7 days

[hopestar]

wel iv made a week and feeling very proud such a great feeling and iv got a spare ?30 left over this week so i think im guna treat meself for my hard wrk then its almost like a reward im thinking in the long run i cud save this money and get my self driving im surprised how positive i become and my depression as lifted after such a short peroid i need to keep goin but the weekend is coming and this is the hardest time wathing friends drinking and invitin me to join them its more ov a challege to over come

[hippie37]

7 days

Congratulations on your first week hopestar!!

I think my second relapse came about when I was of the mindset that not drinking was no fun anymore because all my friends where out there partying without me. HOW DARE THEY!! I had major resentments that I wasn't even aware of which ultimately lead to that relapse. I kept seeing it from the point that I was depriving myself of that party lifestyle rather seeing the positive's of a sober lifestyle. It's almost similar with dieting I think. If I see a diet as depriving myself of food rather than seeing it as making healthy choices for a healthier lifestyle then I'll ultimately fail. Same with the lifestyle I was living. I was more attracted by the lifestyle choice than the alcohol and drugs to be honest.

I soon found out who my real friends where though when I stopped drinking. Most of the people I knew anyway where just people off the estate where I lived that got mashed up at the week-ends. They weren't 'real' friends that I could rely on or depend on in times of trouble. I have a few very close friends today who are not addicts, but who have stood by me through it all. I also have a few friends who, like me, are in recovery in some shape of form who I can rely on in times of need; because they know what it is like to be an alcoholic/addict. I just hope your friends are ones that will not encourage you to drink, who will understand what you are going through. If they don't then they could be dangerous to your sobriety. Sounds harsh but it's true.

Try not to think too far ahead too. Keep things simple and focus on the day ahead of you rather than project to the week-end. You should be rightly feeling proud of yourself right now, so again Well done. Keep it up.

Love and Light
Phil
xx

[DeeBee]

7 days

Congrats Hopestar!
A week AF makes all the difference doesn't it.
Stay strong, stay focused, you CAN do it:-)

[Lavande]

7 days

hopestar,

Congrats on your first 7 days!!
It is a great feeling, isn't it?

Be sure to make a plan for yourself for the weekend. Perhaps it's a good idea to change your routine. Do different things, see different people, find activities that do not include drinking

Stay focused on yourself & your sobriety, remember how good you feel today. Remember drinking is not an option this weekend!

Have a great day!
Lav

[My New Beginning]

7 days

WOW!!! Fantastic on 7 days! YOU ROCK, Hopestar!
Keep on going...it gets easier and easier.

[hopestar]

7 days

everytime i have a thought ov goin to the pub or the shop 4 a bottle i cum home an log on this site and that thought soon goes after reading such incouraging messages that giv me that extra bit ov wil power i need its brilliant thankyou to all those that are helping me get through this xxxx

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

7 days

Well done Hopestar, you can do this. Good plan keeping close to the boards.
Keep safe
KTAB

[FindingMyself]

7 days

Hopestar - congratulations on day 7! What are you going to do with all of that new-found energy and good feeling? Changing routines is hard, but getting stuck in a rut of doing the same thing every day (going to the pub) isn't too exciting either. Find something fun and different to do. You are doing well.

[hopestar]

7 days

finding the right replacement

its hard trying to replace my time that i spent in the pub cos it had become such a big part ov my life i find i am board a lot which is where this site cums in at the moment as for my friends at the wkend im thinking about replacing that time for my children i have been trying to think of activities that we can do 2gether cos my wkends for my children constist ov playing on the pub park an eating crisps which they neva complain about but they are young an my concern of them thinking this is normal is scary iv planned friday that im going 2 use the money iv saved this wk on tea owt BUT not a pub and letting them buy a dvd we can watch 2gether my main fear is when i havent got the children which is rare but it does happened i wil b board an more likely 2 land in the pub wiv familar faces an get carried away but this is sumthing i wil av 2 deal with as i cant hide behind them 4eva cos at the moment im wrking on the plan of doin what is rite an what they deserve there doesnt seem 2 b anything that i enjoy like drinking which sounds really sad but its the relief it gives me the longest iv gone wivowt adrink is 11 days but then it ended in the biggest session ever i worry the longer i go the worse im guna fall but everyday wiv out it brings a great feeling its such a bizarre cycle who knows the answer how did it get like this