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[SAUSAGE]

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Welcome - I feel I can really relate to you - I was a totally functioning mother and professional person on the outside but secretly drinking more and more wine each evening. I'd reached the point / crossroads where I either stopped or let myself go compltely. However with the support of everyone on here I've been sober now for just over 6 months. - it's not been easy - read my story in the "my story" part of the forum "six months sober - here's my story"

Good luck, keep going, it's really worth it.

[Anjicia]

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I have trying for the past 3 weeks 2 quit my 2 bottle a night wine habit but i slipped up 3 times. It is a struggle for me also the longest i managed to quit was 5 months 2 years ago. I feel dreadful the next day after drinking as i feel anxious an down. I'm on ant-depresants and i take vit.b. I find this site very supportive and also AA as i couldn't do it alone. I'm fairly new to this site and i try read daily and post when i can. We're all in the same boat and struggling to af.:new:

[tomorrownevercomes]

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HI guys,

I've tried to get in touch with you, but the computer has not been working and reallly frustrating me as I want to talk to you all. Thanks so much for your words and support. As I speak I am pissed, husband working away tomorrow and I've promised I won't drink again til next friday. What I have I done?
My eldest daughter has been in tears this afternoon because mum's got a problem, seeing a counsellor rehab is on the way, it will be a 2 week break away from all the family. what do you all think about that? As I am already feeling really guilty and I've not even left yet! But it seems the only way I will stop, but I am scared that when I come home I will return to the same....
Love you all, good luck....

[QuitinTime]

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Hang in there T - we are either in the boat or were in the same boat - good to have friends around - you'll make it through - just don't give up trying. I didn't become a problem drinker overnight it took decades to get me to this wonderful place in life. I suspect it'll take a little while to get out of it but I have no intentions of giving up.

[Beaches]

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Tomorrow big hugs to you. We have all been there and you are not alone. Stick around, post and read. Welcome.

[swans]

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Change does not happen overnight, but if you stick with this site and do the work, it will change your life. I was like you a year ago and I now am down to drinking on weekends only. I plan to cut back more and that will take time. Hang in there, ou have come to a great site for help.:welcome:

[DeeBee]

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Sending you thoughts of strength to get you through the two weeks T!!
You CAN do it.

P.S. Try writing your thoughts and feelings down in a journal if you can't get on-line -- you know, like pretend, you're posting:-)

[HopefulAngel]

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Happy to find a home

:new: and in just reading your posts I already feel like I have a new home. I am a marketing porfessional lots of PR and social drinking, plus my habit of drinking while cooking or well, honestly just drinking...4 or 5 glasses of wine a night. This last year I got soo out of control and realize now that I have to stop or have some very serious consequences...like death. I have had 3 very close friends die of alcohol related illness. You would have thought it would have only taken the death of one to get me thinking about my destiny...but no, I felt like "that won't happen to me". I am afriad of the withhdrawal symptoms, as I still have to work and don't know if I can handle the meds. I was thinking of doing the supplement program and hypnosis...anyone doing that?? Is that working? After reading your input, I feel like "I can do this" because you all seem to have a sense of patience and generousity about giving support. I am so happy to have found this site. Reading your experiences, is like you are inside of my life...Greatful to see that others share my struggle and my hope.

[voguefit]

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Hi Hope
Well done for joining us thats the first step! Try & look at AF as one day @ a time & when it gets really bad 1 hour or 1 minute, the supplements help aswell as good diet and EXERCISE!!!! but the most important thing i feel is communicating here, WHY? because you're amongst people who know exactly what you've been through & are going through! So stick with us and send personal messages if you need to if you really identify with anyone, there's also live chat if anyones in the room - Good Luck!!

[Theme2be]

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Your struggle is my struggle and I wish to say the warmth you are met here with is sincere,tried and true. I am sure I would not be amongst the living.
Personally, I am trying to find my way still with bouts of sobriety sprinkled in, but, watch out when I think no one is looking, where I can tuck my self away and guzzle bottles in one sitting.
I am deeply researching the nutrient part because "something" has been missing on the chemical level.
On the emotional, mental and spiritual level this place that I love and need has been heaven sent to my well being.

