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[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hello Mary Jane I would like to say welcome, you have found a great place here, full of special people. You are not alone.
Keep safe
KTAB

[MARY JANE]

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thank you all so much for support. i cant believe ive found this site.ive tried so many things for so many years and am so full of hope about this. am very tired and not pc literate or typing and cant seem to be able to download book. love all the advise and tips

[Cinders]

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Mary Jane,

Not sure why you can't download the book but you can order it from Amazon.com.

In no time, you will be navigating around here just fine. Trust me.

And the support here keeps me going, too.

Cindi

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hello Mary Jane, its great you are feeling so positive, you can do this. As Cinders says, you will find your way around here, we got into chat didnt we. Still no luck with the download? Amazon is a good suggestion.
Keep up the good work.

[MARY JANE]

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gratitude

thank you all for encouragement. im only learni g pc and brain is just getting clearer. am af now two weeks just very tired. have had a very stressful week but am able to say no to myself for the first time. am trying to join form abu dont know how yet. oh just reading the threads is so good and stos me saying to myself there is nothing wrong. im at my worst when im feeling well

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hello again Mary J congrats on your two weeks AF that is great going. I hope you managed to put a plan together for yourself. Try and identify which triggers are likely to push you into craving a drink. You can then take some positive action such as taking some L-glutamine and/or kudzu, both of which I find very effective. You can also stick close to the boards and post if you feel the need. Because this site has members all over the world there is always somebody online here. Keep up the good work.

[sosad61]

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Mary Jane,

Congratulations on being sober for two days! I'm still working to get there. As for the high blood pressure, one over the counter medication that you can take is one Bayer aspirin per day; that will thin the blood out and decrease your blood pressure.

Also, your high blood pressure is most likely caused by alcohol consumption, and your abstinence from alcohol will decrease your blood pressure over time.

Hang in there. We are here for you and are NOT judgemental. I fell off the wagon a week ago but am back on track to sobriety once again, slowly cutting down my drinking one day at a time.

We are HERE for you.

[Tulipe]

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Hi MJ,
Great job on being AF for 2 weeks! That is quite an achievement for you, and something to really be happy for.
I know what you mean about being most at risk when feeling well - I have the same issues, but it is a daily struggle to remember that we dont' want to go back, only forward.

[JaysoninTX]

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Wine on the patio

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Hello everyone. I just found y'all yesterday. As others have stated, this is the best support group I have seen on-line, and I have been looking for a long time. Keep up the good work!

I have had several "day ones," and I always mean well. I will wake up and say, "I will not drink today." I feel the resolve, and I am motivated. At the same time, I am taking mental stock of my inventory so I don't run out. How nutty is that?

I love my wine...it helps my anxiety like nothing else. I have read posts that say that the AL is actually contributing to the anxiety. It just never seems like it when I drink. I can see that I am isolating myself from family and friends because they do not support my wine consumption, which is usually 1.5 to 2 bottles of wine a day, almost every day. I start at 6:00pm, watch tv with my wife, then take it outside on the patio. I end up waking up at 2:00am, disgusted with myself for sleeping on the patio. It has been hard to see my wife through the window, because I know I should be in with her and not outside, drinking alone. She does not approve, so I don't like to drink in front of her. When I visit family, I usually get a lecture, so I stay away. I miss them.

I am one of those people who would almost rather not drink at all than be limited to 1-2 drinks. Every time I stop drinking, even for just a day, I get headaches. I sweat like a pig, my stomach complains, my ears ring and I have vivid dreams that wake me up multiple times. Is that typical? I guess I brought all of that on myself, so I need to "man-up" and get through it again.

So, today I did not drink. I am on the threshhold of day two, because it is REALLY necessary that I do this. I am jazzed that I found this forum. I think that if I check in daily that it will help me. I am one who did not benefit from AA. It was just not a good fit for me. I will say this, I did go a span of 10 AF days last year, so I know I can do it. Business travel did me in on day 11. This is a lonely journey, so maybe an on-line support group will make a difference for me this time. I see a lot of solidarity here.

Thanks for reading my post!

[veritas]

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Jayson:welcome:

Keep looking and posting. We all understand only to well how difficult things can be. We have all been there, done that, and now are trying to get rid of the T-shirt.

Try to keep reading. I have learnt so much. There are people here who have walked a difficult path and have the insight to help.

a big:l

[Tulipe]

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Hi Jayson,
How are you feeling? Let us know how you are doing. Keep an eye on WDs, and drink lots of water. In my opinion day 2 is the hardest, physically.

[My New Beginning]

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Welcome Mary Jane! Fear not, this place is great and I'm happy that you have taken this first step. Congrats on your AF days so far. Stay in touch!
Love
MNB

[My New Beginning]

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Welcome JaysoninTX!
Your post was so honest and certainly something I could relate to. Especially the part of drinking alone and waking up in the wee hours. UGH...such a vicious cycle, huh? Thank you for posting.
You will find this place comforting and supportive and you meet the greatest people here!
I'm entering into day 7 and it's not easy but, after day 2 it got better. Hang in there and it's great you found us!
Love
MNB

[MARY JANE]

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have had a bottleof wine today im fed up. i cant type as one line goes on top of the other

[Cinders]

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MaryJane,

Try to drink lots of water, take a nap and get ready to try again.

Most of us have done this several times before getting it right.

Hang in there.
Cindi