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    SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

    hi its been twenty days since ive touched alcohol...word touched is not appropriate as i poured shots for my friends at a party few days back...one guy even offered me money to drink(they get so caring sometimes!!!!)....this site played a major role in this change of mine..iam thankfull to all the advise n encouragement i got from people here..u have no idea how helpful it was...the following is a story that i had posted in a thread...one friend here told me to share this story to all..so iam doing it...struggles n hard times are unavoidable..without which life would be plain n dull..how we tackle n manage those hard times says how colorful our life is...

    This parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer?s well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.
    Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, HE WOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!
    This he did, blow after blow. ?Shake it off and step up?shake it off and step up?shake it off and step up!? He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought panic and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP!
    It wasn?t long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him actually helped him . . . all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.
    If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity....we can do it

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    SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

    Nice post! How about 'paying' yourself not to drink and do something nice/sensible/completely wasteful with the money you're not spending on alcohol? I did charrms for a bracelet, but I'm guessing that's not your thing

    Bets
    Proud to be SLIGHTLY SLOVENLY.:wavin:


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      #3
      SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

      Well done DNC - isn't it sad that "friends" can do that kind of thing to you- although I can remember (way back when-when I didn't think I had/would ever have an AL problem) thinking people that abstained were party poopers. How time moves on! Loved the story!
      Brilliant idea to treat yourself (re: Betty) must get into that myself- don't know how guys would do that though-buy a load of car mags etc...?

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        #4
        SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

        20 days!! Very nice job!!!
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        Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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          #5
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          Good one Not. I posted that a long time ago here, because it meant many things to me. You are stronger than you know, or sometimes want to know. Everytime the silver-tongue devil comes calling, imagine who you want to be, then imagine you already ARE that person, and how he would act. You have shown you can do it. We're here for you
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          Never look down on a person unless you are offering them a hand up.
          awprint: RUBY Imagine yourself doing What you love and loving What you do, Being happy From the inside Out, experiencing your Dreams wide awake, Being creative, being Unique, being you - changing things to the way YOU know they can BE - Living the Life you Always imagined.awprint:

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            #6
            SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

            hi sweaty B thats seems like a good idea..
            hi roberto poor guys they just miss the drunk DNC...
            thanks GreenE n rubyW for ur thoughts

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              #7
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              i never heard about this story before..sheri n Rwillow i owe u both a story u never heard of..

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                #8
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                Dad, we RE-learn a lot hear. You might want to check out 'The Awakening' that I RE-posted, and can take no credit for other than hoping it means the same to others as to me. Post away. (P.S. It's in Gen Discussions)
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                Never look down on a person unless you are offering them a hand up.
                awprint: RUBY Imagine yourself doing What you love and loving What you do, Being happy From the inside Out, experiencing your Dreams wide awake, Being creative, being Unique, being you - changing things to the way YOU know they can BE - Living the Life you Always imagined.awprint:

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                  #9
                  SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

                  yep next stop 'The Awakening' ...

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                    #10
                    SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

                    The Awakening

                    I have a great fear I post too much here when my days are quiet, but this, this beautiful writing, has helped many, and I know many new people come here. So, if it helps, I'll take the chance again of overexposing myself. I think my days are numbered here, I have other things that are calling, so if one person is helped, then I am happy.
                    The Awakening
                    by Sonny Carroll



                    There comes a time in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective. This is your awakening.

                    You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something, or someone, to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren’t always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

                    So you begin making your way through the “reality of today” rather than holding out for the “promise of tomorrow.” You realize that much of who you are, and the way you navigate through life is, in great part, a result of all the social conditioning you’ve received over the course of a lifetime. And you begin to sift through all the nonsense you were taught about:


                    how you should look and how much you should weigh
                    what you should wear and where you should shop
                    where you should live or what type of car your should drive
                    who you should sleep with and how you should behave
                    who you should marry and why you should stay
                    the importance of having children or what you owe your family
                    Slowly you begin to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really believe in. And you begin to discard the doctrines you have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.

                    You accept the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that’s OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions. And, you come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a “perfect 10” Or a perfect human being for that matter. So you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head or agonizing over how you compare. And you take a long look at yourself in the mirror and you make a promise to give yourself the same unconditional love and support you give so freely to others. Then a sense of confidence is born of self-approval.

                    And, you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” hungry for your next fix, a new dress, another pair of shoes or looks of approval and admiration from family, friends or even strangers who pass by. Then you discover that “it is truly in giving that we receive and that the joy and abundance you seek grows out of the giving. And you recognize the importance of “creating” & “contributing” rather than “obtaining” & “accumulating.”

                    And you give thanks for the simple things you’ve been blessed with; things that millions of people upon the face of the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed and the freedom to pursue your own dreams.

