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[LucyFem]

Hi all, day 10 for me and dont want to blow it... So my dilema is as follows:My son has gone to my parents as they are back from Spain for a short time, hes there till Monday. I have been asked out on a date tonight, for dinner, wooo hoooo, which is all very nice, but i dont want to blow my 10 days AL free. He obviously donst know of my drink issue, if he did, i doupt hed have asked me out, lol. Hes a Pilot and has a flight early in the morning so he wont be drinking, thats why i thought it would be nice to go as no temptation from him. Am i placeing myself in a dangerous situation as its such early days for me?????. If i dont go, id sit at home and watch Saturday evening tv, so the temptation is still there. See how powerful this alcohol is over us all, people who dont have the alcohol issue wouldnt even be thinking all this. xxxx

[savon19]

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Hey Lucy - sounds like the Perfect date to me!! He won't be drinking, as you said, so what's the problem? It would almost be rude of you to drink when he can't (in case he wanted to)...

GO OUT and Enjoy! And be sure to report back!! (Haven't been on a date in a LONG time, so I would love to experience it through yours! )

[LucyFem]

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savon19...

Thats what i thought, in fact by going will be less temptation than sitting in on my own dont you think?. Plus hes a very nice man, and if i drank only just one glass it would lead to me drinking the bar dry believe me. As for reporting back, i will do so gladly, lets hope its late in the eveining, lol, meaning the date goes well. Im going to dress up for a change, nice dress and make-up and do my hair. Ive had a manicure and pedicure so im rareing to go so to speak. Feel excited about something, not felt that in a long time, engulfed in misery and self loathing. One day, when ive a few more days, weeks and months i will share my story with you all, im not ready to do that yet. Thankyou. xxx

[choppersmom]

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Hey Lucy! I agree with Savon! GO, GO, GO on that date It does sound like the perfect date! Good for you for getting all 'dolled' up! That always makes a girl feel good Can't wait to hear how things went. :l

[Doggygirl]

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If you are going to date in these early stages of sobriety, that sounds like a good situation to date in.

I guess the only other consideration for me would be whether I really wanted to be dating at all until I got my alcohol issues sorted out - I've often heard the advice that newly recovering alcoholics might want to considering not dating (or other dramatic relationship changes unless violence is involved, etc.) until at least a year of just concentrating on your own issues.

Only you can know what's best for you - just wanted to throw that out there as food for thought.

DG

[Lavande]

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Lucy,

I haven't been on a date - well, in almost 36 years - been married almost that long................
But, I'd say, if you feel the situation is comfortable for you and you are sure you can remain commited to your plan - why not? Have fun.

DG, I just realized I have a dog, a Southern Coon Hound mix that looks pretty similar to your dog pic. The funny thing is, when she entered our lives as a stray 6 years ago, we didn't know what to name her. We had an older male dog at the time, so we ended up naming her 'Girl Dog'. Unusual, but very fitting for her. I call her Girlie for short

[LucyFem]

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Thankyou...

Im going on my date, im looking forward to it. I will try not to drink, i know exactly what will happen. I attended AA many years ago, and it was said no relationships in sobriety. Ive just come out of an awful relationship, led me to drink so much more, of course it was there fault, lol, IT WAS MINE. Im going to go tonight, i dont have much strength, im so tired, but... im going to put on my make-up and a dress and im going to go. Wish me luck please. Fingers and toes crossed. xxx

[OverIt2007]

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I am single and when time allows, I date men off of the internet. I almost do not want to go on the dates sometimes because I know I will drink, and therefore, wonder where the night will lead. Its hard for me to date and not drink. I get very anxious to meet someone new, and I also become Miss Chatty with a good buzz on. Makes me feel like the conversation is going well, when its probably in reality not. I never find lasting relationships though... interesting huh.