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    #1

    Can I do my first AF day?

    Hi all,

    I have cut back drastically in the past two days as some of you know. I want to make today my first AF day! I'm worried because today is an enormously stressful day for me in terms of work, and taking my 12 year old to a very anxiety producing doctor's appointment. I am very nervous about this appointment, which happens quarterly, and always "drives me to drink." What doesn't?

    This morning there was a big news report about alcohol,women and cancer. I'm sure many of you saw it, and the news is not pretty. My 14 year old son saw it and came to me very concerned, and said, "Mom, you don't drink every day, do you?" I'm ashamed to say, I did not tell him the truth. He just looked so worried, and in the back of my mind were two things: I'm going to quit today; and, I wonder if I can have one beer and he won't know it? How disturbed is that? I am trying to teach him honesty, and I want to model that for him. Not to mention the fact that AL is not the greatest thing in the world.

    So, any thoughts from any of you would be so appreciated. Help me make it through today! I need to keep myself healthy for them, and for myself. I'm a little shaky this morning, probably partly withdrawal, too much coffee and anxiety. Yikes!

    Thank you all so much!

    crazy
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    #2
    Can I do my first AF day?

    Crazy, I thought too that my stressors would prevent me from giving up AL, but the funny thing is, I cope better now with stressful situations than I EVER have done before.
    You can do this, the first day, well few days is hard, but it does get easier and as you go on, your pride in your accomplishments will kick in giving you strength. Its not an easy ride to start, but its a damn site easier than the roller coaster of drunkenness.
    Write down all your reasons for giving up drink and read then in moments of weakness.
    Stay strong...
    Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
    Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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      #3
      Can I do my first AF day?

      I'm with you ... I've cut back from 1-2 bottles of wine nightly to nothing last night. I'm doing the L-Glut & Kudzu which I had from a previous time here. My husband is on board and trying to go AF himself so that is encouraging. I broke down and told my sister (my bestest friend) that I was drinking too much and didn't think I could stop. We cried and cried. She asked my dh to please help me cut back on my drinking and while I've asked him a zillion times ... her asking made a great impression. I really want to do this ... I'm told I'm strong and that I can but I don't feel so strong ... Wondering how long before a person feels better too as the was I feel today is pretty much a "hangover" even though I've not had a drink since Monday at 5 pm and today is 10 am Wed. Anyway, enough of my ramblings, I just want you to know that you are not alone, I'm here too. Do it for yourself, do it for your son. Bigs hugs ....
      Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the know to the unknown."
      Author Unknown :h

      AF - Sept 4, 2012
      10 days - Sept 13, 2012
      2 weeks - Sept 17, 2012
      Slip on the weekend but tried too moderate!
      AF - Sept 24, 2012 (get back on the headaches not worth it)
      Slippery slope Oct 1 ..... Trying to not give up!


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        Can I do my first AF day?

        heya crazy
        don't worry about tomarrow. just TODAY. that is all. just don't buy it. if you can do that you can worry about the rest latter. try to get a plan for later tonight... a walk, a bath, a magazine, any kind of diversion. good luck to you
        no time like the present

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          #5
          Can I do my first AF day?

          Thank you, thank you! Baby steps, I guess, towards big goals. I'll report back tomorrow. I deeply appreciate the support!

          Crazy

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            #6
            Can I do my first AF day?

            Hi CZ4Wine & Bouchard

            I like what Skinny said: walking, magazines and especially a hot bath (calms me down).

            I've heard too that Vitamin B75 - 100 (highpotency) or Vitamin B Stress works well for nervousness.

            If your son is asking if you drink everyday, he may have an idea that you do. Kids are very observant about their environment(s).

            CZ4Wine and Bouchard, all the best . . . try to visit here as much as you can, and follow some of the advise - very helpful advise.

            God Bless . . .

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              #7
              Can I do my first AF day?

              I hope you are able to get back from the doctor and not drink. Tomorrows are always better when you are AF....believe me... I'm 29 days AF and loving all my tomorrows. I've slipped so many times that I know it can happen at any time... I just take it one day at a time.

              Best wishes for you today and tomorrow!!
              RUM IS POISON AF since 09/28/09

              "The hangover last a lot longer than the buzz!!!" quote from FloridaBoy

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                #8
                Can I do my first AF day?

                Ya know, I know Startingover is so right. We all do this to mask some kind of reality, to not deal with things but when we are AF, that's when we are at our best and can actually deal with reality. I have so much stress all the time and if you look at things here, everything I wanted to proceed with never even started.

                For me, I am too struggling, I plan to keep reading posts, work, (fit dinner in at some point), try to get into some kind of show or movie, anything...and if all else fails towards the end of the night have some tea and possibly take something to help me sleep. It will be one day more past this madness. Even if it is one of my stupid benadryls for my allergies (and I'm not all that stuffy right now - ha).

                Seriously, I think reading and responding to some posts here not only helps others but it is helping me and keep my mind diverted.

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