I'll be doing some cleaning too. Cleaning out the inside of my head. Getting rid of the cobwebs, rewiring my thinking and feelings to work FOR me, rather than often against me. How can i do that? Coz i'm the boss. Not my thousands of thoughts per day.....me. I'm in charge. It's taken a bit of wrestling with the old committee that's been resident in me head for years. lol.

Have a beaut weekend evabody. Big waves. x

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Had a pretty good time at the craft fair, made a little money too
Colder today & we’re expecting about an inch of snow tonight then a fabulous layer of ice on top. I don’t like the ice part so I’m staying parked here all day tomorrow.

Belle, good for you hanging tough!Nursie, same to you!!

Pauly, sounds like you really lucked out yesterday, nice

LC, you’re doing great & the conversation in your head sounds a lot like mine. WHY would I ever risk doing that again??

Pav, we traveled 31 miles today to get to this particular craft show so I didn’t know anyone. It’s nice to meet new people!

G, hope you work day is going well.

Wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

[wagmor]

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Looks like we're gonna have to rename this space: Newbie Badasses' Nest!

Great job Belle, Nursie - you're both on track!

LC - you're racking up the days too and you sound really solid.

Nar - you sound cold! Haha, jk - I don't know how you could possibly not be cold with that weather.

And wasn't it Kensho who just had to dig out from under 15 inches or something like that??? How's it going now Kensho?

Lav - glad the craft fair went well, and making money never hurts either!

Pav - sounds like you had a fabulous day.


Quick fly by for me tonight as I'm pretty tuckered. Hellos and waves to G, Ava, Byrdie, Pauly, and everyone else hanging out in the Badass Nest today or tonight. Enjoy the rest of your weekends!

[available]

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Evening nesters

We had black friday specialis here also. That kind of confused me. I now get to the shops when they first open or about to close. its just ridiculous the amount of people around at this time of year.

Glad to hear you made some money at the fair Lav, you make some lovely things.

LC, oh the drunk phone calls, i used to think i was clever and write what the conversation was about but id only write a couple of words and of course had no idea the next day. The children would always say "remember last night when...." and i had nothing. It was just degrading really to blackout and being their mum but thats all in the past now. They have had 6 years of me being there for them and thats what i appreciate now.

Belle, great work on getting back on track, keep building those sober muscles and i would ask hubs to keep the al somewhere else. I told everyone not to bring al into my house when i stopped. I was my priority not other people drinking.

Nar i cant imagine living in some place that was that cold. you must have great heating and cheap electricity.

Today Carl and i went for a nice early morning walk and i have been knitting and not doing much today. Its 6 years since i stopped drinking so a quiet day to reflect on those 6 years. So much shite has happened in those 6 years but i have protected my quit like a mother protects her child. Ive dealt with death of loved ones and two fur babies, a relationship breakup, 4 children with their ups and downs, work bullying, new job, promotions, anxiety, health problems and at no time did i pick up that glass. Oh i wanted to in the early years, now i just think what will be will be. My tools are carried with me each and every day. Today fb posted my 1st year of sobriety and photos of my children, myself and a cake. I looked a million bucks and i remember i could not wipe that smile off my dial. I had done it, 365 days, never in my wildest dreams and now its 6. Now i know this is my life, this is what i have worked for and what i am still working on. Never a day goes that i dont wake up grateful.

Take care xx