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**warrior22** · August 22, 2009, 01:34 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Congratulations!

Skittles,
Great job on getting through Friday night! I can't offer many words of advice on your upcoming evening--I just made it through my 2nd AF day in 5 years, so I'm a complete beginner. But I know lots of folks here will have suggestions for you. Here's a link someone here gave me the other day on ways to deal with carving/temptation, and it helps. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html. I hope the link works!

**sparrow** · August 22, 2009, 01:50 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

congrats skittles,

I love the easy way book it really was the easy way for me. I hope it works for you too. you can do this. I'm on day 72 AF. Just have fun and dont drink you don't need it.

Sparrow

**Jandal** · August 22, 2009, 01:51 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Hey Skittles - that's awesome! I just did my first full day without drinking and i actually slept properly last night.

Am I ever with you about what to do with get togethers. I'm trying to think of ways i can get around being offered a drink and refusing it for something non-alcoholic because have you noticed that people can be a bit weird when you say you're not drinking, especially when they know how much you used to sink beforehand? Is it bad if you say that you're on medication and that you can't drink?? I feel a bit guilty that I'm not being completely honest but then I hope I'm just sparing their feelings. Later on, after the medication excuse has done its time, I'll have to come up with something else - detox maybe??

I had a similar sort of reunion a few years ago and unfortunately the scotch came out later on and I remember being fairly off my head and my mother having to drive us both home. I cringe when i think about what they thought of me, and wished I'd just stayed off it and stuck to something non-alcoholic like lime and soda.

I guess it will be down to your willpower if you can refuse a drink. You should treat tomorrow as a test - and if temptation comes your way just ask yourself if its worth it. You get through this night without a drink and I promise you, the next day you'll feel quite justifiably proud of yourself and that is a pretty amazing feeling to have. And you know what? I don't think a lot of us realise that we are actually better company sober than we are drunk.

Good luck with it - let us know how you get on.

**4lovingme** · August 22, 2009, 02:31 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Congrats

Congratulations :goodjob::goodjob::goodjob:I am only 1 day AF in 6 ? years I am like a new baby learning to walk all over again. This is a totally new way for me. Hey look at all the money we have saved I saved 25-30 dollars in the last day. All I know this site is a true blessing with a lot of great post. Again good luck you can do it.

4LM

**Jandal** · August 22, 2009, 02:46 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

4lovingme - good on ya! I thought I might put the money i don't spend on booze in a separate bank account and see what happens. I've heard smokers do that with their cigarette money when they quit smoking and they end up with a very pleasant surprise. I have an account i can't get to to withdraw money - I can only put it in and can't get anything out of it for another two years - so I might use that.

**Sweaty Betty** · August 22, 2009, 09:07 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Skittles - getting through that first AF Friday night is HUGE! Well done. As for the social event, I can guarantee the thought of doing it AF is worse than actually doing it AF, and the sense of achievement beats the buzz of AL. Even though AL consumption is at the forefront of YOUR mind, I think you'll find for most people at the reunion its not, so they may not even question the fact that you're not drinking. You could also go armed with excuses or explanations as to why you're not drinking - Health issues, medication interactions, you gave up a while a go etc. There is a thread somewhere with a huge list on it, if you want to I'll find it for you. Honestly, go for it, its a fantastic feeling!

Bets.
xxx

**lil.michelle** · August 23, 2009, 12:16 AM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Well done!
When you go, stand up tall and be like 'no i don't drink'. You'll gain soooo much respect and i bet people will say to you.... i wish i didn't or yeah i need to cut back.
I stayed sober for my brother wedding and it was sooo hard but i was the one who looked and felt great all the way through, i didn;t make a fool of myself and i had a wonderful time. Stand tall and enjoy!

**Skittles** · August 23, 2009, 09:52 AM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Thank you all! I cant believe it, I made it through saturday night without drinking as well! woo hoo! I am not drinking tonight at the gathering...............I dont want to! I want to experience something social for the first time sober! It will be an adventure and i am looking forward to it.

**ladybirdheart** · August 23, 2009, 10:26 AM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Skittles, you are doing so well! Every time we move through an event or an emotion where we would usually drink we plant the seeds of a new habit. Yours are growing. I look forward following you as you find your way out.

**JackieClaire** · August 23, 2009, 01:37 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Skittles,
Well done.
Monday mornings are soooooo different without alcohol.

I'm doing the ' I'm not drinking at the moment because of my cholesterol (true). After a while I shall hold my head and say ' I don't drink any more'.

Love J xxx

AF since 7/7/2009

**bear73** · August 24, 2009, 07:39 AM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

That's great - I am on day 9 af - survived 2 get togethers with friends this weekend af.
next weekend is a gig - am gonna go with the 'I've just stopped smoking and I don't want to lapse excuse'. I plan to use that excuse for a good few months and then just say i feel better without at over 3 months. Still one day at a time - it annoys me that it's a stigma to say I'm worried I drink too much, it makes my depression worse.
still that's how it is and I'll say whatever I need to to get through the situation.
good luck x

**RUBIES1310** · August 25, 2009, 09:18 AM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

Having a hard time!

Hi everyone!

I am having a very hard time with the hypnotherapy cd's that I ordered off of this website. They cost me a lot of money and I find them very boring and cannot concentrate on them easily. I still am drinking while on the medication and feel like I am failing at my efforts in this. Help!!!

**JackieClaire** · August 25, 2009, 12:08 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

:welcome:
Hi Rubies,
Welcome to you.

I don't have the CD's but I know you're in a good safe place. Lots of good kind people with good advice.

Have a good look round the site. Keep reading and SHOUT if you need help.

Have a start in the Newbies Nest.

Wishing you lots of luck on your journey.

Jackie xxx

AF (alcohol free) since 7/7/2009

**~iirene~** · August 25, 2009, 12:13 PM

Made it thru a friday night w/o drinking!

RUBIES1310;701282 wrote: Hi everyone!

I am having a very hard time with the hypnotherapy cd's that I ordered off of this website. They cost me a lot of money and I find them very boring and cannot concentrate on them easily. I still am drinking while on the medication and feel like I am failing at my efforts in this. Help!!!

whenever we start this mission to remove alcohol in our lives;
it takes many approaches before we get it.
you may not enjoy the CD's now, down the road they may come in handy.
its typical to get frustrated learning how to STOP DRINKING.
hang in there and keep trying.

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