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    Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

    I know this might not be the norm but I have been wondering about something.

    My fiance and I (getting married 23rd May 2009, second marriage for both) have been together for 11 years (have 7 children between us).

    We love each other dearly and definately if there is two people that belong together it's us :l, However especially over the last year I have lost my sex drive. When I drink at night I get sooooooo lethargic I fall asleep all the time and the next night even if I don't drink I may be in a great mood but just not want sex. Is that strange!! Our sex life previously has always been fantastic and there is nothing that has happend that should change that.

    I have had hormone tests but they are OK - so is it the alcohol?
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    Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

    Course you are allowed ask! Anything goes except camel toes.... oh I am a poet and I dont know it! I think most people's problem is the opposite of yours in that once AL goes out the window so does the sex! My husband said he didnt realise when I gave up drinking that he was also giving up sex otherwise he would not have agreed to me giving up drinking.
    BH

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      Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

      I'll take quality over quantity any day...Mr Cakes & I both agree that sober sex = better sex.
      But it's true...it doesn't happen as often!

      xo

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        Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

        Thanks for the info.

        Maybe it just takes a while for the hormones to adjust back to normal then hopefully things will pick up. At least I have one hell of a patient and understanding man by my side.

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          Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

          For me being AF has been a night and day shift in the sexual arena. Drinking = not anything special......Sober = more and much better.....hang in there Millie, it will all come back and be better than ever.....congrats on the big day coming up!!! (My sweet husband and I have six between us and it is a non stop fun ride....)

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            Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

            good question millie, I suppose it's different for different people but i can honestly say that now that i am sober I can feel so much more...I mean really feel in every way...I love to touch and be touch now. When I was drinking I was just sorta giving sex as a way of saying "I am sorry that you are married to a drunk"...Now we MAKE LOVE and enjoy the experience of being completely there during the whole experience...Make sense ???
            sigpicEyes on the PRIZE, a SOBER Future !!!

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              Am I aloud to ask - how's the sex drive

              I agree with Evie...the sex while drinking is kind of like an obligation. Afterall, my primary relationship has been with a wine bottle for a while. I'm still workinng on changing that so I can't comment a lot on how it is after getting sober but I can imagine it only gets better...and I know it was in the past when I wasn't drinking much.

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