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    #1

    getting started

    Hi all. I am new here and just found the site. I am starting to take steps to change my life for the better. I have said this to myself before...this time I think I mean it. No one realizes how confusing my life seems to me. I also deal with OCD and most of my issues are internal...in my mind. I don't think people see the real me.

    Anyway, I am happy to meet people here and start. I honestly am not sure if I need to quit drinking completely. I have definitely been abusing for years, though. Also, I should not be drinking on top of OCD medication. This past year, I have been working to cut back. I did pretty good all summer except for drinking like a fool twice in August.

    This fall, I have been drinking off and on and usually in moderation. It is not a great accomplishment. Yet, I feel good that I am drinking less than I used to. Still, I think I want to quit completely. I want a clear mind and something inside me is telling me I need to do this.
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    #2
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    Hi NewEagle,

    Welcome to MWO, this is a good place
    Have you read the MWO book yet? You can download it right here on this site from the Health Store. Take a look in the Tool Box in the Monthly Abstinence section for good ideas to help you make your plan. Many of us start the program hoping to learn to drink moderately, but many of us have found we just cannot. Whatever you decide to do you will receive plenty of support.

    Please feel free to join us on the 'Newbies Nest' thread. We'd love to get to know you better

    Wishing you the best on your journey!

    Lav
    AF since 03/26/09
    NF since 05/19/09
    Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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      #3
      getting started

      Thank you for the reply. Part of me wants to drink moderately. There are many times I can only have a few drinks or spread out my drinks so that I stay in my limits. There are times I don't even want to drink.

      Then, there are times I have trouble stopping when I start. There are times--especially when bored--I want to open a bottle of wine or two.

      I could keep living the same way and working to moderate...maybe I would succeed and maybe I wouldn't. I just think I want to quit for good. Alcohol abuse runs in the family, I am on medicine and should not drink, and I think I want a clear mind...not a cloudy one anymore. :new:

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        #4
        getting started

        Welcome to MWO NewEagle.

        This is a wonderful supportive forum you've found.
        Reading your post, it seems you are at odds with what you want to do, know you should do,
        and wish you could do.
        I found this thread below very helpful, perhaps you will as well. I'll try and post it for you. Not 100 % sure how to do it, but you'll find it in the Monthly Abstinence section titled
        What I HATE, LOATH, and JUST CAN'T STAND about drinking.

        Good luck on your journey!
        DLA :h
        Of all vices, drinking is the most incompatible with greatness
        Sir Walter Scott
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          #5
          getting started

          just like to say hi & welcome neweagle,read as many as the pots and threads here,as they will help you no end.:-)


          :congratulatory: Clean & Sober since 13/01/2009 :congratulatory:

          Until one is committed there is always hesitant thoughts.
          I know enough to know that I don't know enough.

          This signature has been typed in front of a live studio audience.

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            #6
            getting started

            Welcome New Eagle,
            I have anxiety and I can tell you, drinking makes it so much worse. You are correct that taking meds for OCD and drinking is selfdefeating. You appear to have the answers inside, but don't particularly like them. I understand, as I know what I need to do, and when I do it, life is good. Not perfect, but so much better.

            Set small goals for yourself and monitor how you feel physically and emotionally. I am drinking about once a month now, and even that is too much for me. But it has taken time and effort to figure this out. Good luck to you, you deserve the best in life, strength and hope.
            Redhibiscus
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              #7
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              :welcome: New Eagle
              You've come to a great place. Best of luck on your sobriety journey!
              When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.
              -- Franklin D Roosevelt --

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                #8
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                Welcome

                You've come to the right place...come browse...check out different forums, you'll find much support whatever path you choose. :welcome:

                Rejuve

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                  #9
                  getting started

                  Welcome New Eagle.. You've found a great place .. The ppl here at MWO are caring and supportive , I'm glad your here:h Em
                  Non Drinker 9/09
                  Non Smoker 6/09
                  Tennis Anyone ?

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                    #10
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                    Hi - I am a newbie too - but cannot work out how to post!! Also, tried to go to chat room, but all I got was a Java picture then nothing. Anyone helping please?
                    How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now and there will never be a time when it is not now....

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                      #11
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                      redhibiscus;759044 wrote: Welcome New Eagle,
                      I have anxiety and I can tell you, drinking makes it so much worse. You are correct that taking meds for OCD and drinking is selfdefeating. You appear to have the answers inside, but don't particularly like them. I understand, as I know what I need to do, and when I do it, life is good. Not perfect, but so much better.

                      Set small goals for yourself and monitor how you feel physically and emotionally. I am drinking about once a month now, and even that is too much for me. But it has taken time and effort to figure this out. Good luck to you, you deserve the best in life, strength and hope.
                      Thank you for the response. I hear what you are saying. Ignoring whether or not I should drink because alcohol abuse runs in my family's history...i should not because I am positive I have OCD and am on meds for it. Why would I do something that makes my OCD worse? Even if I can moderate? For instance, since early summer, I have only been drinking a few times a month. But, I think my OCD is worse after I drink. It's silly to keep doing that to myself then! No, I think I want to stop sabotaging myself.

                      I wonder if the desire to drown comes from genetics (sometimes I think so) or upbringing? There are some traumatic experiences I have swept under the rug for years. I think now is the time to really deal with them. I acknowledged some abusive things that happened years ago. I don't think I ever dealt with them emotionally though...

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                        #12
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                        Hi there. Dealing with past experiences is always a tough one. I have only just done that myself. Take one minute, one hour, one day, or whaatever it takes for you at a time. Here something I read recently:
                        Life is too short to wake up in the mornings with regrets,
                        So love the ones who treat you right,
                        Forget the ones that dont,
                        They never said that life would be easy,
                        They just said it would be worth it.

                        Lets all make our lives worth it! xxx

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