October - Fight Club

[Determination]

Good morning! I didn't see a thread started yet, so I thought I would get us going!

I am working on ODAT - but my goal still remains to stay AF for 30 days.

I am still working on finding plans to fit all situations and to really take a step back and think about what is behind my craving - routine, stress, boredom? I also have learned over the last couple of days that my worst craving is from 4-7 at night - and that if I tough it out, the craving does go almost away. So, my DH has been eating wonderful elaborate meals - I need to keep my hands and mind busy during that time - so that by the time 8:00 rolls around, I am feeling O.K. with no AL.

How is everybody else doing? What are your plans?

Liath - how many more days until the exam?

Kimberley - when do you move into your new place?

Sunshine - are you coming up on day 50 soon?

Puddytat - how's things going for you?

SparkleAZ - Now that your sister is gone, I hope things start to go better for you on being AF.

Red - How are you doing this week?

I know I am missing many others.....so please let us know where you are at on your journey!

[redhibiscus]

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I am doing fine on my AF journey today. Since August 29, 2009, I have drank two times. I am currently on day 12 and feeling healthier every day. I am working hard on losing a few pounds as the wine and extra food have put the weight on and I want to look and feel younger. So the only Octoberfest for me will be AF - I hope. I am still really cautious about being overconfident as I have started this journey so many times.

It seems that the people you listed are working on this other thread called Octsober Challenge under the General Discussion part. So hope you find that thread and continue to post with the rest of us. I have really appreciated your part in all the threads. Hope you are doing well.

[sunshine_gg]

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Hello Determination and Red!

Getting close to 60 days now, D To be honest, I'm not exactly sure how close.. should be around day 55 or 56.

Sounds like you're doing exactly what's needed, D... and I'm sure hubby is loving it! I find that I don't mind being in the kitchen more and longer this time of year, too

Red, I know what you mean by being cautious... same here. I do NOT want to get cocky (again) and blow it (again)

All my best to both of you during this colourful month of October!

[colbe]

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sunshine_gg;727087 wrote: Hello Determination and Red!

Getting close to 60 days now, D To be honest, I'm not exactly sure how close.. should be around day 55 or 56.

Sounds like you're doing exactly what's needed, D... and I'm sure hubby is loving it! I find that I don't mind being in the kitchen more and longer this time of year, too

Red, I know what you mean by being cautious... same here. I do NOT want to get cocky (again) and blow it (again)

All my best to both of you during this colourful month of October!

I didn't realixe you were so far into 60! So proud of you!!

[puddytat]

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Hi Fight Club, I for one would love to keep the FIGHT CLUB going! It's been my home haven at MWO for 2 months now. a small group of relative newbies. I find you all so inspiring as we learn together how to avoid triggers and stay AF.

Having said that, I had a horrible, horrible September. The one thing that keeps me going is knowing stories like Cinders, or Doggygirl: after 2 mos AF Doggygirl relapsed hard for 8 mos -- then got back on track. Because, it seems to be going like that for me: fighting my lizard brain, going into the day with the best intention, armed and ready! -- then off the rails without even quite knowing what happened! ugh

So I get what you're saying, Determination, about identifying our triggers. My main one seems to be fear of the future ... so it's in my own mind. Another one is deadlines and fear a attacking a big project and getting overwhelmed -- if that makes sense? The other major trigger is PEOPLE because of severe, difficult-to-control social anxiety. ... but on the other hand, being alone is the devil's playground in terms of AL.

I'll post more tomorrow about my plan for October. One I think is more solid than September. Like printing ToolBox thread and other posts that "hit" - and reading it DAILY. and getting roommate to clear out her AL hide it. other ideas to run past you kind folks.

Puddy

[puddytat]

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Determination - love it that your DH is getting 'elaborate meals'! ha!
that's great I LOVE to cook, and it can be a good distraction during the witching hour, right?
Sometimes good food alone - and a good dessert -- can satisfy the worst of the craving.

[sunshine_gg]

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Did I hear dessert????? :ey:

Hmmm.. maybe a cake is in order. Yumm. And, there's NOBODY here but meeeee... that means I get to eat it all by myself!!! On second thought... that may not be such a good idea either...

What to do, what to do?

[puddytat]

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Oh yah, those sugar cravings rear right up when AL is gone!

mmm .... chocolate ... whipped cream ... cream cheese ... cherry on top. Take it easy!

[sunshine_gg]

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Ohhhhh, you wicked, WICKED woman!!! :H:H:H

[Determination]

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Puddytat - I'm right there with you- August was a pretty good month for me. September was not a good month for me at all. So, starting October with a plan - and reading the toolbox everyday is also a good idea.

Just a coincidence - I made molten lava chocolate cake for dessert last night - quick and easy and ooohhh so good!

Sunshine - I'm trying to decide what is more exciting - that you are close to 60 days or that you have lost count! I long to get to the point where I have so many AF days under my belt that I forget what day I am on!

Red - hope you keep posting here too. Like puddy, the September Fight Club was my go to place on this site - even if September wasn't such a good month for me. I really got inspired by hearing about your successes, so please stop in here too!

[puddytat]

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Molten lava cake ... chawklit. I have a good recipe for that ... might need to make some this week!

Colbe, hope you're managing the black cloud of depression.

Kimberley - sorry about that lapse. how are you feeling? moving is really disorienting, isn't it?

Red - keep popping in. hope that co-worker isn't getting you down too much

Liath - best on the GRE exam. hope your sis is managing to stay away from that creep

Sparkles, bet it's still hot in AZ

and Sunni - nearly 2 months -- what a great FIGHT! I'll catch up, nip at yer heels eventually (ya right) will stick close for this tricky weekend.

Anyone I've missed ... RedHibiscus, others who were in near end of Sept, join up for October.
Glad you're all here.

[Liath]

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Hi everyone-

Hello from the trenches. I am so happy that you are keeping fight club going. I have struggled a bit but I am focusing all my energy on getting into graduate school. No time to booze it up thank god! The test is over a week a way. More from me after! xoxo

[puddytat]

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Hi Fight Club, finally have a Day 1 again (Saturday). Todau (Sunday) will be facing finances and tempted to go off the rails. Feeling GOOD! today ... and trying to remember that. Hopefully can keep on the straight and narrow -- but I just never know. oddly. Taking baclofen and lotsa water, good food. Day at home.

Determination, hope your weekend is is going well, and triggers and stress are at bay?

SunniG - how is it going? I was gone all day yesterday, family thing. Really nice connecting with everyone, and just trying to keep Mom at a distance. Such a big group, I never really had to deal with her much, which was great.

Hey Liath - glad you're able to stay focused.

Kimberley - interesting thread you started about BPD. are you coming back to the thread?

take care everyone, Puddy

[Kimberley]

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Hey all you fighters! Thanks so much for starting this thread again Determination.

I won't post much today as I have been a soldier down for a few days, but on day 2 AF now- oooh my head! Need to rest up soon.

I feel I MAY have made a bit of a breakthrough after another fairly big slip in realising that I will probably never get the alcohol sorted out if I don't also get the coping skills that BPD means I haven't learnt.

I have signed up for a free online therapy group for learning these skills, where they send you lessons and you have to do homework (A bit like CBT) - I sure hope they help or I'm out of answers!

Anyway trying to stay positive despite the way I'm feeling - very sad and guilty again :-(

So very nice to see so many of you back though - BIG HUGS ALL ROUND!!! X

[Emmy]

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All of your posts and stories are an inspiration and very helpful :thanks: Just want to say "hello " to everyone , I'll be here alot ODAT :new: :h Emmy