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**sunshine_gg** · August 25, 2009, 01:56 PM

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Foxtrott... Welcome! :l

You've taken an important step - Bravo.

Yes, I, too, believe that site site, its members, and the MWO program save lives, in a very real sense.

Have you ordered/downloaded/read the MWO book yet? It's an easy read and was quite an eye-opener for me. Also, you may head over to the Toolbox thread... so, SO many great ideas on how to cope with cravings, how to silence that internal argument - have a look! Also... why don't you come and join us in the Newbie's Nest? (Why do I suddenly feel like the Walmart greeter?) LOL

The main thing is... you're not alone anymore. We're all here to help you along the way as best as we can and we want to see you succeed!

**Lavande** · August 25, 2009, 02:46 PM

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Hello Foxtrott,

Welcome, this is a good place. You'll find lots of people here with similar stories.
I'm 55, just became a first time grandmother 9 months ago. That little guy is what made me finally jump on board and I'm so glad I did. Life has been so much better for me since going AF! We will help you succeed as well

Wishing you the very best,
Lavande

**Gold** · August 25, 2009, 02:48 PM

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You're here now and you will overcome this. The body has a marvellous ability to heal itself given the chance.

It must have been very hard for you with your former husband and now your sons. Perhaps these last two or three years have been a coping mechanism for what has gone before.

It certainly made all the difference to me coming here and knowing that I wasn't the only one. I cannot add to the advice sunshine has given other than if you really want to stop you can.

The very best of luck to you.

:welcome:

**sunbird** · August 25, 2009, 02:57 PM

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Hi Foxtrott,

I was you 17 days ago! We are all scared at the start. But you have come to the right place for love, support and advice when you need it. You are surrounded by friends that will help you. But you and only you can make the final decision to stop drinking. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Love,
Sunbird xxx

**foxtrott** · August 25, 2009, 03:02 PM

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Yes, I believe it has been a coping mechanism....my youngest son - 35 had heart surgery in March to replace his aoritic valve and part of his aorta, after coming out of surgery he developed compartment syndrome in his arm - had to have emergency surgery and went into cardiac arrest.....the CS casued his kidneys to fail and he was on dialysis 3 wks but thankfully his kidney function returned...he had a trach for 4 wks and was in Intensive care for 5 wks.. For 5 wks everyday I drove round trip 70 miles a day, sometimes 2x at first plus wordek a full time job. He was very very sick and it drained me, his wife and our family emotionally. He swore he would never drink again. 5 wks after he got home he started drinking again....heavily. He had lost his job in Dec, his wife lost her job in Feb and he was going to loose his home and did not know if he would regain use of his arm....

I felt like I had been punched in the stomach when I heard he started drinking again because 3 1/2 yrs before I went through a life and death orderal with my middle son.....I know I can't lay out a whole saga here, but I cannot grasp WHY I choose the one thing to use to help me cope, that almost killed them and still could and did kill their dad.

Thank you all I need you.

**toughintexas** · August 25, 2009, 05:19 PM

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Fox, I'm soooo sorry to hear all the sadness and trauma you and your family have suffered. I'm so glad you got to us, this is a lifesaver! I'm glad you are going to join More2 and the rest of us in the Bible study too! I never thought AL would get me either. My Dad abused alcohol, my son is an alcoholic, tho doing much better, or so I think, my grandfather, Dad's dad, was a terrrible alcoholic, my step-grandmother, made him quit cold turkey at 50, and he lived AL free til he was 98. It can be done, I've seen it. I've been here 2 yrs, and I'm a tad behind More2 in success, but doing soooooo much better than the day I joined also. More2 and I talked day one that I joined, and are really good buddies now, we've met up in her casa, and talk weekly, and are taking a girls trip to our new casa in Colorado next month, I too have made such great friendships here! You know, lots of times, we fall into the traps we so hate, whether its gambling, over-eating, drinking....I think it really is heredity. The thing is, if you had diabetes, or asthma, we wouldn't be so hard on ourselves, this too is a disease! Your body will heal. If you need medication, there's many folks here that get what they need, without it being on your record, and can tell you how, what has worked for them. Most of us here, are professional, smart people, that have always been able to do whatever we put our minds to doing....EXCEPT BEAT AL! It's very frustrating, but it will get better! All of us are available to you, you can PM me anytime also! Where are you located if you don't mind saying? One of us may be near you, and would love to meet up if you'd like to. Just keep reading and posting here, take it moment by moment, you aren't in this boat alone, and we all have "been there, done that", trust us! Look forward to getting to know you, you look forward to being well, this is a great place to start! We've all had speed bumps in the road, you will too, but being able to talk about it, gather info., and have back-up is a great new step to take! I love the saying one of our members has voiced...."its easier to stop drinking, than to keep drinking", its really true, you feel soooo much better, not drinking, and you get more positive each and everytime you make the decision not to...and remember, a fall isn't a failure, unless you don't get back up! We all try to prop each other up! We are here for you too!

