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    Anna from Michigan

    Hi--I've been reading the posts on this board for a few weeks now (although I actually found the forum over a year ago). This is an amazing community. I'm blown away by how supportive and nice everyone is.

    A bit about me: I'm in my early 30's. I struggled w/ alcoholism as a teenager, got sent to rehab and stayed sober for 10 years with the help of AA, in part. But mainly what kept me sober was that I didn't want to be a horrible alcoholic like my father was (and still is to this day). Also, in retrospect, I don't think that I was yet physically-dependent on alcohol in the way that I am now. When I was sober, I fulfilled many of my dreams. I got my BA, two masters degrees and my PhD, established a great career, volunteered for organizations that I cared a lot about, met the love of my life, and made wonderful friends.

    When I started drinking again, I didn't have a problem. I rarely got drunk and could just drink like a normal social drinker. About 1.5 years ago, things started to get out of control and have only gotten worse. I started hiding my vodka and lying to my husband about how much I was drinking. One day he found my "stash" and freaked out (that was a little over a year ago). I didn't drink for 7 days but the cravings were OUT OF CONTROL. I felt like my skin was crawling. I tried naltrexone and it worked at first (the honeymoon period I think is what they call it), and then stopped. I was unaware of the Sinclair Method, though, so in retrospect I wasn't using the naltrexone properly.

    Anyway, flash forward to now. I found a psychiatrist to prescribe naltrexone to me and I've been following the Sinclair Method for about 6 weeks. Hasn't made a dent in my drinking yet. (I'm at 6-10 drinks per day)

    After reading all of the posts on baclofen and Dr. Amiesen's book, I'm optimistic that this will work for me. I have MAJOR anxiety issues and I'm convinced it's an important part of why I drink so much. I put an order in for the meds via one of the online websites recommended on this forum b/c I highly doubt my psychiatrist will give me a prescription. I'll ask anyway him but in the meantime, I want to get started on this ASAP. Once I get the baclofen, I'll let you all know how it goes.

    I'm desperate to make this work. My husband has threatened to leave me if I don't. I have so many bruises and random scars from falling down drunk it's embarrassing. I apparently have made a total ass out of myself at work functions (of course I was blacked out and don't entirely remember). I've even made an ass of myself in front of my students (I'm a college professor) when they've seen me out at bars. One time one of my students actually had to drive me home b/c I was so wasted--thankfully this student was not someone who would spread this around our school. I finally have my dream job and it's in serious jeopardy if I can't get my alcoholism under control.

    Thanks to all of you who regularly post on this board. I'm especially grateful for all of the information about baclofen from Bill P and many others. Thanks to all of you, I'm optimistic that I can do this.

    --Anna

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    Anna from Michigan

    Welcome Anna. I am glad that you posted. This is one hell of a challenge, but we all can conquer this beast. Stay close, and post often.
    Goal 1: Today
    Goal 2: Tomorrow

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      Anna from Michigan

      Hello Anna and welcome! You strike me as a person with much strength. I wish you success in reaching your goal. You didn't mention if you have read the book or if you take supplements. Most here highly recommend them. And exercise, and eating well. You will find a helpful thread titled toolbox in monthly abs if you have not already. Look forward to getting to know you!
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      Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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        Anna from Michigan

        Welcome, Anna,

        You have come to the right place! I am glad you found us. You have a lot to lose, and obviously are one very smart lady, so you know what has to be done. But it is awfully G#& D#&*(@ hard, isn't it? Definitely read RJ's book, because I think you will see a lot of yourself in her. I have read it three times, so far, and always seem to find something new to help me out. Good luck. I am going to be keeping you in my thoughts this weekend, so just know that someone in Montana is sending you good vibes. You can do this.

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          Anna from Michigan

          Welcome Anna.....it's good to see that you already recognize what alcohol is doing and willing to make changes now...good for you. Good Luck in your journey to your new life...

          Sunnydaz

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            Anna from Michigan

            Welcome Anna- you will find support, info, and success stories here...for me it's been all the stuff I've been needing to be my own success story! Best of luck...

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              Anna from Michigan

              Hi Anna,
              Welcome. I think that you are showing a lot of strength to come here and starting talking about yourself. Obviously you are intelligent, and have great potential. I don't know what your field is, but you are probably ambitious as well. Funny how sometimes talents can lead to us pushing ourselves which leads to overload which winds up in an addiction.
              You are young so you would do well for yourself to clean up as early as possible. I am 45, and although my problems with AL didn't really get out of control until about a year ago, I do think that my career would have gone farther if it were not for the influence of AL. Also, people do talk, and one of my motivations in going AF is that I don't want to jeopardize some of the public roles I hold by making an ass of myself when people are looking to me for leadership.

              Also, you want to keep your marriage together, I'm sure. Last night, DH completely blew up at me. I've been AF since Monday, so in day 5, and when I called him on Monday and said I was going AF and under the care of an MD he freaked out because it was a surprise. It undermines all his trust in me. I don't know if he will ever love me again. I don't know if he will ever trust me again. He is so angry.

              I am on campral, and it is working well for me. I also have a benzo for the evening, which after 4 days I don't think I need anymore because I've come through to the other side.

              Not to put too much down, but don't throw away your potential.

              Tulipe
              Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts.
              AF since May 6, 2010

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                Anna from Michigan

                Nice to meet you, Anna. Welcome. This is an absolutely wonderful site. One of a kind, I am sure.

