How did this happen?
Hey Willow, Snap, Lil Michelle and Becoming Me,
Thanks for the encouraging words! It is so isolating having these secrets. It is good to hear from other strugglers. I am even afraid to share the full truth with my husband, because what if he ends of leaving me, and then he'll use it against me in court to try and get my son! (I'm a lawyer, so I think of these things!) I have always been such a productive, responsible person and never had a problem drinking until the last few years. I had three teenage daughters, with serious emotional issues themselves (eating disorders, depression,etc.), and with all the worry and stress, I got in the habit of drinking a glass of wine after work to calm my nerves. Then after my son was born in 2002, I stayed home from work to be with him for five years, and I started to feel worthless and unappreciated (and overweight, unattractive, etc.) My wine habit continued each night, and when my doctor husband stayed late at work until 7:00 or 8:00, I had already had 3 glasses by the time he got home, which does not help in the communication department. I just don't understand how I got to this position, and now that my life has calmed down and I'm back to work, I still can't kick the habit. There is alcoholism in my family, so i know it's genetic. And I live in a small town too, so I know how hard you try to keep things secret, lest it hit the rumor mill. I also go without alcohol for days or weeks, and then feeling strong, decide I can handle it again. WRONG! It never turns out well, so why are we so gullible? I look forward to sharing these fears and struggles with you -- it seems like none of my friends are in the same boat, or they are not talking about it!!
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