Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

[Lavande]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi cooner5,

Welcome to MWO, you've found a good place!

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Also, there are many threads such as the 'Newbies Nest' thread........just jump in & post. There's lots of people available to help you along. Weekends are a little quieter but you'll always find someone online.

Wishing you the best!

Lav

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi,
Good weekend. Resolve stronger than ever - am very hopeful. Read Allen Carr's easyway book - makes some very interesting points especially reinforces thinking of the freedom of being AF and the fact that AL has no benefits etc. - I will def incorporate his thinking into my daily plan.
Reasons not to drink.
1) Absolutely nothing positive comes from me drinking
2) My most difficult times from childhood to adulthood have been as a direct or indirect result of my own or someone elses (father's) alcohol abuse
3) Alcoholism is progressive - I don't want to look back in 1,2,3 or more years to be further along my downward spiral having wasted this opportunity to nip it in the bud while I still can.
4) I have a relationship of fun & mischievous (spelling?) with all my nieces and nephews and I want dearly to retain this. However I don't ever want them to feel sorry for me or embarassed by me. I want them to always be proud of me and know they can rely on me. One way to achieving this is to stop pissing my life and hard earned money away at the weekends and start to reach my true potential.
5) No more dark (almost suicidal) thoughts after a binge - guilt about the hundreds Euro spent, making a fool of myself and missing work - and asking myself why have I done this to myself again?
6) No more blackouts wondering how I got home - dreading what I have said and done.
7) I can be loud, obnoxious, rude and arrogant when drunk. I don't want people to see me like this as this not the real me.
8) I know my life will be far more happier, fun and prosperous without AL
9) I want to prove to myself I have the balls and willpower to be different to the herd and do this
10) Because I woke up this morning and it was a beautiful day and I was so happy to be able to appreciate it.
11) AL has taken far more from me than I have ever gotten from it.
12) I want Monday to be like every other day of the week not a day to dread and just get through due to a hangover. Life is too short to be wasting days.
13) No AL means no recreational use of illegal drugs.
14) I have never regretted not drinking but have often regretted taking that first drink.
15) I love the gym. When not drinking I have far more energy for it and make far more progress in my training
16) I am a far more confident & friendlier person without AL.
17) I simply cannot handle booze - I'm drunk after 5 pints & then I have lost control.
18) Davie + AL = unmanageble chaos.
19) Because I don't want to have to lie to my boss about being sick again.
20) I am scared that my "rock bottom" could be lower than the lowest I have reached so far.

[Gabbrielle]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi Dave
This my first time I have posted. I have spent ages just reading what others have said. I loved your comments, it will give me hopefully somewhere to start my journey.

Gabbrielle

[Angelcakes]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi Davie,
Love your list. Just wanted to let you know I'm backing you mate!
xo

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Angelcakes;767467 wrote: Hi Davie,
Love your list. Just wanted to let you know I'm backing you mate!
xo

