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[meditation mama]

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Hi Texas52.. Start by posting your own thread with your story so we can get to know you. I see you only have 4 posts, so you need to give it a shot. We will respond, but you have to get the ball rolling. Let us help you by understanding what's going on with you.. We are defianately here..

xoxox

MM

[ronaldolover]

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I gave in and had ONE glass of wine last night. I guess I shouldn't be that upset....but what was the point??? I am not going to drink tonight....I see how useless it was to do it last night. I might have to find something to do outside the house...but it's worth it! Starting over at day one......

[Sweaty Betty]

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Hi RonaldoL - do you keep wine in the house? I just can't. It might be an idea to make wine unavailable for a while. Takes away the option. I had a few false starts but did manage a 30 day stint, which gave me such a HUGE sense of achievement. I'm working on what I'm going to do as regards moderating or being AF - but its all on my drinktracker to see. Keep reading and posting - and keep an AF drink in your hand. It helps!

Bx

[Seacailin]

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Welcome aboard!!:welcome:

[savon19]

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(Oh SEA - I had to laugh at your new avatar!! Too funny. You think they're implants? Surely, someone wouldn't do that Deliberately...??!)

Anway, just wanted to say Welcome to both Ronald & Texas! This is a great place. With great people.

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[meditation mama]

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Morning, Ron!

It sounded to me like you were on your way to a drink yesterday.. do you feel like that? I only say that cuz I know how I talk when that little voice in my head starts in on me. Things like "trying" and "I hope I make it thorugh the day", instead of saying I'm really struggling - help! Just food for thought. I agree with SB, you just can't have alcohol in the house if you are trying to be AF. For me, when I give into that one drink it makes me feel horrible, not relieved. Man, I just don't see why we do that - do you?

Today is a new day, buddy! Go at it with all your conviction and really, really use us here when you are struggling. No shame, no jusdgement - we are all here for the same reason.

Have a good day, my friend..

MM

[ronaldolover]

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Thanks for the reply MM! I think I knew I was on my way to a drink yesterday....I was having an internal fight with myself all evening and I gave in....but for what?? You guys are really a great help though....it helps to have people who understand how I feel. I am getting hopeful again....

[ronaldolover]

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:H One good thing though.....I had a dream last night that I went to the bar I always used to hang out at....where I was a "regular"...and they kicked me out and told me they never wanted to see me again. That could be a good sign!!

[Seacailin]

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LOL Savvy
It hurts my back just looking at that pic.

[ronaldolover]

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I gave in tonight...I have had too much too drink...I'm a failure....someone please tell me what to do....it can't be this hard....

[greeneyes]

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I'll give it a shot ronaldo!

Pour out your drink.
Pour out the rest of the alcohol.
Start guzzling water.
Eat something healthy.
Take some vitamins.
Go to chat and ask for support. (I have to go to bed now)


Don't wait until tomorrow to try again. Start right now! You can do it! You did a couple days so you CAN!

[ronnie]

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Hi Ron, you are not a failure and you must not think like that, it looks like we have joined this site at about the same time. I tended to get tottally out of it with drink every 2nd night but what I am doing is just having half the amount that I used to drink and trying to go every 3rd night then every 4th night. It does'nt always work for me but I just get up and start again. I cant set myself a long term goal I can only do it a little bit at a time, even if I have to go one hour at a time it seams to work for me but you need to find out what will work for you and not to worry if it takes you a little time to find out, you will find it. I am not even sure if the system that I am using is working for me I will just have to wait to see.
Keep smilling you will get there.:h

[ronaldolover]

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Ronnie, thanks for the encouragement. I am so disappointed in myself today. And I feel awful.....I just have such a hard time because I tell myself all day that I can go without drinking and then I give in...and for no good reason at all. Maybe short term goals would be best for me. One day at a time, I guess.....

[bouchard01]

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Yep go for one day, each day and soon they add up ... keep trying, and for sure change up your routine. If you get that craving, do something anything different that will keep your mind off the craving and it will pass ... You CAN do this!!!!

[meditation mama]

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Heya, Ronaldo.. Damn! Today is a new day, but you can't just say - oh, I blew it and feel like crap - you have to be proactive. It is just too hard to fight not to.. I'm with you, Ronaldo, I'm only on day 3 right now, but I have protected myself like a fortress! No alcohol in the house, I'm on the phone with someone on my drive home, or I check in here before I leave work, I have plenty of non-alcoholic beverages in my house, and if all else fails, I just go to bed - even if it's 7pm, even if I have to take a bath, a Melatonin (or the such) to get to sleep. Sometimes it's just easier to get the day over by going to bed than to sit around pacing and fighting.. Make sense?

So, yes, short term goals are a really good way to get through the first tough part. But, first and foremost you have to make sure you don't have any alcohol around. Are you stopping to get it on your way home from work?

Lastly.. you gotta come here and say you are struggling - let everyone help talk you off the ledge. I have done that more than a dozen times in the past. This is a fabulous place with amazing support, but you have to ask.. Go to chat!