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    #1

    The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

    Hi everyone

    Well this Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers proved popular last week so I am going to start it up again. I am going for my 3rd weekend AL, I feel as though the habit is broken but the urges are still there. I also know that I am still at the 1 drink leads to a binge stage.

    I am going to try and copy some inspirational posts from last week to help any new members.

    Wishing everyone the best of luck for completing their goals this weekend. Don't forget to check in and there is always help here when the urges get too much.

    Ezz.
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    #2
    The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

    Oney posted this last week and it was written by WorkInProgess. I hope they don't mind me posting it but it helped a lot of people last week. Maybe it can help some of you tonight when a craving strikes...

    Stay strong guys and keep close to the boards, I found that paramount in the beginning, all my weekend nights were spent on here, talking and reading, it really did get me thru.If you are struggling, jump in, pm a friend, go into chat, post on a this thread as there will be others in the same boat and that really does help and give you strength.


    Urge surfing is an important and very helpful way to deal with cravings. Every urge, impulse, or craving has a natural progression. It starts at zero, and then suddenly we become aware that the wish, desire, craving, or impulse has arisen in our minds. It can continue to get stronger, once it has arisen. And, eventually, it will fade away (so long as we do not give in to it). This is ALWAYS true for any and every craving or impulse.

    Sometimes we have the (very false) impression that cravings are SO strong and powerful, that they will never go away and we MUST give in to them. One way to deal with that is to make a conscious effort to step back (mentally) and observe the craving, as if from a slight distance. Ask yourself: what am I thinking, what are the words running through my mind? Where am I feeling this craving in my body? Observe how the sensations and thoughts become uncomfortable; observe what the messages are that you might be telling yourself; and observe how you will soon become distracted, and find that you are thinking about something else... because the craving has faded away.

    Once you have done that several times, you will have a different perspective on cravings, and you will be much better able to resist them. And you can always use this method, any time you find yourself struggling, or getting into a mental argument about whether or not you should or could have a drink.
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      #3
      The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

      This was also written by WIP. This information is also available in the Toolbox Thread which I recommend you read, it has lots of great advice from members.

      I don't think we can begin to truly grow into a successful, lifetime, AF plan until we have managed to make the shift in our thinking from the "Deprivation Mode" to the "Gratitude Mode."

      In Deprivation Mode, we think alcohol is a good thing that we are being deprived of. We are sad, and grieve the loss of what had felt like a friend to us. We consider it a treat that we never get to give ourselves again. We are envious of others who "get to drink."

      In Gratitude Mode, we recognize that alcohol is (for us, because of our brain structure, genetics, physiology, etc.) a toxin, a poison, something that nearly destroyed us. Mentally, physically, and spiritually. We recognize that we have the most amazing opportunity to rid ourselves of something that makes us very sick in all those ways. We recognize the craziness of voluntarily damaging our brains, minds, bodies, families, jobs, futures. We are really, really grateful for that opportunity, and we guard it and cultivate it carefully.

      Most of us start a recovery program in deprivation mode. Some people stay there forever. Those people tend not to be able to create a consistently successful program, or life, of freedom from alcohol and its devastation. Some of us transition into gratitude mode.

      For most of us, Gratitude Mode does not just happen all by itself. We have to make it happen. If we want to shift into gratitude mode, we learn to cultivate it. We cultivate it by being careful about our thoughts, and about what we notice. If we find ourselves thinking about how wonderful it would be to have a drink, we deliberately shift attention away from this train of thought, and we deliberately choose to think about how good it is to know we will never humiliate ourselves with alcohol again, never again have another horrible hangover, never disappoint our children again with the way we are when we get drunk. We notice alcohol advertising, pay attention to how it makes us feel, and detach from the message by noticing how distorted the message is.