Thanks angelcakes.
Spent a bit of time looking into Lifering groups. Has anyone attended and have any views? Appears to be a decent alternative to AA.
1) Absolutely nothing positive comes from me drinking
2) My most difficult times from childhood to adulthood have been as a direct or indirect result of my own or someone elses (father's) alcohol abuse
3) Alcoholism is progressive - I don't want to look back in 1,2,3 or more years to be further along my downward spiral having wasted this opportunity to nip it in the bud while I still can.
4) I have a relationship of fun & mischievous (spelling?) with all my nieces and nephews and I want dearly to retain this. However I don't ever want them to feel sorry for me or embarassed by me. I want them to always be proud of me and know they can rely on me. One way to achieving this is to stop pissing my life and hard earned money away at the weekends and start to reach my true potential.
5) No more dark (almost suicidal) thoughts after a binge - guilt about the hundreds Euro spent, making a fool of myself and missing work - and asking myself why have I done this to myself again?
6) No more blackouts wondering how I got home - dreading what I have said and done.
7) I can be loud, obnoxious, rude and arrogant when drunk. I don't want people to see me like this as this not the real me.
8) I know my life will be far more happier, fun and prosperous without AL
9) I want to prove to myself I have the balls and willpower to be different to the herd and do this
10) Because I woke up this morning and it was a beautiful day and I was so happy to be able to appreciate it.
11) AL has taken far more from me than I have ever gotten from it.
12) I want Monday to be like every other day of the week not a day to dread and just get through due to a hangover. Life is too short to be wasting days.
13) No AL means no recreational use of illegal drugs.
14) I have never regretted not drinking but have often regretted taking that first drink.
15) I love the gym. When not drinking I have far more energy for it and make far more progress in my training
16) I am a far more confident & friendlier person without AL.
17) I simply cannot handle booze - I'm drunk after 5 pints & then I have lost control.
18) Davie + AL = unmanageble chaos.
19) Because I don't want to have to lie to my boss about being sick again.
20) I am scared that my "rock bottom" could be lower than the lowest I have reached so far.
21) I will never live the life I want until I break this cycle and stay AF forever.

[JackieClaire]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi Davie,

So pleased that you have recognized all the warning lights before you hit your rock bottom.Believe me when I say that you never ever want to go to that horrible black place.

Something that struck me today after much thinking that I'll never be able to drink again. I just can't face again what a revolting state I was in.

Wish I'd worked that one out bloody years ago.

I hope you realize how inspiring your list is.

Jackie x

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi Jackie,
I have come to the same conclusion. I know I can't drink again. One drink leads to another, then into another day then stop until the weekend etc - its absolute madness that needs to stop now. To be honest at this stage I don't want to ever drink and to be frank I haven't wanted to for such a long time but its such a hard habit to break. So I am trying to develop thinking and skills around the idea to recognise AL for what it is and the fact tha I don't ever need touch it again.

Jackie, you have been truly an inspiration since I began here so keep up the good work.

DS.

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi all,
Good busy day today. Work, Gym, dinner with friends and now MWO - all angles covered


1) Absolutely nothing positive comes from me drinking
2) My most difficult times from childhood to adulthood have been as a direct or indirect result of my own or someone elses (father's) alcohol abuse
3) Alcoholism is progressive - I don't want to look back in 1,2,3 or more years to be further along my downward spiral having wasted this opportunity to nip it in the bud while I still can.
4) I have a relationship of fun & mischievous (spelling?) with all my nieces and nephews and I want dearly to retain this. However I don't ever want them to feel sorry for me or embarassed by me. I want them to always be proud of me and know they can rely on me. One way to achieving this is to stop pissing my life and hard earned money away at the weekends and start to reach my true potential.
5) No more dark (almost suicidal) thoughts after a binge - guilt about the hundreds Euro spent, making a fool of myself and missing work - and asking myself why have I done this to myself again?
6) No more blackouts wondering how I got home - dreading what I have said and done.
7) I can be loud, obnoxious, rude and arrogant when drunk. I don't want people to see me like this as this not the real me.
8) I know my life will be far more happier, fun and prosperous without AL
9) I want to prove to myself I have the balls and willpower to be different to the herd and do this
10) Because I woke up this morning and it was a beautiful day and I was so happy to be able to appreciate it.
11) AL has taken far more from me than I have ever gotten from it.
12) I want Monday to be like every other day of the week not a day to dread and just get through due to a hangover. Life is too short to be wasting days.
13) No AL means no recreational use of illegal drugs.
14) I have never regretted not drinking but have often regretted taking that first drink.
15) I love the gym. When not drinking I have far more energy for it and make far more progress in my training
16) I am a far more confident & friendlier person without AL.
17) I simply cannot handle booze - I'm drunk after 5 pints & then I have lost control.
18) Davie + AL = unmanageble chaos.
19) Because I don't want to have to lie to my boss about being sick again.
20) I am scared that my "rock bottom" could be lower than the lowest I have reached so far.
21) I will never live the life I want until I break this cycle and stay AF forever.
22) I don't want to put my family through having to see me in a hospital/treatment centre as a result of AL. If I was to keep drinking that's whats down the track - and maybe not too far down it.

