New and confussed

[tenderfield]

:new:
I am new and a bit confussed how this all works.
I am having an OK day but i am starting to get a bit frustrated.
Its been difficult to go AF although i have had a day without a drink but think it isnt much of an effort is it.
Can anyone fill me in on how you find the motivation to go AF for evan week.

Tenderfield :upset::upset:

[ezzmae]

New and confussed

Hi tenderfield and welcome from another aussie.

Have you read the MWO book? Do you know what your AF goals are?

If at the moment you just want to go AF for a week, take it in baby steps. One day at a time and when it gets too hard just take it one hour at at time.

I don't know what your drinking habits are but some members do use meds to help stop drinking. If you think this may be something you need to do other members will be able to help.

One of the biggest motivations to go AF for one week is that everyday you don't drink you mind will become clearer, everyday you will feel better about yourself.

[ronnie]

New and confussed

Hi and a big welcome tenderfield, what I try and do is keep very very busy and keep reading and posting on this site, the people have been a great help to me here and no-one judges you, try going on the 4 day thread everyone there gives you loads of support, keep up the good work love ronnie xx

[savon19]

New and confussed

Welcome, tenderfield!

Sounds like you have your first goal: to go AF for a week.

Ronnie mentioned the 4-day thread, and that's a good one. Also, ODAT thread (one day at a time)...

As far as motivation, your little :upset::upset::upset: "smilies" speak volumes. Your motivation will be to change those to... !!

(BTW - I had big struggle last week, so I don't mean to say that I'm "there"... or am "cured"!! But I Am learning that life CAN be better while sober.)

[Boozygirl]

New and confussed

Hi tenderfield

I'm new on here too and had nothing to drink since Saturday night and not even wanted to. At the moment, just reading what people say on this and realising so many people are in the same position as me has been very motivating for me. Also, I am sick to death of hangovers and wasting my life.

Keep posting on here and letting us know how you're doing. I've found the people on here to be so sweet, kind and honest.

:thanks: to MWO

:l

[Lavande]

New and confussed

Hi Tenderfield,

Welcome and congrats on your first day!

I found my motivation automatically increasing as each AF day passed. That happens when you suddenly realize you are feeling so much better, hangover free for the first time in years. As your thinking clears you begin to realize that you no longer need to dwell in the hole you pushed yourself into years ago. In other words, the longer I am AF the brighter the light is - the fresher the air is and I just want it to continue.

I'm happy and just want to stay that way

Hang in there, you won't be sorry,
Lavande

[swans]

New and confussed

Welcome Tenderfield,

One day is success, and then you add another and another and so on. These things take time and learning. Keep reading the posts and see how others are coping, this will give you tools of your own.
This is a very welcoming site, feel free to ask for help anytime.

[beginning]

New and confussed

Welcome, Tenderfield. One day AF is a tremendous effort for some of us...especially starting out! Don't underestimate that success! It means you know how to do it and have something to build on! I'm pretty new and struggling to even achieve that! See you around...

[Seacailin]

New and confussed

Just wanted to say Hello and Welcome
The other members have already given you some great advice. I wish you well and hope to see you around.

[tenderfield]

New and confussed

Feeling hopfull

Thanks everyone for all your kind advice.
i didnt do to well last night i got drunk as i was feeling angry at myself all day yesterday and now i am paying for it which i am sick of doing wasting a beautiful sunny day trying to get over a hangover, but after reading some of your advice i am going to have a AF night tonight and take one day at a time
I have ordered the CD and some Kuz not sure how to spell it but i guess you all know what i mean but they havnt arrived yet.
I have to admit it is nice to be able to talk to people that understand what you are going through and how difficult things can get.

Thanks again everyone for all your support look forward to making some friends
Tenderfield
:thanks:

[swans]

New and confussed

Hi Tenderfield,

Glad to hear that you ordered the tapes and Kudzu, I suggest you use all the vitamins suggested in the MWO book. Alcohol depletes your vitamins/minerals and you get stronger cravings. L-Glutamine works wonders if put under the tongue during a craving.

Stay in touch and keep us posted.

[Evie.Lou]

New and confussed

Sorry to hear that your feeling crappy.I remember those days and it wasn't fun..in fact it was pure hell. I can tell you that it does get better and that being sober is worth the work you have to do to get there. You have found a great site. with the help of this program I am celebrating one year of being sober tomorrow !!! It's been allot of hard work but so much worth it. I LOVE MY LIFE AGAIN!!! I REALLY DO !!!
YEAH !!! If I can do it, I know you can do it to.Stay close and read and post allot. There is so much to learn from the people here.I look forward to getting to know you.

[Angelcakes]

New and confussed

:welcome: Tenderfield!
The supps are really good...you can get most from the local health store - save on shipping.

xo