**toughintexas** · August 25, 2009, 05:25 PM

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OH, and go to the chat anytime, you'll usually find someone there, its very helpful, you can post a new thread if you want someone to meet you there asap whenever you feel the need, or need to type and not use your hands to pour or drink! lol

**mario** · August 26, 2009, 08:06 AM

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:welcome: foxtrott you are in a good place with great people. :welcome:

**foxtrott** · August 27, 2009, 06:28 AM

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I feel so disappointed in myself - I drank last night. I am committed to overcoming this deamon. I know one of the ways that will help me, is coming here and being accountable to my new friends. I even considered lying acting like I hadn't drank and move on to day 3....but I know in my heart & soul the only way to overcome this is by being honest.

Maybe this isn't the right place to ask but has anyone had luck with Kudzu? I would like to take the Topiramate but have concerns about mixing it with my other meds....Zoloft, Nexium, Cadut, a water pill and potassium.

Thank you for listening....today is Day 1.
Fox

**foxtrott** · August 27, 2009, 06:39 AM

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I feel so disappointed in myself - I drank last night. I am committed to overcoming this deamon. I know one of the ways that will help me, is coming here and being accountable to my new friends. I even considered lying acting like I hadn't drank and move on to day 3....but I know in my heart & soul the only way to overcome this is by being honest.

Maybe this isn't the right place to ask but has anyone had luck with Kudzu? I would like to take the Topiramate but have concerns about mixing it with my other meds....Zoloft, Nexium, Cadut, a water pill and potassium.

Thank you for listening....today is Day 1.
Fox

**Gold** · August 27, 2009, 06:42 AM

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Hi Foxtrott,

When I first came here a mere month and six days ago, I was urged to make a plan, so I decided to try 30 AF days, downloaded the MWO book (I have read so many books about this -sigh-) and read through it. I decided that I did not want to take Topamax and fortunately I have not needed to. I have taken Kudzu and L-glutamine since I started here and they must be making a difference because I have tried so many times before and failed and now I am on day 34 AF.

The support here was a major contributor especially as finding so many other people in the same boat lifted the awful guilt and shame which I believe was preventing me from moving forward.

Just to let you know though, I did 3 AF days as soon as I joined and then for some totally inexpicable reason I drank on the 4th evening. I have never felt so bad as I after that and it really brought home to me how much I want to be free of alcohol. So, a slip is also progress in its way if it reinforces how much you want this.

So here's to a successful day 1 for you and many more to come :l

**paula** · August 27, 2009, 09:18 AM

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Hi Fox, don't feel disappointed just learn from your slip. I have had so many over the years. I'm in the same age group as you. I drank for years and then stopped for 6 years, and started again 3 years ago, after family problems. I go to AA meetings, I'm also taking campral and antabuse (only when I'm at risk of drinking.) I have now been sober for 8 weeks and really feeling well. If I can do it any one can. I did speak to my doctor who prescribed medication and also counselling. Stick around MWO you will find you get so much support.
Best of luck.

**gyco** · August 27, 2009, 10:02 AM

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hi foxy one,welcom as all have said,were all in a similar boat as you,in your 1st comment you said logical mind,someone once told me years of drinking even moderately is like falling down,,every time you get drunk its like running into a tree,so if you run into that tree long enuff the brain aint gonna work well,you said you read that is good,my gift to you,lots of material out there just have to read the rt stuff,Adult Children of Alcoholics,pik it up,oh ,i also have a 29 year old daughter she gave it to me,my turn to pass it on i do wish you and your family well gyco

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