30 Days Anyone?

[mica]

30 Days Anyone?

I second Lilbit

Yes, Sweaty Betty and Evergreen, you are a part of my success, too! So many folks here are helping me make it to my goal.

Last week I would never have thought that the cravings would fade, nor that I could go through a day without thinking about AL most of the time, but now it is happening! A blessed relief!

[mica]

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for Startafresh

Hi, there, Girl! I am proud of you for what you are doing. I think if having your tea separate from your husband and babies is what makes it easier for you, that is what you do. I know that when my brother and his wife came over for a cookout on Saturday, I had to tell them ahead of time that I wasn't drinking and my husband wasn't going to smoke a cigar... because both of those are things that the four of us would do together. I did tell them this was only for the month of May, and that may be the way for you to think of it too. This isn't a permanent separation for you, just a little bit of time while you get your feet under you. As Lilbit and I are finding out, it certainly does get easier as time goes by. Do what YOU need to do, and make sure you take care of yourself. The only hesitation I feel about this, is I wouldn't want you to feel deprived, eating away from your loved ones. Could they maybe sometimes come on a "picnic" with you upstairs? Mix things up a bit in other ways, so there are new things happening for them too. Maybe then it won't feel like you are the only one who is going through this. Good luck!

[startafresh]

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thank you EVERYONE for your support.

Thank you especially Mica, for your words about my situation. I am glad you think my strategy is okay as a temporary thing and think you're right about making sure I don't feel as if I'm doing something 'on my own' as you said. Babes (my little girl) does come upstairs to say hello, so that seems alright. As I may have said, I notice difference in my mood the next day as I'm not so depressed with a hangover, so I'm sure it makes a big difference to her life. I do love her very much and want to be the best mum I possibly can, but too much AL was getting in the way, so it will have to go. Looks like I've completed DAY six now. Can't remember when I last had a whole week with no booze so it is quite an event. You are doing very well Mica on week three (I think you said)

And everyone else, keep going, keep going keep going and we can cheer each other along.

Best
starta:thanks::l:new::goodjob:

[LilBit]

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Mica's very smart to tell her relatives that the AF is "only for the month of May" for that situation. Some people don't know how to handle a big change in your life. Believe it or not, it makes them insecure, even when it's a positive change. Adding some boundaries makes it easier to swallow (pardon the pun).

Starta, I'm sure you are a very good mum and will be an even better one in the days to come. Plus, you won't miss some of those precious moments that would otherwise slip by.

Keep it up!

[rustop61]

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Hi everyone

Have not had a chance to post much the last week or two. My girls are in their last two weeks of school so its been crazy. School trips, sports day, concerts, graduation and now exams. Caught a horrible cold from hanging around all day Sunday at my daughters pony show. On the plus side with all of this going on Al has not had a look in, too busy and feeling ugh.

Just had a catch up on the thread. Mica, I laughed about your honeymoon. I too am a fly fishing widow. I have a rug at my front day that says "A fisherman and a normal person live here".

Hope everyone is doing good, only a week more of May to go, hang in there.

Rustop

[gyco]

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yo

evergreen;608012 wrote: Ragdoll,

Thanks for the quick response. After I posted I thought . . . well if noone responds it will be another excuse not to stick to my convictions! We CAN do this!!!!:l

Com1 and Starlet congrats on the head start - we are right behind you!!!:goodjob:


Gyco - thanks for the encouragement. Is that 10 years AF or 10 years trying. You are so right about staying AF and wanting to - that is so key!!

Happy Tuesday all!!

Evergreen

ten years trying my dear i beleive the last 2 years have been my best,ive actually stopped more then started,i will be the 1st to admit i enoy a drink or 2,which i can do,its when i overload,hell brakes lose,i lose touch with reality,i beleive age ,even tho im not that old yet,[56] what ever it is has caught up to me,as you can see in your post,working it on your own,is hard,as someone once said,by myself,i will not win the war,in numbers,at least i have a fighting chance,again good luck to you all,gyco

[mica]

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Hey, everyone, gone for the weekend!

H, all! I hope that the Memorial day weekend goes well for all of you. I will keep your support in my heart as my husband and I travel.

Today is Day 18. I never thought that I would be able to say that. Thanks for helping me get here!

