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[thetruth]

Hello Everyone,

I was just sitting at the computer and decided I do not want to drink anymore. I don't know if I have an addiction or not, maybe someone here can analyze that for me. Here's some background information. I live in an AF house, its against our religon so its never been here. My girlfriend does not like to drink and tells me not to as well. I only drink like 2 times a month, but when I do, its till I blackout and have no control over that. I act without judgment of good or bad, and feel the consequences the next day. I feel depressed, I feel like someone has locked me in a dark room and I cant get out. I just don't want to do it anymore. Any advice will help!

Thanks

[sunbird]

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:welcome:
Hi thetruth,

I am also new to this, day 3 of my resolve to be AF.

My heart goes out to you, as I too live in an AF house with a partner that does not consume AT ALL.

The problem is, in my experience, is that if you let this play out and carry on consuming, it will get more frequent over the years and more subterfuge will be needed on your part. This diminishes your feelings of self worth, and truthfully, the people around you are not in the least fooled!

Eventually, the threats and rejection follow, further lowering your self esteem and making you more fearful. In addition, the damage done to your liver gets worse and worse.

My caring advise to you is to be brave and simplify your life by just stopping now. You will save yourself a lot of heartache and wasted life. I wish you all the luck in your decision, and you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope this has been of some help to you. LOL.

Sunbird:l

[Gold]

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Welcome thetruth,

I don't think it matters how much you drink or whether you have an addiction to alchol, if it makes you unhappy and spoils your life then it is better not to drink. So you have made a wise decision.

I agree with sunbird, the effects are cumulative and hit much harder further down the line.

I am quite new myself and on my 17th AF day, in some ways I wish I had reached out sooner as you are, but then things are as they are. Life is much better without alcohol even if it can take a little time to adjust.

Come out of the dark room and into the light, explore the site it really does help to take away feelings of guilt, shame and low self-esteem, and you will see people with all manner of different degrees of drinking.

Perhaps you could start with downloading the book from this site, that will help you to formulate a plan for yourself. Then join one of the threads focused on abstinence I find that a great support.

Good luck, you have made a wise decision.

[JackieClaire]

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Welcome to you both,
Just keep popping by,read the posts,you've come to the right place. It's been a godsend for me.
There's always a wise word somewhere.
Big hugs.
Jackie xxx

[paula]

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Welcome to all. I wish I had realised I had an alcohol problem sooner, but it took me many years of heartache to get where I am now. I also only drank occasionally but when I did I ended up in blackout. aLchol has always caused me problems. I think some of us are predisposed to alcoholism as soon as we pick up that first drink. The first step to recovery is admission of the problem. Thank god that at least we have all admitted it.
I wish you well.

[thetruth]

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Thank you for the support, this site really does seem like a legitimate place to get help. You all have been more than kind in your words, and I wish you all the best as well!

[mario]

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:welcome: sunbird & the truth hope you all stick around and together we can all fight this disease :goodjob: