A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

[Blue Sky]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Hi 30 Dayers!

Just checking in to say hello.

Taz - people around us have their own agendas and sometimes it suits them just fine to have someone that is always drunk around - it lets them get away with murder! By changing our behavior we change the balance in all sorts or relationships around us and those people need time to adjust. Some of them don't like this! Guess you are finding out who your real friends are!

Yes, it does get easier with time but watch out for alcohols next line of attack....it goes along the lines of, " you are doing so well, no longer craving a drink, you don't really have a problem, you can control it...one little drink would be nice and not hurt!" And well all know where one little drink gets us!

[mom2ajt]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Ok I suck - I had a couple glasses of wine yesterday. I don't feel sick today except sick with disappointment. I had around 4 glasses over a 6 hour period of time. I did stop at CVS to look for the L-Glutamine before the restaurant but no luck. I think I need to go to a bigger "health food" or dedicated vitamin store for it. Like I mentioned earlier it is more the circumstances than the physical craving. In my family (parents, sis) drinking is just what we DO when we are together. I was good at the restaurant and held of for quite awhile but then caved. We came back to my house to do "spa night" (manicures, pedicures, etc.) and had some wine then. I am so mad, angry and disappointed in myself. I don't think I even want to mod b/c I just feel ill about falling off the wagon.........I know you can probably all relate to this. I knew yesterday that I would feel mad at myself if I caved and I would proud of myself if I managed to stay AF. Why the heck did I take the wrong path?????????

ARGH - now I have to change my signature and mess up my drink tracker........

OK - pity party over. Lesson learned that even if I don't feel physically sick from the drinking (b/c I didn't overindulge) I feel MENTALLY sick about it. I need to remember that feeling and pull it out and dust it off when I have the next sticky situation.........

Onward!

[scrubbly]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Oh Mom2....I'm sorry that you are feeling low. We do not judge here though, remember that, we are glad you are still here!!! And you are not feeling physically sick, remember that part also...there is good stuff in all this! And you are right, if you can remember how you feel mentally today you will be stronger for it. Look also at all the AF time you had over the last month, it is great! You do NOT suck. :huggy:

Taz, Blue is so right, there are people who WANT us to be the drunker one so they feel better about themselves, but they are just going to have to get over it!!

Fab Abs, where are you missy??

Thanks for the pop-in LilBit, sounds like your doggy knows just the thing to feel better. I think we could all learn a thing or two from pets sometimes. They just know what works and go for it, rather than fussing around with substances that get them nowhere in the end, like AL!!!

[LilBit]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Mom2, how about giving yourself a mulligan on that one? A single day does not redefine all your good progress! A couple of thoughts:

"...my family (parents, sis) drinking is just what we DO when we are together. I was good at the restaurant and held of for quite awhile but then caved. "

- I wonder if any of the other family members might appreciate it and might drink less themselves if you abstained.
- I noticed that when a lot of people "cave," they seem to resist a major perceived temptation, only to be felled by an out-of-the-blue urge that hits them later. It's interesting the way that happens.

Scrubbly, heehee, I would try Joe-dog's "growly butt" for stress relief but I think the neighbors might look at me funny.

[FAB ABS]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Scrubbly....I'm still here ....day 18....doing gr8 ta...I'll post again later...got 2 get 2 work....I'm late!!

[mom2ajt]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Thanks for the encouragement.

I know my mom is supportive. My sister (although when I first went AF she was on the wagon for about 5 days) is super defensive about her drinking. I of course can do what I want myself though. There are not many more situations in the near future where it will be a problem though b/c in about 2 weeks we are moving out of state. Hopefully I'll get really secure with being AF and when we get together again it will be easier to resist.

[Blue Sky]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Hi 30 Dayers

I had an urge to drink last night. I kept thinking it's another 2 weeks until the end of the month, it seemed like such a long time. But I was a good girl and rationalised it using HALT (Hungry, Angry, Tired and Lonely). Sure enough I was hungry (with all the running the kids around I hadn't eaten yet) and tired (I had been decorating all day). So I ate my dinner and went to bed at a ridiculously early time. At least I can't drink in my sleep!

Keep going strong!

[scrubbly]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Blue, I like the acronym, HALT....hadn't heard that one before, but any of those things that make us stop and think can help us get through that tough period of the craving and get us through it.