                    And then you begin to love and to care for yourself. You stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors including participating in dysfunctional relationships. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and exercising. And because you’ve learned that fatigue drains the spirit and creates doubt and fear, you give yourself permission to rest. And just as food is fuel for the body, laughter is fuel for the spirit and so you make it a point to create time for play.

                    Then you learn about love and relationships, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. And you allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects you to glorify you with his touch. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally and that not everyone will always come through and interestingly enough, it’s not always about you. So, you stop lashing out and pointing fingers or looking to place blame for the things that were done to you or weren’t done for you. And you learn to keep your Ego in check and to acknowledge and redirect the destructive emotions it spawns; anger, jealousy and resentment.

                    You learn how to say I was wrong and to forgive people for their own human frailties. You learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture. And, at the same time, you eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify you. You stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting your needs aside. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right to want or expect certain things. And you learn the importance of communicating your needs with confidence and grace. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake. Then you learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that you don’t know all the answers, it’s not your job to save the world and that sometimes you just need to Let Go.

                    Moreover, you learn to look at people as they really are and not as you would want them to be, and you are careful not to project your neediness or insecurities onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be, more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and relationships and that that not everyone can always love you the way you would want them to. So you stop appraising your worth by the measure of love you are given. And suddenly you realize that it’s wrong to demand that someone live their life or sacrifice their dreams just to serve your needs, ease your insecurities, or meet “your” standards and expectations. You learn that the only love worth giving and receiving is the love that is given freely without conditions or limitations. And you learn what it means to love. So you stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that “alone” does not mean “lonely” and you begin to discover the joy of spending time “with yourself” and “on yourself.” Then you discover the greatest and most fulfilling love you will ever know. Self Love. And so, it comes to pass that through understanding your heart heals; and now all new things are possible.

                    Moving along, you begin to avoid Toxic people and conversations. And you stop wasting time and energy rehashing your situation with family and friends. You learn that talk doesn’t change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep you trapped in the past. So, you stop lamenting over what could or should have been and you make a decision to leave the past behind. Then you begin to invest your time and energy to affect positive change. You take a personal inventory of all your strengths and weaknesses and the areas you need to improve in order to move ahead. You set your goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.

                    You learn that life isn’t always fair and you don’t always get what you think you deserve and you stop personalizing every loss or disappointment. You learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.

                    And you stop looking for guarantees because you’ve learned that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected and that whatever happens, you’ll learn to deal with it. And you learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time FEAR itself. So you learn to step right into and through your fears because to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy and you learn to go after what you want and not to squander your life living under a cloud of indecision or feelings of impending doom.

                    Then, YOU LEARN ABOUT MONEY... the personal power and independence it brings and the options it creates. And you recognize the necessity to create your own personal wealth. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. Then a sense of power is born of self-reliance. And you live with honor and integrity because you know that these principles are not the outdated ideals of a by-gone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build your life. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful opportunity and exciting possibility. Then you hang a wind chime outside your window to remind yourself what beauty there is in Simplicity.

                    Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you FAKE a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

                    A word about the Power of Prayer: In some of my darkest, most painful and frightening hours, I have prayed not for the answers to my prayers or for material things but for my “God” to help me find the strength, confidence and courage to persevere; to face each day and to do what I must do.

                    Remember this: “You are an expression of the almighty. The spirit of God resides within you and moves through you. Open your heart, speak to that spirit and it will heal and empower you.” My “God” has never failed me.
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                    Never look down on a person unless you are offering them a hand up.
                    awprint: RUBY Imagine yourself doing What you love and loving What you do, Being happy From the inside Out, experiencing your Dreams wide awake, Being creative, being Unique, being you - changing things to the way YOU know they can BE - Living the Life you Always imagined.awprint:

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                      #11
                      SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

                      DNC, thanks! Never heard that one before. Congrats on 20 days!

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                        #12
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                        Thanks for the mule story. I never heard it. But boy have I felt it. I can envision the top of that well. Here comes the light.
                        Congratulations

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                          #13
                          SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!!!!

                          I had heard the mule story... but it's always worth a repeat! Thanks DNC
                          Congrats on 20 AF days! :goodjob:
                          ...I'm working on day 2 AF, newbie to these boards.

                          Rejuve

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                            #14
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                            hi thank u all lodestar
                            mighty moose

                            and RBMS 2AF feels good ain't it....keep going ...congrats

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                              #15
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                              Hey Daddy,

                              It's a beautiful story that makes me want to smile and cry at the same time.

                              I treat myself to a new nail varnish instead of drinking. I now have a drawer full.

                              I can share but I don't think that's for you either.

                              :goodjob: on 20 days

                              Love Jackie xxx
                              It could be worse, I could be filing.
                              AF since 7/7/2009

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