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    #1

    The long and lonely road

    Thank you new friend for directing me here...

    I have just joined. The only light in the tunnel for me is the fact that I am not in denial re my drinking. What a shocker when I evaluated myself! I thought the perspiring in menopause (although I am on meds). I embark only with this forum on my side, as I do not feel safe "going public". I don't know what the steps are, but if I can make it from meal to meal and cuppa to cuppa, I'll be ok. I am glad I found you. I am scared, unsure, lonely AND excited. Take care from sunny South Africa.
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    #2
    The long and lonely road

    Well done Solitaire, you are on your way now!
    Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
    Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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      #3
      The long and lonely road

      Thank you! Collecting kids now, and making plans to be very busy this afternoon. I'll check in later, and maybe share a bit more of myself.

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        #4
        The long and lonely road

        Welcome solitaire. keep with us, reading and writing. Youve taken the first big step by admitting to it and by being here means you want to do something about it. Thats great.
        To Infinity And Beyond!!

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          #5
          The long and lonely road

          Wlcome Solitaire,
          You've made the first step by admitting you have a problem. Looking forward to hearing from you.
          AF since 7/26/2009




          "There is nothing noble in being superior to other man. The true nobility is being superior to your previous self."--Hindu proverb.

          "Sobriety isn't a landing but rather a journey." anonymous

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            #6
            The long and lonely road

            Welcome; you are among many friends!
            My creed; "Be the friend you seek, the spouse yours deserves and the Parent your children need"

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              #7
              The long and lonely road

              Welcome.....you are among friends. Read and post. That was the advice I got here a couple of weeks ago.... It has helped me so much!
              RUM IS POISON AF since 09/28/09

              "The hangover last a lot longer than the buzz!!!" quote from FloridaBoy

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                #8
                The long and lonely road

                Well, 9 new souls on my journey... I am 1 of those "nice drinkers" you know? Quite intelligent, attractive enough, definitely witty enough, with friendships that go back 40 years. My marriage is more than 20 years. My 3 kids are awesome, hitting puberty, so part of my wake-up is them starting to ask questions. This THING crept up on me... Until recently I felt good after 1 or 2, or shall I say more functional? It is now affecting every aspect of my life, although very few people suspect a thing. All I have guts for right now is to say I'll live from drink to drink, but may they be weeks apart, please? Life in South Africa is very social (or maybe it's just mine?). A good bottle of red wine is $2. A good vodka is $4. So it's affordable to most and in vast quantities. I so wish I could take a week off from life... To put thoughts together, maybe write a little... But my lifestyle does not allow it. I want to learn more about this THING! Does it make you aggressive? Because I never was and my fuse is becoming shorter, So many questions... Thank you for listening.

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                  #9
                  The long and lonely road

                  AL is very sneaky...at least with me. Once I realized AL was in control, I fired him. Just like any dismissal, you notice things more. Colors are brighter, sounds are clearer and tastes start coming back. After about 4 days AF (Alcohol Free) you will gain an appetite for things before avoided or passed on.

                  Take it day by day, starting with just today. It is long enough, don't fill the day with thoughts of the past or future.

                  I noticed I started to get a quick temper around day 25 and that lasted until day 32...my problem, at this point, is I don't know the correct way to deal with that. Looking forward to reaching that milestone again and trying different approaches.

                  Right now, I'm building my life again. Starting with today
                  My creed; "Be the friend you seek, the spouse yours deserves and the Parent your children need"

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                    #10
                    The long and lonely road

                    Welcome Solitare.
                    My suggestion would be to read the book MWO. You can download it from here or if you join as a subscriber you get a free copy as well as a bottle of Kudzu shipped to you, which I found to be a huge help in curbing my cravings.
                    And keep reading and posting.

                    Stick around. The program does work if you are 110% commited.
                    "The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it"

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                      #11
                      The long and lonely road

                      welcome Sol

                      Nice to have you here. Hiding such a consuming life challenge is stressful enough. Many here have helped my journey get off to a very good start. I stumbled on this site just last week and my nerves are much calmer....now I can think about my plan. No one in my life knows my struggle with this. Good home life, good career, good friends...It is scary to change course but I must and I will!
                      Welcome and I wish you all the best on your journey:l
                      a ship in the harbor is a safe ship...but ships were not built for harbors.....

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                        #12
                        The long and lonely road

                        Welcome, Solitaire, :l

                        We sound like we have a lot in common. I'm a nice drinker, too, sociable, etc. I'll have been married for 20 years this year, my "kids" are now 17 and 12. It crept up on me, too. I'll be 48 soon. I don't know the exact date, event, time, it was a gradual thing I guess. But it's here to stay, I know that now. There's no turning back, just moving forward.

                        I highly recommend the My Way Out book, too. It really opened my eyes to a lot of things.

                        Kids sure have a funny way of helping us out, huh? Take care,
                        Becoming
                        "Action is...the enemy of thought." :l Joseph Conrad

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                          #13
                          The long and lonely road

                          Duh, I never answered your question! LOL Yes, for me it's making me more agressive. I don't know if it's the AL (I think it is), menopause or both but it doesn't matter. It's here and it's not good.
                          "Action is...the enemy of thought." :l Joseph Conrad

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                            #14
                            The long and lonely road

                            Never Give Up

                            With menopause, kids and all of lifes stressers, like everyone said so far, you are in the right place.

                            The Boosts You Receive from visiting in Here are Wonderfully Helpful.

                            :welcome:

                            :l pass it on

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                              #15
                              The long and lonely road

                              Welcome, solataire

                              Hey, with you on the menopause thing, girlfriend! How much can I sweat without losing weight? And since when did french fries dipped in peanut butter become a midnight snack.

                              Sad to say, I am a nice drinker also--sociable up until that last one--then I am an ass. But hey, since I can't remember, does it count???

                              You are in the right place!:welcome:

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