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[NoSugar]

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Congratulations on 3 months, Drifty!

That must have been scary, Nar! Thank goodness you realized you needed help and didn't wait too long. In some ways I think the non-COVID parts of hospitals are safer than ever b/c they are taking so many precautions.

I think you hit on something Wags - most people haven't been touched directly by COVID19, there is no nation-wide mourning of the 100k+ victims, we can't 'see' the virus, and it is pretty easy to convince ourselves that we're back to normal. I don't think most people are self-destructive or malicious - given what they understand, there's no problem w/ what they are doing and it's FUN.

[paulywogg]

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Morning nesters, the beach pics pissed me off! They're gonna ruin it for everyone, hubs and I have been out for Sunday breakfast twice now BUT the way they're doing it is responsible in my eyes, every other booth, limited capacity, seperated menus in a clean/need to be santized cubbies, no bottles of hit sauce, syrup on the table etc, hubs started laughing when he asked for hot sauce and pepper and the waitress brought it over in tiny plastic cups, I told him they can't have a bunch of people touching the bottles, also two different states have reported hairdressers spreading the virus, yikes! Too soon for this job to be open I think and defo too soon to be crowding anywhere! How do they think they're gonna open these casinos? They say limited occupancy but look how it's gone on the beaches?!?! I'm frustrated beyond words, again I'm just torn Narilly, I asked you a bunch of questions in the cafe, now I know! Wishing you Swift healing Byrdie, I'm sure your hair looks fine, if I miss spots on mine I just figure it'll need to be done in a few weeks again anyway, no memorial plans for us just making hubs grill chicken and I bought a berry pie I'm gonna drench in Redi-whip defo gonna take the boys(g-sons) somewhere in the desert next week to run around, it's really hitting the 7 year old that things aren't"normal" plus his parents have been arguing more, damn I need a vacay but nowhere to go, can't even visit my hometown cuz my dad has bad lungs as does my sister I'm not taking chances, there's been only 1 case there and it was a trucker passing through, sorry this post seems scattered, pretty much like my mind right now much love to ALL and wishes for a happy AF day for us all!

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Remembering those we’ve lost today. I still kind of miss our old hometown parade with the fire trucks, high school band, scout troops & all that. They had to cancel this year of course, first time in my 66 years on this planet. Maybe, just maybe if we are all really good things will be back to almost normal for next year’s parade.
I did take the opportunity to go to am Amish greenhouse & buy a whole bunch of plants for my deck pots. It looks better now

Steady, we’re all in much better shape to handle this worldwide crisis because we kicked AL out of our lives. We have made the best choice ever!

Wags, I don’t like big crowds to begin with but now it’s just a hard NO for me! I can’t even imagine what those knuckle heads are thinking crowding beaches & boardwalks, yuck.

NS, watching grandkids can be one exhausting experience haha!! I always love having them but feel close to death by the time they leave. I figure somehow, one way or the other it is actually good for us

Pauly, you know how badly I need a hair cut by now but I’m going to wait just a bit. There are places open right over the state line that I could go to but I’m a bit fearful. Ours supposedly will begin reopening June 5, I’ll wait until then. I read about the Great Clips salon in Missouri where two employees were positive & possibly infected more than 100 clients. Not good
Stay safe yourself!!

Hello to the rest of the crew & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

[wagmor]

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Hooray for the Like and Thank buttons being back! Now to get back into the practice of using them

Drifty - congrats on your 3 months, that is outstanding!

Nar - just checking in, hoping you're recovering well :hug:

Steady and others who have been discussing anxiety - I don't know if you're talking about major attacks or more like underlying day-to-day anxiety but both are horrible. I only had one true anxiety attack (or severe experience) and it was right near the end of my drinking. It was a HUGE part of what scared me into quitting again, and I hold that day firm in my mind as one strong tool against any temptation now. I can remember feeling horrible but unable to describe why (like not "sick" or hungover). I had to go lie down on the bed and use breathing exercises to try to get my heartbeat back to where it felt normal. I'd never experienced anything like it and hope to never again. I really took it as my body telling me FFS to stop poisoning it. So I DID and I've had no similar symptoms since quitting.

And on that note, I will head off into my day feeling grateful. I'm now two months shy of my 4-year quit-a-versary and it feels great.

Have fantastic days and eves everyone!

[Pavati]

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Hi, Everyone:

Oh, Narilly! I'm so sorry that happened. What a scary time. Did you have to be alone in the hospital, or are they allowing visitors? All of our hospitals have a no visitation policy, so people are alone and scared in there. I'm glad you called your doctor and got in in time. Hope you feel better soon.

Yes, NS, that is the same article. His idea is that we can open up with certain precautions that I named - hospitals (at least his hospital) have very low rates of infection of doctors and nurses (now) thanks to those precautions. What kills me about the masks is that is isn't about what you're risking for yourself, it is about putting others in danger. This is a giant, collective human experience, and I think with the right leader we could be facing it with courage together, but instead it is all political and a fat mess. I am curious about how this "second wave" will play out. Maybe it will never be as bad as New York because of the fact of how people live (high density housing, subways, etc.) Let's hope. I do think it is disgusting to see people intentionally coughing at or on people - what is wrong with people? So much anger inside!

I had an ok weekend - it was beautiful here so we got outside some, but also just dealt with stuff inside. And just hung out. I am not very motivated to do much of anything right now - I should be reorganizing my basement or something but instead I'm digging into archived crossword puzzles and doing another 1000 piece jigsaw. And I had a moment for those who we were honoring yesterday...

Happy SOBER Tuesday - a four day week for those of us lucky to still be working.

xo
Pav

[narilly]

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Happy Un Hung Tuesday everyone. I had to make sure I had the right day because the other day I was sure it was Saturday but it was Sunday, I missed a whole day from my surgery. The anesthesia makes me so sick. I was positive that you were all mixed up on the days, haha.
Thank you for the well wishes, you are all so nice. I really, really appreciate it.

It was weird to be in the hospital alone Pav, for sure. They have a no visitor policy but it was fine. I can see how hard it would be if my mom ended up in there and I could not visit her though.

Wags, you are kicking butt. 4 years is awesome...I will wait a couple of days to do cartwheels

Pauly, the breakfast places sound like they are doing a good job. I am going for a haircut and colour next week and am really looking forward to it.

I feel kinda lost these days myself. Its a really tough time for all of us. Hang in there everyone.

Don't drink today, its gross xo

[NoSugar]

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I am not very motivated to do much of anything right now - I should be reorganizing my basement or something but instead I'm digging into archived crossword puzzles and doing another 1000 piece jigsaw.

I also have no motivation to do the 'shoulds', Pav. I wish I had the urge to clean and organize but I just don't. And even if I did clean stuff out, there is no where to take it. This article arrived in my email today on just this topic: It’s Time to Stop Touting Productivity During the Pandemic | The Temper

I'm so glad you're doing ok, Nar :hug:

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Nice day here although we started out with a fairly dense fog, weird.
We took a ride about an hour south of here to get a trailer full of compost. My life is SO exciting, haha! I didn’t even get out of the truck

Wags, we will have a nice virtual celebration for your 4th, yay!!
About the anxiety thing, it started way back for me, anxiety attacks that came out of no where. It was before my drinking career started. I thought for sure I was going to die, awful. Years later long after the drinking started I found out what chronic anxiety was all about, ugh. I am so grateful to be past all that now. I no longer have to waste time or mind space worrying if/when another anxiety attack is going to happen, thank the universe.

Pav, I was just treading today about the flu pandemic 1918-1920. The second wave apparently was worse than the first. By 1919 protests against wearing masks & locked down business Were growing, just like we’re seeing now. I just don’t understand why so many in the general public seem to be incapable of following the public health official’s guidelines. It happened back then & it’s happening again now.
Don’t push yourself to organize anything, enjoy the jig saw puzzles!!

Narilly, glad you are doing well post op Now you will have a good story to tell your grandkids some day, Lol

NS, dig out a jigsaw puzzle. Love them myself & they’re a greta way to take your mind off of ugly stuff.

Hello to the rest of the nesters & wishing everyone a safe night!

Lav

[Guitarista]

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That sounds like a real nice country drive Lav. I kinda like compost. It reminds me of new life, hands in earth, new possibilities, growth......

All okay here friends. Feelings - who better to ramble on to on this subject than a bunch of switched on compassionate warrior Goddesses! I had a text from an old flame earlier. She's now living in the UK. Great woman. We haven't been in touch for 10 years and parted on not so good terms, but obviously we still have affection for each other. I have no romantic desire or thoughts towards her, but i noticed how my heart and feelings were tugged a little by our texts. It's interesting. I am a little unsettled, but just a little. I'm ok and have a handle on my emotions. It is interesting to me as a knowingly sit here and allow my emotions to run through me and remember her fondly. I felt a little left behind. But i explored this and realised that i am in fact kicking goals today and no need to feel sad. Feeling settled now as i come to the present and look at my plan for today and the future.

Sitting with my feelings rather than shutting them out and getting stressed over spilt milk. The contact, the memories. It is really a beautiful moment and experience.

Hope all are ok. Take it easy my friends. Remember - You are totz badass!

[Byrdlady]

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Nar, I feel like I’ve lost 3 months, as if I’m stuck in a time warp. I’m sure it’s still February.
An old coworker emailed and told me about a job opportunity. I told him that I’m just not ready to get back out there yet. I can’t imagine traveling now. Doing the same thing (security alarms and closed circuit cameras) but a smaller company. I was flattered, but it reinforced that I’m so glad I’m not doing that anymore. I do miss money, however. Not spending any at the moment, so it’s working out!
Drifty, great job on 3 big months! That’s not easy and we are so proud of you. Keep up the magnificent work! :three:
Hugs to all, Byrdie
G man, why isn’t there a LIKE option at the bottom of your post. I want to give you a hug. Emotions are a bear. No better experts at digging up misty water color memories than we are. Once you play it out, you may say, meh, not so much. It’s ok to remember, but grab it all! Hugs to you.