                I, too, was one to stash my rum or vodka. In fact, I still have a stash and a couple of empties (I've been sober two weeks so far) that I still have to get rid of as soon as I have an opportunity to get it out of the house. I keep forgetting it's there - I guess that's a good sign in a way, huh.

                Sounds like you have a plan in the works. That is great. Whatever happens, don't give up. If you're dissatisfied with how something's working, change it up and try again, and however many times you need to. You sound like a strong person. It's your life, not "AL"cohol's. Don't let him ruin it.

                P.s... my aunt is a dr. / university professor as well .. and she was (or is it always "is") an alcoholic. Ever since I can remember, she'd have a glass of something on the go, often hidden in a certain spot behind the door, so as not to call attention to it. I remember her saying once, "If it's in the house, I'll drink it until it's gone". She's in her 50's now, soon to retire, and has kicked the habit finally. Just wanted you to know you're not the only "prof" out there struggling with drinking.

                Keep reading and posting... Looking forward to hearing more from you!
                AF for two years. Slight relapse. Working on it at the moment.

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                  Anna from Michigan

                  Hi Anna

                  Just read your post and wanted to welcome you and wish you lots of success. This site will help in whatever way you need it to.

                  good luck with this process and well done for beginning it. Arguably the hardest part.

                  moo
                  "The greatest thing in the world is not so much where we are,
                  but in what direction we are moving."

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                    Anna from Michigan

                    Hi and welcome Anna,
                    You've already been given great advice -- just wanted to wish you a warm welcome and let you know that this place is AWESOME:-)
                    "The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it"

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                      Anna from Michigan

                      Hi Anna and welcome to this little community. Please feel free to use this site as a tool for whatever it is you need to help you. I use this site alot to post out my feelings, see where my head is at, use it to give advice to others (when feeling strong) get great advice from others who have "been" there.

                      You said you have alot of anxiety issues? Have you considered that your drinking is actually the cause of your anxiety or at least making it much worse???

                      I used to have severe panic attacks as well. One day someone on this site "clued" me in that my panic attacks may go away if I stopped drinking, and they did!!

                      You sound like a person who is determined to do this. It sounds like you have a lovely life except for this problem, and I wish you all the best to get back to your happiness.
                      I LOVE MY SEROTONIN AND BOOZE SCREWS IT UP!!!!!

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                        Anna from Michigan

                        Overit.. my anxiety and panic attacks have gone since I became sober, too ... (except for the first week of detox, of course) ... So, it's totally clear that mine were a result of my drinking, just like yours were.

                        AL is a sly b@stard, isn't he .... Causes the very anxiety and panic that we "need" him to get rid of.
                        AF for two years. Slight relapse. Working on it at the moment.

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                          Anna from Michigan

                          Your doing great 42 cat, I have been following your progress :goodjob:
                          I LOVE MY SEROTONIN AND BOOZE SCREWS IT UP!!!!!

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                            Anna from Michigan

                            Anna,

                            I just wanted to say :welcome:, too.

                            For now, don't worry about your hubby and your marriage (really hard, I know) but for now worry about you.

                            People always told me that I had to get sober for me and I just didn't get that. I knew I wanted to make my family happy and proud of me by quitting. I kept failing and blaming them because I didn't really and truly want to quit.

                            It wasn't until I wanted to quit because I was miserable that quitting became truly possible.

                            Glad you are here!
                            Cindi
                            AF April 9, 2016

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                              Anna from Michigan

                              Wow! It was so great to wake up this morning to so many encouraging and wise messages from you all.

                              Thanks for the advice on Roberta Jewel's book. I have it on order right now and am really looking forward to reading it. I've read a ton of other books on alcoholism--too bad I've had such a hard time following their advice!

                              Also, thanks for the advice about needing to do this for myself and not for others. Right now, it's hard for that to sink in mainly just because I feel so ASHAMED and guilty. My mom knows about my problem (she had to come out and "babysit" me last year while my husband was gone on a work trip) and it's tearing her apart b/c she dealt w/ my father's horrible alcoholism her whole life and now she's watching me go down the same pathetic path.

                              In response to the anxiety issue stuff. I totally agree that many of my anxiety issues would go away if I were AL free (or at least not drinking such a ridiculous amount right now). Unfortunately, even for the 10 years I was sober, I had severe anxiety problems, including panic attacks (argh--those are the worst) and generalized anxiety over really small things. I was even like this as a kid! Always worrying about everything--big and small. After a really bad panic attack a few years ago, my doc gave me a prescription for benzos. I still have to take them (thankfully I only take them in very small amounts and my use hasn't increased over the years) but I'm titrating down to zero b/c I've read from others about how addictive they can be and I don't need another addiction in my life. I've tried other non-benzo anxiety meds and they made me crazy. Hopefully the baclofen will help with this.

                              So, now, alcohol and the small amount of benzos I take are pretty much what get me through my anxiety. When I sit down to write or prep for teaching one of my classes, I always have some alcohol in my desk at school (it's very well-hidden...I'm nothing if not careful!). Before I can begin to really do any productive work (things that aren't busy work, like returning emails and phone calls and such), I need a drink or two or three to calm my nerves. It's pathetic I know. But it's where I'm at right now and I really wish I wasn't. I know there's no magic pill for this beastly problem, but I'm going to do everything I can to get better. I would love have kids someday but I could never expose a child to what I'm like right now.

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