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[The New Me]

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Feathersnfur,
Good move to go to the doctor, but I would not worry much about withdrawals. I drank as much as you did and was also worried when I quit, but I just had sweats at night. I satrted felling well already on day two, only with basic supplements. However, I know nothing about your overall medical condition, so talking to GP may be the first. Good luck and keep us posted. You will love the way you feel very soon!

[feathersnfur]

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Hi Bets

Thank you for your message and your understanding. I know you are right. I am going to have to find my own way, and I am amazed and so grateful at how much support I have received here this morning when I was so low. As for my husband knowing or not knowing - he knows I drink, but not how much. It's easy to conceal it from him and my way of life means it is easy to smuggle bottles in (to replace what I have drunk if I think I could get exposed) or empties back out. We have a large wine cupboard full of screw top bottles, and even a small child could conceal an opened capped bottle in there without any effort at all, so imagine how easy it is for someone as devious and crafty as me. I hate myself.

I've got to stop all that, and somehow drag myself back from the brink.

Thank you for your kindness and best wishes for you too.

Feathers

[~iirene~]

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feathersnfur;659150 wrote: Hi

I found this site a few days ago after finally, after about 8 years, accepting that I have to stop drinking so much. The need to stop has been overwhelming so today I have vowed I will make the change. I am very scared though, about whether I will actually be able to do this despite wanting to so badly, because I don't know how I could get the CDs without people knowing. (Without my husband and kids knowing). Nobody realises it is actually a problem with me (they really don't). I am really excited that I may have at last found a way of helping me get out of this whole mess I have gotten myself into. Badly need some support and I wonder if anyone is out there like me.

Feathers

MWO is a depository of Friendship. A PLACE.. to address 'we drink 2 much.'.. or we STOP. Then we see who we are and tell.

Always Smile.

[The New Me]

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Ooops, your message about your unfortunate visit did not show on my screen either! Maybe slow tarnsmission as I am in the US.?
What is valid from my last message is that I detoxed on my own nicely after similar intake and there some people on this forum that did the same after much heavier stuff.
Sorry about your experience...

[~iirene~]

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Calm down.. you are new ; like me. tarnsmission thats a great word, my computer is not good. so Unjoin. AUS...

[Sweaty Betty]

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Hi FF, so many people are 'secret' drinkers, and you will come across countless methods used to conceal AL - so you're not alone there.

Start and make yourself a plan, it doesn't have to be rigid. How do you want to move forward? Small steps is ok, just keep on going.

Bets.
x

[ginger68]

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Hello there! I am a newie too. I found this site yesterday and have been wanting to do something about my "problem drinking" for a while now. Sounds like i am in the same boat as feathersnfur which has given me courage to announce myself (i think). Hubby works in the wine industry & im in a food/wine appreciation club which makes walking away altogether a bit difficult ...or is that just an excuse?

[ginger68]

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me again ... just worked out that there were a few pges to this thread, i have caught up now. Well done FnF for trying to get help, country doctors seem pretty useless - i once requested counselling and meds for my prob ...the counsellor hadnt read my notes and i was too embarrassed to prompt him as to why i was there, he told me i was going to end up having an affair and leave my husband! The dr put me on some really bad antii depressants that made me like a zombie - i had to get off them, that was 9 mths ago and im back where i started = not being able to enjoy in moderation, enjoying in excess and then getting tragic & embarrasing. Then behaving for a little while and back to my old ways.

[feathersnfur]

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Hi Ginger

I never expected to meet so many wonderful people in such a short time on here today. I can't believe how much help I've already had and now you have introduced yourself I am sure you will too. I think you must be right about country doctors. I've been out this afternoon and got myself a load of the recommended supplements, and I'm trying now to think of the best plan of action that suits me. I am in a similar place with social drinking issues and it will be hard which is why I was really wanting meds to get me to situation where I could just have a drink or two now and then, instead of being unable to stop, and embarrassing myself and my husband by falling over, or falling asleep at the dinner table in front of other diners. I am going to try to follow the advice of everyone here and take really little steps, take time to work out a plan of action that suits me, and do it my way. I don't think you are making excuses, it is going to be hard with your wine appreciation club. Just because you know you have a problem doesn't mean that you don't care if everyone else realises it too! I'd be horribly embarrassed. Take heart, I honestly believe that I have come to the right place, and I am sure you have too.

Feathers

[Kayla]

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Welcome Feathers!

Another kindred soul in Australia - we're from all over on this site! I totally relate to how you were drinking - I have done all shades of it, and in between. This is a great program but the community is even better - total support. I have encountered nothing but welcomes and understanding here. Good for you for taking the first steps towards wellness.

I recently had to rock up to a new Dr and get help with stopping drinking. She recommended admitting me into detox but I said I preferred help and support to do a home detox, which she happily helped me to do. I'm almost certain no-one would force you in Australia, unless there were psychiatric reasons maybe. So feel no shame, or judgment, I think everyone understands how difficult it is, and respects us in the end for putting ourselves out there and trying to change.

See you around the boards or PM me if you need any extra support
All the best

[Rags]

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G'day Feathers,
Another Aussie here.
I'm in a bit of a rush at the moment but will catch up with you really soon.

Go find an understanding GP (Mine is terrific!).
Read through some threads. Can you get the cd and book sent to C/- the Post Office?
Catch you soon.

[ginger68]

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Hi Feathers (and all) - thanks for your reply. This is not going to be an easy ride but the best things in life rarely are it seems and thats ok but what is better is this "space"where we can be truly honest about who we are with only encouragement from others in a similar situation. In a strange kind of way its good to know that there are lots of women coping with this and supporting each other. I always thought "alcoholism" was a male thing (my dad is/was an alcoholic) i am not trying to sound sexist at all and realise it would be difficult for either sex to overcome -just nice to know i'm not the only woman with a problem. I suppose each individual might feel like they are the only one with a problem until they discover a place like this. hmmm. not used to sharing my thoughts like this but i am happy to share and support, please bear with me. thanks.

[Kayla]

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Yowsa - Aussies or what?!
Welcome to you too Ginger.
Lots of good support here x

[Evie.Lou]

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Welcome to one of the best places on PLANET EARTH !!!
I look forward to getting to know you !!!!!!!!!!!!

[Popeye]

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Hi feathersnfur,

Good luck on your journey. I hope you can find what you need her. I did.