[NoSugar]

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Sometimes nostalgia is fun and feels kind of good, Mr G, especially if you are content where you are now, which it seems like you are :smile:. If you were still drinking and miserable, you'd probably convince yourself that 'those were the good ol' days" and sadly long for them instead of fondly remembering what was good back then and appreciate that she was part of your life.

It's nice that your former co-worker recognizes your talents, Byrdy. Too bad your old bosses didn't have the same insight! If you decide to work again, I hope you can do it on your terms.

Lav, I've never liked puzzles but I do enjoy knitting and figuring out different techniques, which is a type of puzzle-solving that I find very stimulating and relaxing at the same time. Then, once I know what I'm doing, the rhythm and repetition of the stitches is almost meditative. I try to find a bit of time to knit each morning and start my day in a mindful way, kind of like the quick yoga and meditation that Mr G does. Even a simple ritual like that can help set the tone of the day for me.

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Mr. G! I felt that post so deeply. There are many times when I think back about another time, a choice I made, a person I was with and get VERY nostalgic. It is so easy to look at all aspects of our lives with rose colored glasses. A simple text like that could throw me for a LOOP. My dad was a pretty cool guy and he always said - whatever choices you made back then lead you to where you are now, and that's a pretty good place. I couldn't disagree with him. You're the one here who really taught me to sit with my feelings - the only way out is through. I'm glad you're doing with same.

I'm also feeling that loss of time you're describing. Hard to believe May is almost over, and yet it was the longest month on record. How can both be true?!

I love all puzzles, but I haven't gotten into knitting, NS. I tried, but I get so frustrated by the mistakes that I gave up. Maybe I'll take it up when I'm hunkered down next winter...

Happy SOBER hump day.

Pav

[Lavande]

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Good evening all.

Cloudy, sunny, warm & humid here today - take your pick?? Rain moving in for the next few days &the talk of a cold front, haha!
I feel like I’m in Byrdie’s time warp too. Can’t believe it’s almost June. Walking around here I’ve noticed that certain flowers have not bloomed yet & the tiny green strawberries need to grow bigger & turn red like they were last year at this time. Can’t rush Mother Nature I guess.

G, that compost place we go to is owned & operated by a vet & he has the same theories as you. He said it was important to him to do something positive for the earth when he returned from his deployments.
Messages from people of the past, while intriguing may not be fitting for where you are now. I’ll bet she’ll never know or appreciate all the growth you have experienced these past few years

Byrdie, it is nice being remembered & appreciated. Is there any chance that maybe at some point you could do the sales part time? I don’t want to do anything full time at this point in my life. I like doing a little of this & a little of that, haha! Staying healthy right now is practically a full time endeavor.

NS, I used to watch my Mom & Grandmother spend hours knitting but I just couldn’t do it so I learned to sew. That’s what relaxes me & gets me to sit still for a little while. Do what makes you happy!

Pav, try every craft until you find the one that makes your soul happy I think all the YouTube videos are very helpful these days.

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[wagmor]

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I love the talk about nostalgia and how we can look back and see things from different perspectives depending on both what/who we're looking at and where we are now looking from. G, you're in a great place (or so it seems) and that can be a healthy time to look back and reconnect with someone from "a different life" so to speak. I hope the nostalgia brings you nothing but positive feelings about where you are now.

Pav - I've never been much of a crafter either, but I think there is one out there for me somewhere. Maybe next winter will be my time to try again as well. We can start together!

Byrdie - that's definitely flattering that you were thought of for the job, and yet I can totally see why you'd turn the opportunity down. I imagine you have a certain degree of PTSD even if milder or different. You'll know when the time is right and maybe sales will never feel like the best fit again. I still vote for cake decorating classes online through zoom, where us nesters can be your guinea pigs Your sense of being in a time warp makes sense - it has been a strange few months for everyone, but probably especially so for folks like you who had a major change right before things started shutting down.

Hellos and waves to Nar, Lav, Ava, Belle, Drifty, Pauly, NS, Kensho and everyone else. LC, Julia, are you around? Who else haven't we heard from lately?

Take care and happy Wed-into-Thu to you all!

[paulywogg]

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Morning nesters, I'm defo in Byrdies time warp as well, completely blew off mother's day, memorial day, etc all just a blur, also my dad and brothers birthday and if Facebook hadn't told me I'd have completely blown them off, bought two cards yet they sit there unsigned and unsent, Narilly hope you're feeling ok, entering phase 2 of reopening here in Vegas, don't know how I feel about it, tired of caring, anyhoo hope everyone has a wonderful AF day