Today I start over again.. anyone want to join me?

[~iirene~]

Today I start over again.. anyone want to join me?

Sober time can tire us out just as bad as drinking regularly. Its a constant battle for some of us. We either stay off it completely or cheat here and there. I don't think there is a starting over, its called continuing to fight off the swallowing of liquid that changes our personality. Think about today and forget about yesterday.

:thanks:

[HockeyMom]

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Personality Changes

Irene:

How does your personality change when you drink? My hubby says I get really angry at him for little stuff - i.e. he's late coming home.

Does this personality change happen to all people who overdrink, or is it different for everybody?

Just wondering!

HockeyMom

[~iirene~]

Today I start over again.. anyone want to join me?

HockeyMom;644527 wrote: Irene:

How does your personality change when you drink? My hubby says I get really angry at him for little stuff - i.e. he's late coming home.

Does this personality change happen to all people who overdrink, or is it different for everybody?

Just wondering!

HockeyMom

No Mom, i usually do not get angry, yet i am capable of corny insane stuff on the net, then its the next day i'm off the wall and my children hate to be around me. Typically i turn into a totally giggle-shit filled pranskter. I lost touch with my man. He is no longer on my list of complaints anymore. :thanks:

[Grim]

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Liath;644415 wrote: Time to plan on how to get through the weekend though. Anyone else a weekend binger? If so, get online and we will chat instead!

Hello Liath, do you mind if I join in? I am a big time weekend binger. On day 8 AF in 20 mins time but with the weekend looming will need a lot of encouragement. We can all be here for each other although time zone differences may lead to lengthy delays? I have a fierce determination to beat the hell out of Al by myself but I am happy to share! Anyway, better try to get some sleep!
Regards to all, Grim!

[TresCool]

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You'll do fine- statistically we're all gonna most likely need a "restart". Ive been AF for a bit over 4 months now, and after attending an outdoor concert with my GF last night (go Dropkick Murphys!) the urge to drink like everyone else (including her) was nearly overwhelming. Dont beat yourself up over setbacks- just dig your heels in and start it over again. These arent rationalizations, but remind yourself (and your mouthy friends/family if they give you a tough time) that-
-only 7% of people that use nicotine replacement can quit smoking for 6 months
-smoking cessation programs using group treatment sessions only increase success rates to approx 25% at 6 months
- whens the last time you knew anyone that could stick with a simple diet for any length of time?
-your chances of quitting hardcore drugs permanently is substantially greater for two simple reasons: (1) those drugs (cocaine, meth, THC) are ILLegal (alcohol obviously isnt) and (2) ythose drugs are marketed in ads, TV commercials, radio commercials etc. working as a constant reminder for what you're missing.

Some people swear by 12-steps; I pare 11 of them down into 1 simple step- stop drinking.
Like everyone else, Im here for ya too if you need a kick in the pants.

[Accountable for Me]

Today I start over again.. anyone want to join me?

HockeyMom;644527 wrote: Irene:

How does your personality change when you drink? My hubby says I get really angry at him for little stuff - i.e. he's late coming home.

Does this personality change happen to all people who overdrink, or is it different for everybody?

Just wondering!

HockeyMom

I get angry when I drink. I tend to bring up the past over and over again. I have the tendency to play 'the victim' when I am drinking and everyone SHOULD feel sorry for me. I was a happy drinker back in the day.... over time it changes you. The next day I am worse. Agitated, short tempered and the list goes on.

When drinking is no longer fun, it is time to stop. Especially if you are getting angry while drinking.

[Liath]

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Grim- You are welcome and please stick with us in spite of the time delay. Not sure what it is between S. Africa and here! I will say that I am scary with the binging on the weekends. I will stay out all night with others who want to party. When I wake up the next day I might go to brunch or a bar and start again. By Sunday night I am a wreck and probably an embarassment. This is eating at my self esteem. Time to Change!

Hockey mom- I think we all change when we drink but not in the same way. And it does change over time. For me, I started to relieve social anxiety. At 32, drinking is still the core of my social life. Scary! The worst is when I am mean to someone, have no recollection of it, and have to make humiliating apologies!