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi All,

Another reason not to drink.

1) Absolutely nothing positive comes from me drinking
2) My most difficult times from childhood to adulthood have been as a direct or indirect result of my own or someone elses (father's) alcohol abuse
3) Alcoholism is progressive - I don't want to look back in 1,2,3 or more years to be further along my downward spiral having wasted this opportunity to nip it in the bud while I still can.
4) I have a relationship of fun & mischievous (spelling?) with all my nieces and nephews and I want dearly to retain this. However I don't ever want them to feel sorry for me or embarassed by me. I want them to always be proud of me and know they can rely on me. One way to achieving this is to stop pissing my life and hard earned money away at the weekends and start to reach my true potential.
5) No more dark (almost suicidal) thoughts after a binge - guilt about the hundreds Euro spent, making a fool of myself and missing work - and asking myself why have I done this to myself again?
6) No more blackouts wondering how I got home - dreading what I have said and done.
7) I can be loud, obnoxious, rude and arrogant when drunk. I don't want people to see me like this as this not the real me.
8) I know my life will be far more happier, fun and prosperous without AL
9) I want to prove to myself I have the balls and willpower to be different to the herd and do this
10) Because I woke up this morning and it was a beautiful day and I was so happy to be able to appreciate it.
11) AL has taken far more from me than I have ever gotten from it.
12) I want Monday to be like every other day of the week not a day to dread and just get through due to a hangover. Life is too short to be wasting days.
13) No AL means no recreational use of illegal drugs.
14) I have never regretted not drinking but have often regretted taking that first drink.
15) I love the gym. When not drinking I have far more energy for it and make far more progress in my training
16) I am a far more confident & friendlier person without AL.
17) I simply cannot handle booze - I'm drunk after 5 pints & then I have lost control.
18) Davie + AL = unmanageble chaos.
19) Because I don't want to have to lie to my boss about being sick again.
20) I am scared that my "rock bottom" could be lower than the lowest I have reached so far.
21) I will never live the life I want until I break this cycle and stay AF forever.
22) I don't want to put my family through having to see me in a hospital/treatment centre as a result of AL. If I was to keep drinking that's whats down the track - and maybe not too far down it.
23) No more putting others and myself at risk by drink driving.

[dill]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Davie, Your list just keeps getting better. Is it getting harder to come up with a new reason each day? You've covered a lot of ground, that's for sure!

If you would ever like to join another thread, take a read on the December Determination thread. There are a lot of folks on there that are serious about being AF. No pressure, though. Everyone has their own posting preferences.

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Dill,
You are spot on, I was just thinking to myself that its getting tough and that i need to get on another thread. But I'm going to update the list daily until i get to 30 reasons. Then I'm going to leave it out there for others and myself to refer to when in need. I may update it from time to time.

DS

[redhibiscus]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Davie,
Thanks again for keeping up your list, I can see your thought process developing and changing as you continue on your AF journey. You are an inspiration!:goodjob:

Hope you are giving yourself credit for all the AF time you are racking up. I was especially touched when you drank again and were so worried about calling off work. I bet in the past you justified it. Now, you feel differently, care about others, and vow to do the right thing in the future.

I noticed as I have been on this thread that I have analyzed how my drinking effects others, things I tried not to think about in the past. It just isn't fun to drink anymore, cause of all the stuff that goes along with it. Keep posting.

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi,
Maybe a superficial reason tonight but true nonetheless.

