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    We went away for a mini-holiday last weekend to a beautiful coastal village. I was in such a good mood, sitting outside with the BF on a terrace overlooking the water Saturday, basking in the sunshine, when our waiter (nice guy -- we were chumming while he was on a break) offered me a free glass of my very favorite champagne. And I caved. It was delicious. I had two more over the course of the afternoon.

    Aside from this "detour," I was somewhere around 60 days AF. I am not sure how to feel about it. Was it a slip? It wasn't really planned. It doesn't change my overall AF stance. I have no plans to drink in the future, and certainly won't drink at home, alone, or when upset like I used to. Why do I feel so bad about it? Does this mean that I start over? :argh:
    "If you fell down yesterday, get up today." -- H.G. Wells
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    Hi Lilbit, I am not too far behind you AF and still a bit confused about it all and where I am going with this. I certainly wouldnt beat myself up if the same happened to me. 3 glasses of champers over the course of an afternoon, well I would just ask you what you would have thought of that say 70-80 days ago.
    You are doing grand LilBit in my opinion.
    Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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      #3
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      3 glasses of wine?? 60 days AF?? I'd call that successfully moderating. Great job! Don't feel bad about it at all.

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        i would say just keep on going girl and dont look back .. it happen next time you will know just what to say and do .. learn from it
        :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
        best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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          #5
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          Lil, i agree with GH. 60 days AF and 3 glasses of wine. I wish i could be like that. Take that as success and move on. dont get to absorbed in it. You are doing great.

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            This is simply my 2 cents.

            Perfect settting. No deviousness about it. No carrying on into the night and following days. It was a decision(s) made in sound mind, knowing the risks and no damage was done. Reasonable responsible enjoyable drinking. I can say well done or boy were you feckin' lucky - depending on how you look at it. Only you can make those calls in situations like that. I am glad for you that it ended well so don't feel bad. That's how I think most would like to be able to drink.
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              #7
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              100% agree with Greeny - I would love (and hope after I do my 30) that I will be able to moderate like that. A glass of wine or champagne here or there. I think you have done fabulously and as long as this doesn't turn into a downward spiral of drinking again, that you have nothing to worry about. What's wrong with having a glass of wine every 30 - 60 days? I say nothing!
              Every day is a day to start over and remember that I am powerless over my addiction. I will no longer give the BEAST any power over me - he can go straight to hell.
              :h

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                No need to start over LilBit. 60 days is great. Glad you enjoyed the champagne, and it doesn't have to be a big thing or a daily event.

                BTW, I love your Sesame Street avatars!

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                  #9
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                  Bitties.... First and foremost.... :l :l :l :l :l

                  Not because I think you SHOULD need them for your situation, but because you SAID you feel bad.

                  Remember this is not AA. We do not "start over" with our AF time. All of our AF days our ones we get to treasure, keep, and call our own. They are days we enjoy, that we can be proud of, that we are healthy, and that we achieve out goals.

                  But for those who moderate successfully, days like the one you had this weekend can fall into the category above quite neatly as well. If those 3 glasses you had do not lead to 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, or 3 years back in the dark place we have all been, then I echo the thoughts already expressed here.

                  And you KNOW it was the Tippi Hedron hair-do that scored the free drinkies. You were just too cute.

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                    BTW, I just noticed that the new avatar has been edited so the big blue monster is named AL. HA HA HA HA !!!! Brilliant!!

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                      LilB, You did great! No, you don't have to "start over"! Just continue your journey!
                      Dill

                      Dont forget, you can: start late, start over, be unsure, try and fail AND STILL SUCCEED!

                      If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

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                        Lilbit, I agree with Dill. Just carry on girl!!
                        You are doing great. The fact that you are not tempted to continue drinking, or that you didnt drink to destruction shows that this was a controlled occurrence. You know what you want and thats what you will do.
                        No harm done eh?
                        Maybe you have learned something about situations you need to be more vigilant in?
                        Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                        Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                          LilBit,

                          You're doing GREAT!!! 3 glasses of champers is nothing in the bigger scheme of things, given how well you've been doing.

                          Tip
                          I'll do whatever it takes
                          AF 21/08/2009

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                            Hi there,
                            It seems to me that you behaved like a mod drinker. It seems like if someone can drink a few glasses only once in a blue moon, and not continue, and then go several weeks AF, doesn't seem bad to me. So long as you are still in control, don't beat yourself up about it.
                            Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts.
                            AF since May 6, 2010

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                              Hi Lil Bit
                              U carry on as normal girl!! 3 glasses of champers all afternoon is great modding......your a champion to be able to stop at 3...well done....thats harder than not drinking at all.
                              Fab Abs xxx

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