Newbies Nest

[NoSugar]

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That’s good advice, Pav. I like to think that everyone who has flown the nest is off living their best sober lives but I kind of doubt it. It is nice knowing that those of us who have stuck around are doing fine as far as alcohol is concerned and have a ready source of support should we need it.

[Byrdlady]

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Hey, nesters!
I had a crazy drinking dream last night. I have not had one drop of AL since my quit date but in the dream, I was using that to apply only to weekdays. On the weekends, I was drinking with impunity and hanging my hat on the ‘Not one drop’ catch phrase. My next crazy thought was....”See, I AM controlling it!” I must not be so bad after all. Then it occurred to me that I had NOT been AF for 10 years and I had such a sense of loss and betrayal. It was awful. So glad that was a dream. They serve a very good purpose. Yikes, I never want to feel like that. No drink is worth giving up all that I have now.

Finally getting some sun! Nice to see it!
I got into sorting my beads yesterday as I was reworking a necklace of mine and 4 hours later, I quit. There is no end to sorting beads.
Hope everyone has a happy hump day! Byrdie

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

It warmed up to 50 something this afternoon, nice. I know we’re not done with the cold weather yet but soon, I just have to be patient.

Pav, I’m glad to be here & if anyone wants/needs to contact me they are welcome to do so
I really don’t share any thoughts or opinions with family, they don’t understand. I feel fortunate to have had this site & all the wonderful people I’ve met over the past 12 years. That’s good enough for me.

NS are you still busy preparing for your new pup? How exciting!
We do have a nice group here, I am grateful.

Byrdie, oh those dreams.They do serve a purpose & I guess we should be grateful for them haha!!
Don’t drive yourself nuts sorting beads, I wouldn’t have much patience for that activity either. Hope you are enjoying your gift of sunshine

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[NoSugar]

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Sunny and almost 60 today with no wind. We hiked around a nature preserve. Other than a 3-y old temper tantrum, it was heavenly. Actually, after this week, a puppy might seem pretty easy :haha:!

[available]

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evening nesters

have a bit of time to check in, seems all i manage at the moment is to work. think my iron is low again as i am super tired. go for a nap and wake up 2+ hours later and drag myself out of bed in the morning, that is so unlike me. i am a 5am person and lets get on with the day. back for a blood test end of this month.

My sons partner had a miscarriage which is sad but they will try again which is good. i am still buying baby clothes and some patients of mine who i have known for years bought me down a crochet blanket and jumper. so sweet of them. this is what makes my job doable. i went to mums for lunch the other day and we had a lovely time.

Nar we get patients who come into the hospital who think it is their right to not wear masks. it surely is but you wont be seen and then they get angry. FFS some people are dumb.

i went to the dentist today to get my quote to get my teeth done under GA and they gave me the wrong day, most apologetic. i didnt mind but i am sure if i turned up on the wrong day they would not be so accommodating. at least this consult is not costing me anything except maybe heart failure.

nice to see you back Wags, i hope 2021 gets better for you.

Pav, i agree, i think we all need to be accountable to someone to keep sober. i have a great support network that keeps me sane and sober. a friend of my sons is going into rehab for heroin addiction plus pills and i told him to find an online support group. Addiction is addiction whatever it is.

Lav sorry to hear about your friend and al. i still get angry at my brother for dying from al but i suppose the support was not really around then and at the end of the day he made his choice, i just hate how it destroys the ones you love but i am so grateful that i stopped when i did.

well time for dinner. prawns tonight. i made a keto lemon slice and now i have to wait till it cools down. yeah right.

take care xx

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Checking in on Thursday morning.

Byrdie, those drinking dreams are terrible and I feel so grateful when I wake up and realize it was just a dream. They can seem so real, and the amount of wheeling and dealing I do in my head to justify it is amazing.

This has been a rough week for me mentally. No particular reason, just one of those weeks. I am happy to be inching toward the weekend. I'll be volunteering at a vaccination site on Saturday, so that will be exciting to see everyone get their jabs.

Pav

[narilly]

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Happy Un Hung Thursday everyone.

I agree about the drinking dreams, they are terrible and good reminders of why we don't drink.

Yeah, this week is kinda weird for some reason, Pav but today I get the day off SO I am going to get my hair cut. Woohoo!!

Ava, I am really sorry about your DIL's miscarriage, that sucks. One day you will be a Grandma, I know you will be the 'cool' Grandma, lol. The other Grandma's on this site are pretty cool.

Hey, don't drink today!

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Getting coder again, I want spring, oh well. At least it’s not snowing, haha!
I had a surprise visit from 2 horses & about 4 or 5 dogs in my yard this afternoon. They all belong at the horse farm up on the corner. I guess they got bored & decided to see what what was going on across the road, LOL. The owner arrived with harnesses in hand & walked them back home. Something different

Ava, very sorry to hear about the miscarriage. You keep preparing for grandma-hood, it will be here one day. Take care of yourself too! :hug:
Some states over here are relaxing mask mandates & fully opening all businesses. It’s a mistake, we’re no where near ready for that.

Hello to Pav & Narilly & everyone.

Wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[wagmor]

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Ava - I'm so sorry to hear about your DIL's miscarriage. I hope your DIL is doing ok, both physically and emotionally, and that the rest of you all are too. This is a good time to be there for each other as you go through whatever paths of grief you each experience.

Lav - what a great surprise finding the horses and dogs in your yard! The best we get here in the city is someone's escaped chicken.

Rahul - sorry I'm late but huge congrats on your 7 year milestone!


Hanging in there on my end. Still feeling really drained and out of steam, but no longer in truly desperate straits. I did have some stronger than usual but still fleeting thoughts about drinking today. Like more of a temptation than I've felt in at least a couple of years. The notion of just sinking into the "I don't give a sh*t" mindset was really pulling at me. I didn't do anything specific to get past it -- I think something just distracted me, and then I went on with my day. Kind of an unintentional "wait 15 mins cuz it'll probably pass" approach. Good to know it works even when not done on purpose.


Hellos and waves everyone. Happy Fridays to you all.

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Glad you didn't drink, Wags, because you don't drink. That pull of the "easy" release is real. Good to stay vigilant. Hope your wife is ok, and your pup.

Lav, that's a lot of excitement for one day!

Nar, have a great day off. I definitely need a haircut but I feel too lazy. Plus an old friend cuts my hair and I'm not wild about what she does. It has been a lot of years, so going somewhere else might be awkward... I don't really care, and I do love her gossip, so maybe it is worth it.

TFIF is all I have to say.

Pav

[narilly]

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Happy Un Hung Friday everyone.

Well, I am off to the market this morning. The weather is beautiful here right now, blue skies and warm (+11C). I will take it.

My hair looks great, glad to get it cut. I know what you mean Pav, it is hard to go to another hairdresser especially when they sort of become your friend. At least you get some good conversation.

Hello Lav, Byrdie, Ken, Ava, G, Wags...everyone- 3BOW, nice to see you checking in.

Have a good one evabody- and don't drink Today. Friday is No excuse to drink!

[Byrdlady]

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Happy Friday, Nesters!
Wags, I am having a weird time of things myself. We are so close to the light at the end of the tunnel, yet I am anxious. Having missed my doctors appointments and screenings for over a year, I imagine that I’m riddled with cancer! What the heck is that all about? My BIL had a colonoscopy last week and they did a biopsy and found a precancerous area. They removed a polyp but this was a different area. Needless to say, they are worried. He will be seeing a colorectal surgeon soon to address it. This inspired me to call my doctor today and I’m scheduled for my colonoscopy May 6. I’m hoping to have had my vaccine by then. One of the first things I’m going to do is get my hair cut and colored. I have been touching up the front but the back is atrocious. I need some maintenance.

It’s only Friday, not a ticket to BoozeVille! Let’s hang in there! :rara: Byrdie

[Guitarista]

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Hola friends!

Ava, sorry to hear that sad news. I hope they're ok. I want to grow my hair but things are thinning out a little around the 7th chakra area. Good in one way as there's a more unobstructed connection to universal energy and wisdom etc.....

15 mins delay is a bewdy Wags. thoughts/feelings tend to pass within that time as long as we don't latch onto and obsess on the craving. Combined with a distraction such as ringing a friend, doing something else, reading, shaking ass, it's a strong strategy.

This is the look i'm going for this weekend. No ticket here. The box office went bust!

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[Lavande]

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Friday evening greetings Nesters,

Super windy & even colder today, not spring yet!
I’ll probably be searching for a haircut myself next week like everyone else haha!

Wags, so glad you came thru the dark time unscathed. After all this time I don’t think any of us really want to drink. But we are human & we do look relief from stress. Our Tool boxes are full of safe & healthy alternatives, thank goodness. I hope things stay calm for you & you can get your groove back real soon . Btw, I can spare a chicken or two if you need company, LOL

Pav, I kept looking out the windows to see if my ‘neighbors’ came back for another visit today, haha. Still not sure how those horses managed to get a gate open & why they decided to come here.

Hello to narilly, Byrdie & G! Hello to everyone!

Wishing everyone a safe & cozy night in the nest!

Lav

[ThreeBottlesOfWine]

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Hi Nesters,

A friend got back in touch with me yesterday, we used to be drinking buddies, I told him I quit and he was totally cool with that, we decided to meet today for a coffee, I was looking forward to it actually, he would have been the first person I would have seen and socialised with for over 6 months. This morning he texted saying he had a really bad hangover and couldn't meet. Imagine that. He loses a whole day and a chance to meet up with a friend. That's just a gentle reminder of one of the reasons why I chose to quit, I certainly don't miss the hangovers.

I am 65 days AF today, furthest I've ever got and am happy as Larry, wouldn't go back on it for the world, am proud of myself when I dismiss the temptations and devil in the head. Just one, just one in a Friday... Yeah... Sure I miss my little trips to the city where I would drop off at a terrace and have a beer or two on the way to the dispensary... But there's other things I do now to fill that gap, healthy things and I don't want to go back there.

Yeah, life's good. Job is great, I am sooo focused... Taxes getting paid, getting a mortgage and a nice house in the country, opening a new business.

I am totally in the midst of my virtue.

Loving your stories, beautiful stories I can relate to so much. You are wonderful warm people and I love having you all as part of my daily routine.

Much love to you all.