Don't focus on the days left until the end of the month, look at the fact that we are on day 19 now, so more than half the month is OVER already AF!!!

YAY!!!

Another weekend coming up, what are everyone's plans to stay AF? Come on now, you know if you write it down you are more likely to stick with it, so let's do some posting.

For me it is lots of family activity, and I am lucky to have a pretty non-drinking family so for me that sticks it ( have 2 little kids too that I'll be driving around to these events, so no brainer on my not drinking with that part too...)

Onward and upward people!!!

[Blue Sky]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Hi Scrubbly and all the 30 Dayers

It a lovely day her in UK and the forcast for the weekend is good. Lots of running the kids around tonight so that will keep me busy and away from trouble! Sunday looks like being the temptation day this weekend as going to in laws for a Father's Day BBQ. Got to get a plan in place. They are not big drinkers but it will be commented on if I am not drinking. If I have a couple of wines there I will not only blow the 30 days but will come home and open a bottle later on. I know this from past experience! Can't use driving as they live so close we will walk. The truth is not an option. Might go for the can't drink as I'm taking painkillers (they know I have a problem with my foot at the moment so it's plausible).

Anyway, get your plans in place 30 dayers and have a lovely weekend.

[sugarcane]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

me too

:new::thanks: Me too! am on day 2 and want to do this with others and not alone x

[scrubbly]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Welcome Carolyn and join on in! We are all on different days and we will keep this train going as long as we need to so that everyone can make their 30 days!!!

Just keep posting and sharing, we have found the being accountable to others just here on this particular thread is more motivating that the bigger site as a whole.

:welcome:

Ok guys, weekend coming up, I need to hear plans plans plans to avoid slip ups!! :yougo:

:applaud:

:goodluck:

Day 27 for me today, no way I'm giving this up over the weekend for a silly old drinkie!!!

[mom2ajt]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Gosh Scrubbly - great job! Welcome Carolyn:welcome: Blue Sky and FAB ABS - things seem to still be going well - kudos to you!!!!!!

I am back on and have been since my slip on Tuesday. The worst part was when I told my 12 year old daughter (she asked if I had wine while she was at camp). We talked about it though and I told her how crappy and guilty I felt (although I assured her that I didn't over do it and get drunk). So I guess since I had to start over I am on day 4 again.

This weekends plans include just hanging with the kids today - may watch Twilight tonight. We did all their icky camp laundry:H Tomorrow is breakfast at in-laws and diner at my sister's. I of course won't drink even if I am tempted b/c I will have the kiddos with me. At this point though I feel like I never even want to SEE AL again. I guess the disappointment in myself from Tuesday is still fairly fresh.

Anyways, hope everyone has a great weekend and Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there!!!!!!

[scrubbly]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Hi guys...

Hope the weekend is going swimmingly for all...

Mom2...sounds like that was a tough conversation with your daughter, but I'm glad it went ok, and I'm sure she is learning a lot from your honesty about all of this. these lessons will stay with her as she grows up too, in facing this stuff about AL as an adult when she is out on her own. Hopefully our kids will not struggle as we have...we can only wish and ray:

Happy Father's Day to all as well tomorrow!

[FAB ABS]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Hi all!!
Welcome to carolyn..what day r u on?
Scrubbly r u nearly on 30?? U must be?
Mom2ajt - keep it up, it was only one slip, u can do this...I know u can.x
Well I'm now on Day 22 which is a miracle in itself!! I went to a Party last night and drank cranberry juice from my wine glass, and no-one knew the difference....well mostly no-one!
So if I can manage to stay AL free at a booze infused party (there actually were 2 others not drinking...cos u notice that when sober!!) I reckon I can make my 30 days now!! 8 days to go!
So this morning I managed to escape on my bike, and I rode the coastal path for at least an hour...I would never have been able to that hungover!
Taz - where r u.....r u ok ?
Speak soon every one...Stay Strong and Be Happy x

[mom2ajt]

A BRAND NEW 30 DAYS..ANYONE UP 4 IT ?

Hey all - still cruising along here. Today had bagels at the in-laws and off to my mom's this afternoon. No temptation to drink still. I have been munching a lot though and I am kind of po'd about that. Well, one thing at a time I guess and AF is most important right now. I am sure as soon as it is an established habit I can worry about the mindless nibbling.

Hope everyone continues to have a good Sunday!