Newbies Nest

[NoSugar]

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I took some time this morning to read some other threads.

Battle, thank you for your explanation of being trans. I find myself tied up in knots even talking about the subject for fear of saying the wrong thing and insulting someone, which is the last thing I want to do. It is great that you are getting yourself back on the track you want to be on. You can do it.

Lav, I saw Tower of Power a few years ago and had a great time - Lucky you!

Hope you feel better, Steady. It is gray and cold here so hot sounds good but I know AUS has been getting some crazy hot temps and I'm sure that's not fun at all.

My nearby family has the situation of dad not very sick but covid +, mom pretty sick but covid -, one son slightly sick and negative, other son just fine. What a weird disease! It is hard to figure out if/when to have contact with any of them.

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

We had sun briefly then the rain arrived. Still pretty mild for an east coast February 60 degrees!
Feeling ‘normal’ so I guess Covid has left the premises. Grateful

Wags, I know you’re cold weather will work it’s way over here, sooner or later haha! Wishing just doesn’t make winter go away.

Steady, good to see you & I hope you’re feeling better now.

NS, I hope your family is better soon. This virus is not fun at all.
I think I was probably still a senior in high school & my husband was in his first year of college when Tower of Power showed up at his school. In other words, it’s been a good long while Lol. Looking forward to the show this weekend.

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all, or morning really, just, haha. Last night was brutal, day was a little better, hopefully tonight I'll get some kind of sleep, I'm so damn tired haha.

Lav - glad you're feeling better

Steady - The relapse was down to some really heavy life stuff, anything short of a complete collapse in the financial viability of my life plans for the next three years+ and I'm golden, the decision was very conscious, bad admittedly, but I knew what I was doing and I'm paying for it now.

NS - I'm always open to questions, and I'll never be offended by curiosity or honest mistakes

[TJAF]

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Battle, I went back to my first post nearly 10 years ago. The heading was one week down a lifetime to go. I don't know why this time was different but there is a clue in my last paragraph of that first post

. "Last week after a particularly heavy weekend of drinking I had enough. It's been a week and the symptoms have been as tough as ever. I dont get DT's but the anxiety, fatigue, insomnia, stomach cramps et al have been ever present. Folks, those of you with more courage see a doctor!
The cravings come at the same time, 5 pm but they pass quickly, mostly I remember the reason why this time is for real. Part of that determination is the reason why I've posted. I could use the support".

I think the biggest takeaway was the fact that I leaned heavily on this site for support. I know its a cliche but if I could do it then you can do it now. Keep at it. It will stick

[wagmor]

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One tired Wags checking in. My 92-y-o dad seems to be mentally deteriorating more rapidly all of a sudden, so I've had a lot on my hands and my mind. I honestly don't know how anybody does this, especially without any other family members to help. My wife is supportive but there's only so much it's fair to ask of her when her own parents are also aging (out of state though, not right here).

I have so many reasons I can't drink. I have lots of reasons I won't drink. There is NO reason *to* drink.

So glad that's off the table cuz this would be even harder with al in the picture.

Take care everyone.

[Lavande]

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Friday evening greetings Nesters,

The rain moved through here now it’s getting chilly again. It’s still winter, like it or not. Grateful to be feeling pretty good at this point.

Wags, i know the pain of watching your parents deteriorate right in front of your eyes. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this now. Have you looked into getting a home health aide to lend a hand? He should qualify for at least a few visits/week. They can help with bathing, dressing, meals, etc & give you a bit of a break. Hang in there, drinking would never ever help this situation:hug:

TJ, it’s so true the support during the early days really makes a huge difference. It helped me knowing that I wasn’t the only one dealing with an Al problem & seeing others ahead of me succeed was great!

Battle, hope you can catch up on some sleep & give your body a chance to heal itself. Treat yourself well, like a best friend you really love

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening/morning all

Still not sleeping but working hard, meeting today went better than expected. I signed up to volunteer at a big music festival this Summer in exchange for a free ticket and food, I'm super excited, a little nervous - not exactly the environment most suited to sobriety, but I was always good at not drinking when seeing live bands, and its something to look forward to.