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        #4
        The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

        :happy:Thank you Ezz for starting this thread up again, count me in I want to see if I can go another weekend without a drink as the feeling is great.:whee:
        :dancin: enguin:
        starting over

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          #5
          The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

          Thanks Ezz, You are inspiring. I am on day 4 AL free. Its thursday and normally by now I would have drank a considerable amount. Tomorrow Friday is allways a few( 1 or 2 drinks) after work, but for me it never ends there. I just keep on drinking. You must be so pleased with yourself. Congrates and good luck this weekend johno:thanks:
          Boozer

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            #6
            The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

            ezz this is a great thread,im hoping to come back and forth this weekend,just to see how all plays out,i presume everyone has a different philosophy on how to tackle sobriety,just a question for the readers ? are we sober ? in sobriety, gyco

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              #7
              The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

              Anticipating first AF weekend with appreciation for this site. Hoping to avoid any (even normal) marital conflict as it could be an excuse to drink. The holiday weekend will also mean a rare social event - trying to remind myself that I'm better company when I'm sober.

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                #8
                The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                Hi weekend AFers.

                I am in this weekend for sure.

                Johno - I am really pleased you have posted here. There is lots of brilliant people here. I read all the posts here to follow everyones progress. I usually only post on the weekends I intend to be completely AF (otherwise I feel like a fraud)!

                Ezzmae - you are doing really great. I felt much the same as you one my third AF weekend when I did my intial AF time for eight weeks. It just keeps getting better and better. Each week that passes you notice more and more positive stuff. And oncea again well done for this thread. It was inspired. I wish it had been there in my early weekends.

                Good luck to everyone for an AF weekend/bank hols weekend to the UKers ( I would have used that as an excuse to drink before, but not now).

                Love Moo
                "The greatest thing in the world is not so much where we are,
                but in what direction we are moving."

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                  #9
                  The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                  Hi all, good thread Ezzmae.
                  I was reading it all last weekend without posting as I hadnt joined up yet. That was the first AF weekend I can remember for prob 10+ years. Today is AF Day 11, I know the weekends were always way worse for me, prob the same for most people. So here's to a dry one.
                  The support and encouragement on here still has me gobsmacked. I hope I can contribute some of that kindness back to others in need on here in the future.
                  KTAB
                  Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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                    #10
                    The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                    Esme - great thread I am on day 4, knowing the next 3 days will be the worst im defo in, liked the craving analogy thing, will try it. I know when that craving or lil voice kicks in thats me.
                    Good luck gyco, moo, cya monday... on day 7 hopefully xoxo
                    To see a world in a grain of sand
                    And a heaven in a wildflower.
                    Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
                    And eternity in an hour.

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                      #11
                      The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                      Glad to see this thread again. I'm in for an AF weekend.

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                        #12
                        The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                        Hi everyone,
                        Well its Friday Morning here now and I am 12 Days A/F, I still get little urges but no-where like they use to be so here looking forward to my 2nd A/F weekend!!!
                        Together we can all do this, lets stick with each other.
                        Love ronnie xx
                        :dancin: enguin:
                        starting over

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                          #13
                          The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                          Im going for an af weekend too, tonight wont be a prob but tomorrow could be so I will keep busy. Think I will order in a pizza early about 7pm and stuff!!lol!Britians got talent is on and thats always good fun so plenty to look forword to!

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                            #14
                            The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                            Friday evening here and I have no urges. There are 3 beers left in the fridge which my hubby will probably drink tonight. A carton of 32 beer lasted a whole 16 days with my hubby, a major record in this house.

                            I hope everyone is staying strong tonight.

                            Like Limers I think my real challenge will be tomorrow.

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                              #15
                              The Weekend Thread for Binge Drinkers 21-24 May

                              Hi guys,
                              Ezzmae, the beer lasting so long brought a smile to my face, no offence, it used to vapourise in my house or so it seemed. Friday morning here and weekends are always worse for me too so keeping the L-glut close by, it really helps my urges.
                              Limers, I think that Britians got talent is the funniest thing on tv at the moment especially the early acts and Simons face. It is also on at the trigger time for me on a sat night so it will help to be distracted and laughing.
                              KTAB
                              Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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