[Liath]

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I was just thinking about what all of us have in common.

Obviously the drinking problem but there is a more important thing. We WANT to change. We realize that we have a problem. We are no longer in denial. We are fighting for our lives back. We also want to support eachother and that is HUGE.

We may or may not have the belief in ourselves but posting here is a good start because we can be honest. All the lying, covering up, or apologizing we have done in the past (lying to ourselves may be the worst of all) has demoralized us.

For example, I am ashamed of the fact that I will tell myself to take it easy that night at the bar and then get wasted beyond recollection. I can't trust myself to go for "a drink" with another binger. It always ends up the same.

My goal is never to get "wasted" again. Not another hangover. Not for my birthday or any other occasion. For now, I can only accomplish this by secluding myself. With this site, I feel as though I have company AND a support group. It rocks!:l

[ronnie]

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Hi Everyone
I am in quite a good mood today (for a change), the sun is shinning so that makes a difference but mind you its still cold as it is winter here at the moment.
For anyone that has slipped with drink, please dont beat yourselves up about it, its in the past now and you cant change that but you can do something about the future so get back up, dust yourseves down and continue from where you fell. You will get to where you want to be, but maybe not straight away.
Anyone who is worried about the weekend, there is a weekend thread for binge drinkers that gets started each Thursday and runs until sunday, I usally start it so there will be extra support as you can come to this thread and the other thread, I call it my A/F party thread, as we can party all night long and not get into any trouble on there:H
I hope everyone has a great & sober Thursday - chins up everyone :h

[Liath]

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Wow thanks! I just realized how depressed I sounded! Chin up (I'll try), and I will check out the weekend thread for sure.

Liath

[Liath]

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How is everyone today? Ready to try for a sober weekend? Its only thursday but this requires some gearing up!

Kimberley- How are you doing?

Lets support eachother and make it through the next few days, huh?

Liath

[Grim]

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Liath;645382 wrote: How is everyone today? Ready to try for a sober weekend? Its only thursday but this requires some gearing up!

Kimberley- How are you doing?

Lets support eachother and make it through the next few days, huh?

Liath

Ready and waiting! Geared up and ready kick some AL butt! Bring it on!

[Lemonhead]

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May I join in? I met my goal of 30 days AF (5/17-6/16) easily and then made a conscious decision to drink during a rare 7 day vacation. What seems out of my control is to stop at two or three drinks. Very disappointing, but enlightening. So I gained back 3 of the 5 pounds I lost. I wake up sweating, thirsty and peeing after having achieved more restful sleep. Eyes are puffy again. I packed L-glut, but didn't take it after I began drinking each night. So my goal is 30 days AF. I'm on day 2. Planning to check in here everyday ....

[Liath]

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Hi Lemonhead!

Please do join us. Thats really great that you made it thirty days and it sounds like you are getting right back to business after the slip up. I can't stop at 2 or 3 either, at least not consistently. I was AF for 12 days and then my drinking escalated in a matter of a couple weeks to a weekend binge. (my old m.o.) I don't know about you but I cant go back to my old ways. Yet, the urge to drink is quite strong at times. I got home from work just now and really wanted a drink. But I was also starving and so I ate and took an L-glut instead and I feel much better.

If anyone has the urge to tell their story on this thread, please do! Or even tell me what the alternative plan is for the weekend (alt to drinking of course) This is getting me through day 4.

Thanks,

Liath

[Kimberley]

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Hi all,
Just wanted to let yo know that I'm stil here with you (and will be for the duration). I'm having a little break at my ma and dads in Wales so won't be able to post as often, but I'm back home on Sunday. You can sure as hell bet there will be no drinking going on here. My parents have seen it all and seen me try to change. Now whenever I come down they fill the fridge with non-alcoholic becks and ginger beer

So if I don't post until Sunday you'll know it's because I'm being spoilt rotten and bathing in ginger beer

Glad to see some more people joining the thread. Welcome all to the great sober life (or as near as you can personally get to it)

Big hugs for all and keep going.