Sending hugs your way Wags, that's a rough situation

[TJAF]

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Lav, in those early days I really needed to be accountable to someone. I was quitting in the shadows and I knew from countless tries that I could never be accountable to myself. So, after really struggling for a week I stumbled onto this forum and what do you know folks like you, no Sugar, Available Byrdie, Kensho and many others became my sounding board. More importantly, you were the folks I held myself accountable to. Here we are 10 years later. Feels pretty big. I've stayed away after awhile but with 10 years knocking on the door I figured its my turn to give back

[available]

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Evening nesters

STeady the heat was horrendous, 42 celcius my way but thankfully i bought the portable air con out of the garage and set it up. the fur babies and I managed to get through those two days of hell.

Lav, the tireds with covid for me were horrendous, took me weeks to get over and throw in some brain fog. I am glad you got an easy covid. We have a 5th vax available now but i cant get it as have to wait 6 months as i had covid in december.

TJ, i knew also that i had to stick on here like glue in the early days as otherwise left to my own devices, i knew i would fail dismally and i did relapse a few times until a bit of pressure from NS to pick a quit date had me up and moving forward, also having Pav as a quit buddy helped enormously. I never regret being "lunatic Linda" in those early days and i have never regretted persevering to get sober and stay that way. Hard to believe its now 10 years plus for a lot of us and we are still being accountable.

NS, i hope you can avoid covid. the hospital is just starting to allow everyone to not wear masks (except in wards etc) and its funny seeing workmates faces again.

Battle, glad to see you back on track. i think i relapsed about three times before it stuck. Mind you i had good excuses to drink, my daughter was getting married so i had lots of parties and god forbid i could not drink. i didnt think i could not drink and have a good time but the bonus of time showed me different. That is excellent Battle that you get to a music festival for free. Its good to focus on the positives.

Carl is doing quite well with his knee, i now put him on the bed with his lead tied to the bedhead. left him the other day thinking he was not going anywhere and next thing i knew, he was out the backyard with me. mmm so back to the crate he went for a couple of days. he doesnt seem to have done any damage. Bindi is going to see a diabetic specialist as her glucose levels are sky high and she was so unwell the other day as she had ketones that were off the grid with the urine stick test. funny how you learn stuff you didnt have a damn idea about before.

Coffee with a friend tomorrow so that will be nice, i just need to not buy anything, see how that goes.

take care xx

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Feeling more like February should, I did enjoy the brief warmup though

Battle, that’s very cool about the music festival. Go & enjoy & prove to yourself you can do it entirely sober & still have a good time. We all had a first time doing things newly sober, I smile now thinking about that

TJ, I am grateful the forum is still around all these years later & not just for us. There’s plenty of newbies out in the world who haven’t found us yet but hopefully we can squeeze them into the nest & give them a hand. 10 years does kinda fly by, don’t you think?

Ava, I got my last Covid booster in September along with my flu shot. If they come out with more boosters, i’ll get them too. We were lucky that we didn’t get awfully sick.
Glad to hear Carl is feeling well post op. Is Bindi on daily insulin? Sounds like it’s time. Good luck!

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all, studying hard today, really enjoying it, hoping I can keep up this pace, a lot easier sober. Having ups and downs as you'd expect, but feeling better about it this time.

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

Just home from a concert we really enjoyed ‘Tower of Power’. That’s a band that formed in 1968 they still have 3 of the original members, wow!

Battle, glad you’re feeling good

Wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[wagmor]

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Hi all, seems like a reasonably good weekend for nesters near and far, even if some challenges. Hanging in there myself. Unexpectedly had today completely off, and used it to get a few tasks/errands done and to relax a bit. During errands we walked past a store/building that used to be one of the several liquor stores I would rotate through in a pathetic attempt to make my heavy drinking less obvious. That liquor store has closed sometime in the past few years but it still felt good to walk by and feel nothing but disgust - not for the store workers, but for my drinking self and for al.

So glad I don't drink. It would just make things harder.

[Lavande]

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Monday evening greetings Nesters,

Cloudy here tonight, waiting for some rain I think.

Wags, I know the feeling about those stores & I haven’t stepped into any of them in almost 14 years now. It all seems like another lifetime, it’s history now. I have wondered if they missed me, Lol
There are so many reasons to remain grateful for our quits & staying away from the booze stores is just one of them. Hope you are well.

@Battle, how are you doing?

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening,

Rough day. The painkillers I was taking for off-label purposes were prescribed to me for legitimate nerve pain which has hit me with a vengeance today. I'm trying to contact my GP in the morning for some alternatives but have had to give in and take a pill to be able to function/not cry. Still AF, studying hard and everything else is going ok, just difficult to deal with, hopefully I'll get something else prescribed but given how my doctors run it'll be a while before I get any help.