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[bubblex]

Hi -- This is the first time I have ever been on a forum so bear with me , please.

I am a 40 something mum of 3 and have been drinking excesses of alcohol for the last 20 years . During my student and mid 20,s days I could knock back the spirits like there was no tomorrow but since having the kids I only ever have wine . I guess somehow that made me feel I was not so bad . I have had bouts of desperation about my alcohol consumption over the years but never managed to find anything to help... I even went once to AA but somehow nothing seemed right.

It was while going on line that I came across My Way Out and for the first time it was like someone was talking about me . There seems to be so little for the problem drinker who is in control of their life but just cant control that evening alcohol.

I get home after collecting the girls , do the usual, sort tea etc.. all the time thinking about when I can have that first glass of wine . Invariably that happens around 7 o'clock & I just go on from there . The awful thing is that I always have a second bottle hidden out of the way so my husband never knows just how much I have drunk...Isn't that awful? I have never told anyone about that before & it sounds so stupid.By the end of the evening I have always had at least a bottle but more usually a bottle & a half of red wine( if not more!!) .I have got to the point where in the morning I sometimes find that have said or agreed to things ( especially with the kids) that I cant remember .

Anyway here I am now with my supplements & my CDs all ready to roll......I really cant go on like this & I so want at the end of the day to be able to really enjoy a nice glass of wine without the all the problems which right now always accompany it . Wish me luck , please .......I have found so many of your postings so helpful ...and it is SO NICE to realise that you are not the only one out there like this.

Also I decided to do this without the medication , are there many of you out there who have done this & found success?

[Boozygirl]

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Hi bubblex

I'm new to this too, only joined yesterday and don't know anything about the medication. I just wanted to say hi and good luck to you. My problems are the same as yours but my tipple is white wine. What happens with my husband, is that if there are 3 bottles in the fridge, I find myself knocking my drinks back in case he gets more than me!

And by the way, you did just great for your first time on a forum.

:goodluck:

[Blue Sky]

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:welcome:Hi Bubblex

No you are not alone, many mum's on here and most of us function well. But there is a difference between functioning well enough to get by without anyone noticing and really living life to the full and getting the max from life! Alcohol is stopping us doing that.

Come ond join in on the 4 Day AF (alcohol Free) bingers thread. It runs from Monday to Thursday and offers good support. No-one points the finger if you don't make the full 4 days. It's a good place to start. I would recommend using it as a starting point and trying for a full 30 days. I did that and am now trying to moderate my drinking but that is really hard, much harder than abstinance. I'm not using any meds or suppliments either, just finding that posting and reading here inspires me and keeps me motivated.

As for your 2 bottle trick, I used to do it when my mum was visiting!

[aidanspappa]

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Welcome aboard!

Much like you, I would wait until my son (Aidan) was in bed on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights. By Monday morning there was hell to pay. I would struggle to get through Tuesday, then by Wednesday would be craving the weekend. I did that for about 20 years. In January I joined and posted or logged on every day for 28 days. You can do this!!!

Good luck to you, and see you around tomorrow.

[DeeBee]

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Hi Bubblex and a warm welcome!!
Yip, I too used to hide my excessive drinking from my hubby -- or so I thought -- he wasn't fooled. I even stopped buying wine by the bottle cause then he could see how much I'd drunk. A 5lt box used to be my evening companion.
It has been a year since I joined and YES the program does work if you commit to it.
You have been given some great advice already -- stick around, read, post and you'll soon be on your way:-):l

P.S. Oney, what does "poing" mean, eh?:H

[DeeBee]

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LMFCTO sneaky one!!

[Popeye]

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Hi Bubblex.
I did have some success without any medication. I made the mistake of thinking I had it beaten and tried being a normal drinker like I was 25 years ago (Ha!!) and it fell to pieces. There are lots of people who just stop with nothing but will-power and a good support system so it can definately be done.
I'm on meds now and it's working a treat. The way my head was I couldn't have done it cold-turkey again.

[bubblex]

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Thank you all so much , you;ve made me feel quite emotional!!......and very much encouraged

[CAPA]

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Bubblex - You should be proud of yourself. I just started back up on here this morning. This will be my third round at trying to tame the beast I call Wineasaurus. I am a mom of 3 and a functioning wino as well. I hate it and am hoping if we all stick together and actually LISTEN and APPLY what these great people say, take the supps and read the book, I think that this may be the time in my life where I can finally gain control. Good luck to you and together we can beat this damn thing!

[Lavande]

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Hi Bubblex and CAPPA,

Welcome, both of you! As you've already noticed this is a lot of warmth & support here. Log in as often as necessary to stay focused, I do.

I am 7 weeks AF now and have done it without any meds. I'm sure the guys at the wine store have been wondering what happened to me
Aside from the wonderful support here, I really think the CDs did it for me! I believe my problem, my attachment to the wine bottle was more of an emotional thing rather than a physical dependence. I have dealt with anxiety/depression issues for a lot of years, never got much relief from prescription ADs. I switched to a herbal product back in January and by March 26 was able to dump the wine completely. I had thought, initially, that I would be able to resume drinking, moderately, some day.
But now I know this just won't be possible for me. I really, actually don't want any part of it again. There is just too much for me to lose. I'm choosing to stay safe, happy & AF.

I wish you both the best of luck on your journeys...........
Stay close.

Lavande

[CAPA]

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Lavande - thanks for the kind words. Can you tell me what herbal product you use? Meds and I don't get along well - I almost always have bad reactions! Thanks!!!