You are loved and needed to. Dry those tears of sorrow because you belong to us now and together we can all personally sort this out.

Peace to you~

[Luba]

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Hi T,
I too can absolutely relate to your story - I am a professional mother of two with what some may say is the 'perfect life' - except for my heavy drinking for the past four years or so. My drinking has got really bad over the past four-six months culminating in a cross roads, wake up call and rock bottom moment or moments. I have been AF for 32 days today and as I have said before it would not have happened so easily without this website. Please continue to read and post - this is the most supportive community ever...... I also feel priviledge and hope to continue to be able to support and help you in your journey to sobriety.
Peace and Happiness,
Luba :welcome::welcome::welcome:

[big mo]

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Hi tomorrow , I to have drank for 20 odd years and have tried every thing from AA to meds and i get a bit of time AF and feel great and the world seems fine but i start making excuses to have a drink , believe me if i wanna drink i can make an excuse that is crazy but enough to convince me its ok , and then the old cycle starts all over again until i am drinking 5-6 nights a week a bottle of vodka at a time . my health has been effected and continues to get worse and many highly qualified people have told me i am considerably shortening my life if i keep drinking , i was in hospital last year and stayed AF for 4 months when i got out and again thought i was cured and could control my drinking and guess what , yep , back to 5-6 bottles a week ,However i havnt given up and thats why i am back on this site again , i really want to stop and feel positive ,i didnt drink last night and am going to come back on to this site later when i reach that time when i normally crack open the bottle , if i get past that time i am fine its just getting past that time of day and breaking the habit , i will hopefully read more from you then and please dont give up giving up , if all these wonderful people can stop or at least control there drinking there is hope for people like us , good luck and hope to hear from you later

[big mo]

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Hi tomorrow , I to have drank for 20 odd years and have tried every thing from AA to meds and i get a bit of time AF and feel great and the world seems fine but i start making excuses to have a drink , believe me if i wanna drink i can make an excuse that is crazy but enough to convince me its ok , and then the old cycle starts all over again until i am drinking 5-6 nights a week a bottle of vodka at a time . my health has been effected and continues to get worse and many highly qualified people have told me i am considerably shortening my life if i keep drinking , i was in hospital last year and stayed AF for 4 months when i got out and again thought i was cured and could control my drinking and guess what , yep , back to 5-6 bottles a week ,However i havnt given up and thats why i am back on this site again , i really want to stop and feel positive ,i didnt drink last night and am going to come back on to this site later when i reach that time when i normally crack open the bottle , if i get past that time i am fine its just getting past that time of day and breaking the habit , i will hopefully read more from you then because at the start we need people on the same boat and please dont give up giving up , if all these wonderful people can stop or at least control there drinking there is hope for people like us , good luck and hope to hear from you later

[Lavande]

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Welcome Hopeful,

I know all about being the Professional with a great job, 2 kids and being a wino!!
You would think working in the health care industry I should have known better.........I didn't. I allowed my drinking career to go on about 10 years before I finally decided it had to stop!!

I'm happy you've found us and have made the decision to quit, you won't be sorry. I am 8 weeks AF in just a few days and couldn't be happier

Personally, I did this without taking any Rx meds or even the MWO supplements. I started on an herbal product for anxiety/depression (Amoryn) in January and once that kicked in (with absolutely no side effects) I decided to stay on it. I found MWO in February, started decreasing my daily wine intake and by the middle of March was ready to go AF. I made a good, workable plan for myself, used the Hypno CDs and still do. Good healthy food, tons of water & tea and exercise are a must. I have to say that, for me, the birth of my first grandchild was extremely motivating. I didn't want to be near him with my usual, continual hangover. I feel good now & am happy & comfortable spending this important bonding time with him.

Make your plan & hang in there with us. You can do this too

All the best,
Lavande

[Popeye]

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Hi Tomorrow,
I just caught this thread and apologise for being late.
I've never been to rehab, but I know a few people who have and I wish you well.
Try looking at it as the first steps to a better life for you and yours. There's no shame in trying to improve your life.