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    This teenager needs some help...

    Hello.
    My name is Lucy. And I am 17 years old.
    I know I probably sound really young, especially to be seeking help for drinking.
    But I'm so scared of myself right now that I didn't know what to do!
    I literally just went on google and looked for some alcohol counciling near where I live. But I feel too embarassed to actually go to one of these places.
    I drink. A lot. And I am dependant. I guess that does make me an alcoholic. But that's something that makes me sick to admit!
    I woke up this morning feeling like crap. I'd thrown up 3 times last night at this party me and some of my friends had. I was so drunk I've blacked out parts of the night.
    I've been shaking all day and I haven't been able to stomach food.
    It's not just the little parties... I'm struggling to remember the last night I went without alcohol. So tonight feels very strange...
    I drink by myself a lot. And when I know theres some wine in the house, I can't help starting to drink at stupid times of the day. The earliest I've started drinking is 11am... recently anyway.
    I feel so sad all the time. I just start crying.. I have people around me who are there for me. I have friends. I have both my parents there all the time. And I have the most wonderful boyfriend who I've been with for 3 years now.
    I just need some people to talk to. No one knows I've signed up to this. But I want to sort this out myself. I need to get through this before I get really out of controll.
    Thank you so much. Lucy x

    #2
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    Lucy I think you should go under the membership list and look up Roberta Jewel and send her a private message to make sure that it is legal to have a under age member here on this site. maybe she will have ideas for you ???? I want to help you if I am allowed to ???
    It could be that you must be 18yrs. old to be on this forum....I HOPE FOR YOUR SAKE THAT I AM WRONG !!!
    sigpicEyes on the PRIZE, a SOBER Future !!!

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      #3
      This teenager needs some help...

      Welcome Lucy!

      Please come here for chat and messages. There are lots of things to learn, and knowledge is power.

      Don't worry much about shaking and stomach. But DO hydrate a lot, lots of water or tea. Don't take tylenol or anything with acetominophen in it, because that can damage yourliver. Do take ibuprophin if needed but remember it can irritate your stomach. To ease your stomach back, try a cookie or some oatmeal - complex carbs.

      And ask away. We all got in the same boat, and tried to fix it, sometimes failing and trying again. Lots of ideas and success stories here too.

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        #4
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        Lucy, I really think you need to see your doctor as you sound like you need help, not just with the drinking, but with depression. Do you have a doctor in your local surgery that you feel you could talk to? If you are worried about speaking to your doctor and starting to cry, maybe you could ask for the last appointment of the day, because then there's no-one looking at you as you leave, and you don't feel you have to rush.

        Are your parents aware that you're drinking so much? If they are, I'm sure they're worried about you. Do you think you could talk to either your mum or your dad about this?

        It's important you speak to someone about how you feel - you put yourself at risk when you drink a lot, not just your health, but your safety, too.

        Hope you manage to find help soon x

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          #5
          This teenager needs some help...

          Lucy, I am so pleased to see somebody your age coming here for help. I am possibly the only person similar age to you on here (18). I hope and pray that you're allowed to stay on here and get help, I wish more than anything I'd gotten help sooner, and I would be horrified if your are prevented from getting the advice that has changed my life so much, just because there's a few months different in our ages. If you're allowed to stay, feel free to PM me for any advice, I'd love the chance to help you and without wishing to seem rude to the older members of the forum I think it could be just what you need to talk to somebody near enough your own age who knows what you're going through.

          All the best

          TG
          The way I change the past is by not repeating it
          -James Hetfield, Metallica

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            #6
            This teenager needs some help...

            Hi Lucy, you did a good job finding this site, there's lot's of information here and lots of stories about what can happen when you let alcohol get too much of a grip on you over the years. Sounds like you are looking at yourself 'from the outside looking in' so to speak and not liking what you see. Maybe you are drinking to cover up other feelings? Maybe there are reasons you are drinking that you can talk about with friends or someone you trust or even a professional on a one to one basis? It always helps to talk, from 17 to 70, we're all just human and need to rely on one another. You sound a little depressed and that happens at all stages of life. Remember you deserve to ask for help. You sound like a very cool young woman. Tell us what you decide for next steps as you go along - make sure to talk to someone in the next few days. It really will help. Love and hugs, Ann...x
            Ann