1) Absolutely nothing positive comes from me drinking
2) My most difficult times from childhood to adulthood have been as a direct or indirect result of my own or someone elses (father's) alcohol abuse
3) Alcoholism is progressive - I don't want to look back in 1,2,3 or more years to be further along my downward spiral having wasted this opportunity to nip it in the bud while I still can.
4) I have a relationship of fun & mischievous (spelling?) with all my nieces and nephews and I want dearly to retain this. However I don't ever want them to feel sorry for me or embarassed by me. I want them to always be proud of me and know they can rely on me. One way to achieving this is to stop pissing my life and hard earned money away at the weekends and start to reach my true potential.
5) No more dark (almost suicidal) thoughts after a binge - guilt about the hundreds Euro spent, making a fool of myself and missing work - and asking myself why have I done this to myself again?
6) No more blackouts wondering how I got home - dreading what I have said and done.
7) I can be loud, obnoxious, rude and arrogant when drunk. I don't want people to see me like this as this not the real me.
8) I know my life will be far more happier, fun and prosperous without AL
9) I want to prove to myself I have the balls and willpower to be different to the herd and do this
10) Because I woke up this morning and it was a beautiful day and I was so happy to be able to appreciate it.
11) AL has taken far more from me than I have ever gotten from it.
12) I want Monday to be like every other day of the week not a day to dread and just get through due to a hangover. Life is too short to be wasting days.
13) No AL means no recreational use of illegal drugs.
14) I have never regretted not drinking but have often regretted taking that first drink.
15) I love the gym. When not drinking I have far more energy for it and make far more progress in my training
16) I am a far more confident & friendlier person without AL.
17) I simply cannot handle booze - I'm drunk after 5 pints & then I have lost control.
18) Davie + AL = unmanageble chaos.
19) Because I don't want to have to lie to my boss about being sick again.
20) I am scared that my "rock bottom" could be lower than the lowest I have reached so far.
21) I will never live the life I want until I break this cycle and stay AF forever.
22) I don't want to put my family through having to see me in a hospital/treatment centre as a result of AL. If I was to keep drinking that's whats down the track - and maybe not too far down it.
23) No more putting others and myself at risk by drink driving.
24) My appearance and overall sense of well being improve dramitically when AF.

[JackieClaire]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

Hi Davie,

no 23. I have never knowingly got into the car while drunk. But used to drive with horrendous hangovers which I now know meant I still had alcohol in my system. So I stopped driving and got the bus,then a taxi and then I just didn't go out any further than to get my next drink.

no 24. That made me . I feel younger,look younger (even friends say I act and look different). And if I feel ill I'm actually ill not hungover.

Keep them coming.

J x

[Davie Souter]

Reasons Not To Drink/Davie's Days

JackieClaire;769192 wrote: Hi Davie,

no 23. I have never knowingly got into the car while drunk. But used to drive with horrendous hangovers which I now know meant I still had alcohol in my system. So I stopped driving and got the bus,then a taxi and then I just didn't go out any further than to get my next drink.

no 24. That made me . I feel younger,look younger (even friends say I act and look different). And if I feel ill I'm actually ill not hungover.

Keep them coming.

J x

Hi Jackie,
No.23 - to my shame I have done it. I got a drink driving ban at 26 (8 years ago). I have to admit that even since then I have drove whilst drunk on at least 3 occassions. To consume AL whilst knowing there is a possibility I could drink & drive to me is sure sign I have a drink problem.
No. 24 Thing about 24 is I am a vain f**ker, love the gym, love clothes, used always eat very healthily. But then I'd go against all that and spend a weekend drinking and eating crap - a complete contradiction.

All these reasons not to drink then go out and drink = madness. However this time round i am very wary of where I have gone wrong in terms of triggers to decide to drink. Working hard on being conscious of these triggers and a plan of action when they pop up. For me the key - just say no to that first drink. I know I don't want to take that first one but have to have the belief and confidence in myself to say no. I know that the first time I am out and order a non-AL drink it will be a moment of relief for me and a turining point. But thats a bit down the track at this stage.

DS