Take care of yourselves, and see you soon!

[LilBit]

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Hi Everyone, and happy-long-weekend for those of us who have one. Mica, if you read this before you leave, happy trails and have a wonderful time. I can't believe we've made it to Day 18!

:goodjob:

[mica]

30 Days Anyone?

Hey, how is everyone doing?

Hi, all! This thread has gotten a little dated, I guess, but I'm still here! I came back from my weekend away, and am looking forward to finishing up my 30 days AF. Today is.... hmmmm... I think Day 24. It has been a very interesting month, so far, and I feel great that I am actually still here, and still AF. My goal is to be able to moderate. We'll see how the first Friday Date Night after the 30 days goes. If I can't mod, I'll have to abstain. But you know what? The past 24 days haven't been too terrible. I've even gotten to the point where I go entire days, yes, entire DAYS without thinking about having a drink! Yahoo! What a joy that is.

Hope all is well for all of us. Thank you so very much for all the support you have given me!:thanks:

[LilBit]

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How was your weekend, Mica? I hope you had a great time.

I'm feeling wonderful at our 24 day-mark too, although there have been some ups and downs along the way. It's weird -- there seems to be a 21-day AF crazy spell that some people have (see the "Extreme Emotions" threads). Did you have any 21-day crazies?

My original plan was to try modding at the end of 30 days but I never believed I would get this far & feel this good and now I'm not so sure I want to risk modding. I fought too hard for this to risk it.

[evergreen]

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Mica and Lilbit,

Have not been on the site in awhile . . . . life crazy and not doing as well as I would like in the AF front!! Some victories but more slips. Just logged on quickly and was amazed that this thread had not died.

I am THRILLED to see how well you all are doing!!!!

Gyco was also surprised to see your response to me as I had slipped away for so long!! Thank you!!! It is encouraging. You are positive. This is a process. I am getting there!! Thank you so much for sharing!!!!

Evergreen

[LilBit]

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Yippee, Yippee, Evergreen -- it was so good to hear from you!!! I'm sorry that your life has been crazy lately. I know what that's like, and it's no picnic. I hope things get less nuts for you soon. Meanwhile, I'm getting an ever-growing perspective by hanging around here that everyone seems to have victories and slips, and it seems to be the fight that counts.

I will forever associate your name with the day I went AF! It was your 30-day 'wagon' I ran across here and hopped on. I will always be grateful. You just never know how posting a thread or some other thing you do can change someone's life for the better. You da' girl!

Take care, and hope to "see" you soon.

LilBit

[com1]

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Tomorrow will be my day 30 AF. I will probably hurt my shoulder tomorrow as I reach behind to pat myself on the back.

Thanks MYO

com1

[mica]

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Hi, Guys!

Hey, Com1, Congratulations on reaching 30 days! Yahoo! I know you must feel fantastic, and have a pat on the back from me, too. :goodjob:

I am a couple days behind you. Tuesday will be my 30 days, and I think Lilbit's too. What a ride it has been. Knowing that all of you are here has kept me honest.

Hey, Evergreen, I was so pleased to see your post! You have been a big part of my success, too, and I want you to know that I will always be thankful to you. Don't let the slips get you down.... we have all of us, all of us been there. Who ever knows what it is about a particular day, particular stressful happening, a particular trigger that makes us say," oh, what the heck. A drink would just fix this feeling." And to be honest, if a drink didn't sometimes fix the feeling, we'd never be tempted. It's the many drinks that follow the first "fix it" drink that get us in trouble, isn't it? Keep trying, keep us in your heart, and know that we are pulling for you.:l

Good luck , everyone! I'll be posting again soon, so I'm hoping that others who started out on this thread come back and tell us how they are doing. Good luck!:h

[ceprise]

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MWO Program Week 8/AF 42 Days

Hi Everyone!
Yes, back to post. I've been home recovering from my abdominal surgery. I've had several dinners and barbecues and have kept AF. I hope to go 60 days AF, then try Modding.

Keeping AF has seemed to be simpler than trying to Mod at this point. I have not been taking the supplements, and have developed a big ice cream sweet tooth! I've been listening to the Hypno CDs every night.

Congrats to you all. I'll be going back to the supplements this week so I'll report if the sweet cravings continue.