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              #7
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              My head is feeling a lot clearer this morning... And thank you so much for all your replies. I need to get this help for myself and all the people around me. I'm an only child and I don't want my parents to suffer with the agony of loosing me. I'm not saying I'm going to dye soon... But if I carry on the way I have I know I'll die young. And I want to live more than anything! I think for the last couple of years I have just been confused about what is living... And thinking that partying with my friends and getting drunk all the time is what living really is!
              It's not. I know that now.
              Thank you for all your replies. That's just what I needed to read this morning!
              It was an odd experience last night not having a drink. But I just spent most of the night on the phone to my boyfriend and told him about all of this and finding this website. He said I shouldn't beat myself up too much about it because he knows people that drink a hell of a lot more than me and don't care.. But I don't want to become one of those people.
              I hope for my own sake I am allowed to chat on this website... I would've thought when I entered my date of birth it would've been restricted. I'm so glad to fidn someone my age on here too! :l
              I have an appointment at the doctors on Monday for a cervical cancer jab, but I will talk to her about the depression thing. The only problem I have with that is my mum was once on medication for depression and it just made her worse.. She wasn't the same person.
              But I'll see what she has to say about it anyway.

              Thanks again for all the support!
              I'll be sure to drop some of you a message or post another thread to tell you how I'm getting on.
              This is just what I needed.
              Thank you!!!! :thanks:

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                #8
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                Only just saw this, but wanted to say welcome!
                Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; He's the one who will keep you on track. Proverbs 3:6 The Message

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                  #9
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                  Hi Lucy. I think you are a very admirable and brave person. Well done you! :goodjob: You have been through so much, so young and it is wonderful to see you reaching out for help at this stage, before things get any worse. The very best of luck to you and hopefully you will drop a post from time to time to say Hello! I will be thinking of you..Juno

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                    #10
                    This teenager needs some help...

                    Hi Lucy glad to hear you feel better. Do speak with the doc when you go in. Don't let yourself get isolated in your feelings. Sounds like your beginning to plan a great job of being responsible for getting yourself sorted out! Keep going! Love Ann...x:goodjob::l
                    Ann

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                      #11
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                      Dear Lucy

                      I started drinking heavily when I was your age, first at parties. I was always the one that was most wasted. Then the drinking got more frequent til it was nearly everynight. It took 20 YEARS for me to realise I had to stop. Please do what you have to do to stop drinking NOW. It will only get worse and you have a great life ahead of you. Don't let booze rob you of your youth, you will not reach your potential if you are drunk or hungover.

                      Wish I could turn back the clock and tell the 17 year old me to stop.
                      If alcohol made you happy I should be the happiest person alive! I'm not.

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                        #12
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                        Blue Sky;594375 wrote: Dear Lucy

                        I started drinking heavily when I was your age, first at parties. I was always the one that was most wasted. Then the drinking got more frequent til it was nearly everynight. It took 20 YEARS for me to realise I had to stop. Please do what you have to do to stop drinking NOW. It will only get worse and you have a great life ahead of you. Don't let booze rob you of your youth, you will not reach your potential if you are drunk or hungover.

                        Wish I could turn back the clock and tell the 17 year old me to stop.
                        Ditto
                        :flower: I'm not as good as I'm gonna get, but I'm better than I used to be.

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                          #13
                          This teenager needs some help...

                          Welcome! I am glad you are feeling better today.

                          I am so friggen proud of those who are young that come to this site looking for help. Like many others, I wish I had known where I was headed at a younger age. I wish I had of known about the health effects, mental anguish, and just how destructive alcohol can be.

                          Although I didn't start drinking heavily until my early 30's, looking back, I have always been a binge drinker. I was always the drunkest at parties, etc. That should have been a red flag for what was in store - but we simply didn't have access to knowledge and understanding back then. It was 'normal' to get drunk when you drank (bars, parties, holidays, etc). It was normal to drink every night - maybe not to excess; but every night was fine in my family....

                          So give yourself a big ol' pat on the back! I hope to see you around here. Don't worry about the under age thing. I honestly think if you have the desire to get this under control there shouldn't be any problems. xoxo

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                            #14
                            This teenager needs some help...

                            Lucy,

                            Welcome, so glad you found us!
                            You've made a good decision to take control of your life now before things get worse.
                            Stay close, we'll all make sure you're OK.

                            Stay strong,
                            Lavande
                            AF since 03/26/09
                            NF since 05/19/09
                            Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                              #15
                              This teenager needs some help...

                              Welcome Lucy......lots of help here. People are here to help, we've all been their. Do what ever you feel you need to do....AA, etc, but come back here for support. IAD.
                              ?Be who you are and say what you feel because
                              those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.?
                              Dr. Seuss

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