90 Days for LilBit

[greeneyes]

90 Days for LilBit

WOO HOO!!!



ROCK ON, LIL BIT!!!

[OverIt2007]

90 Days for LilBit

What a beautiful post Lil Bit. Its amazing how we can all relate to either where you were, or where you are now. Its the goal of everyone who is struggling to be where you are now. Your post was not just beautiful, but inspiring.

Im happy you gained your life back. If you ever even think about picking up the drink again, just read this post, and I am sure you will always know how far you have come.

Love,

Overit

[Lavande]

90 Days for LilBit

A great big congratulations to you LilBit!!!

You have done so well, I know how happy you are. I am happy for you too

Wishing you the very best!
Lav

[LilBit]

90 Days for LilBit

Thanks, guys -- it was SO great to hear from you!

Now, for some answers for SpiritGirl...

SpiritGirl;683493 wrote: I'd love to hear more about all the changes in your life now that you are AF.... Do you have the same friends? How is your relationship with your BF? Does he still drink, if so, how did you overcome that temptation?

The most pervasive changes in my life are on a deep level, and are therefore, hard to describe. It's rather like the difference (if you're old as dirt like me, and can remember it) between watching a program in black & white TV, and then watching it in color TV. The circumstances, surroundings, everything might be the same but your view of it and how you interact with it is altered. It's for real now. I'm not sitting on the sidelines thinking, "Well, someday..."

Some of the changes are:

- There are more hours in the day, literally. I was SHOCKED at how much of my time was spent buying AL, consuming it, planning so that I would always have it, rationing how many bottles I put in the recycle bin, recovering from the night before, etc.
- This one is major -- almost all of the anxiety that I was trying to relieve with AL evaporated. I hear so many people say this, and it's really true. When we're in it, we don't realize that the AL actually causes so much of our anxiety and depression. Vicious cycle, there!
- Re: the friends question, whew, you just made me realize what a lonely disease alcoholism is! Over the past few years, it sucked all my time away from relationships. I'm rebuilding the friendships with the ones who hung in there (thanking God every day for them), and realizing how superficial some of the others were. It doesn't seem to matter one iota to my real friends whether I drink or not, even if they're drinking. As for the people who do care about what I have in my glass...hmmm....makes me wonder why.
- Re: my BF, I should preface it by confessing that I never expected our relationship to be long-term or to develop into anything. I was rebounding from an awful, awful abusive marriage, and so I chose this guy who's 12 years younger than I am [blushing] because it was fun and I didn't want anything serious. That said, I had a heart-to-heart with the BF (OK, he's a cub, heehee) when I decided to quit, invited him to quit with me. He wasn't ready, and it became obvious that he was afraid I would find him boring through sober eyes. He tried to sabotage me SO many times. Once, he even poured a glass of my fav champagne and set the glass & bottle down in front of me. This, and all his other attempts, really PISSED me off!!! They only served to strengthen my resolve. I stayed with him all this time because I didn't want too many changes in my life at once and because, to be fair, everyone is ready when they're ready and I couldn't expect his timing to match mine. Now, methinks his fears that I would find him boring may have been well grounded. We'll see. On the positive side, I put up with a lot less from him than I used to. And seeing him drink doesn't make me want one myself. It just makes me feel sorry for him. I'm too busy getting on with my life for all that!
- Speaking of busy getting on with Life, I'm writing a novel (no, not this post, heehee), doing really well at work, have resumed my competitive sport, hit the gym 5 days a week, have renewed my love of reading and devoured 8 books this summer, and last night, i saw "Bruno" and laughed my a** off!!

Sorry to write such a tome in response, but these were the things I wondered about on the other side of 90 days, and I hope that they can help you in some small way.

Much love and good luck to you. I look forward to reading your posts and seeing how great you're doing!

LilBit

[sparrow]

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WHOOO HOOO Lilbit, well done!!!!
I will celebrate with you too, I couldn,t be happier for all of your success:goodjob::goodjob::goodjob::heart:

Sparrow

[Winefree]

90 Days for LilBit

Celebration is a must. Job well done. Thanks for sharing your before and after with all of us. Yes, there does seem to be many more hours to do things than when hiding with AL.
I'm glad he's gone..


Winefree

[byebyebridgetjones]

90 Days for LilBit

Astonishing LilBit,
What an inspiring story.
90 days seems a long way away for me at this point,but stories like yours will keep me going.
Thanks.
Bridget.

[planetjanet]

90 Days for LilBit

Congrats LilBit,

Great post and most definitely an inspiration to all of us. I am a runner and focusing on my next run (San Diego Half Marthon 8/16) is really helping stay away from AL

:goodjob: and thanks for such a lovely success story, keep strong and please keep us posted of your new findings in life. It's always nice to hear from people who still keeps in touch from time to time, once a MWO member...ALWAYS A MWO MEMEBER

Big hugs, :l
Janet

[SpiritGirl]

90 Days for LilBit

That was such a breath of fresh air to read... Literally - a content "sigh" came out of me as I finished reading it... Although I cannot relate yet, I can imagine what you have described (like reading a great book about a wonderful place/setting)....Spending an evening laughing at the movies (believe it or not our movie theater serves wine/beer/cocktails and will even DELIVER them to your seat - ugh!), working out (hard to do hungover), reading books.... It sounds like you are living again....

I agree that the friends we might lose by not drinking anymore are likely friends that we shouldn't spend alot of energy on anyway.... And KUDOS to you for not caving into to your "cub's" (wink) attempts to sabotage your efforts of staying sober...You truly are inspiring....

Thank you so much for sharing....I look forward to reading your posts too!

[andaz]

90 Days for LilBit

Thanks lilbit theres hope for me

[DeeBee]

90 Days for LilBit

A huge hug :huggycoming your way LilBit!!
Well done!

I've just cracked open a whole pot of hummus in your honour:rofl2:

[Accountable for Me]

90 Days for LilBit

Way to go, LilBit! xoxo

[Cinders]

90 Days for LilBit

LilBit,

Thank you for sharing. You are and will continue to be an inspiration to many on this site.

Love,
Cindi

[mario]

90 Days for LilBit

:goodjob: lilbit well done and i hope you keep up the great work you have done for yourself:goodjob:

[AMELIA]

90 Days for LilBit

CONGRATULATIONS from me too Lilbit. 90 days - 3 whole months!! Good for you. You sound fantastic!