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Thank you for the openess Cindi. That's great that you can deal with other family members problems and still wake up with yourself. My dad has been truly supportive in trying to help me fight this addiction. I feel so bad about letting him down right now and I don't want to face him (or my mom) tomorrow for Thanksgiving. In addition to my father, our family has also had various aunts and uncles that are alcoholics and I think a couple have died due to this condition. I almost feel like that I'm doomed to the same fate....and I'm only 42 years old!! I'll keep posting and hopefully I'll become a better person from this fight.

[Cindi]

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I have to be open-this has torn me apart-hopefully in 1 month we can post and see we don't need this crap-and laugh in everyone's face that dosen't believe we can quit...

[Cindi]

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Don't feel bad about your Father. I'm sure he is more than proud that you are trying to do something about this.

[brightlite]

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Welcome Mr. V

You are very Fortunate to have a Father that has overcome his suffering with Alcohol. He will be your biggest Ally in this fight. He knows, he understands. Don't be embarrassed to ask him for help. And show your Mom how much you love her. Make this a Thanksgiving of uplifting feelings. Everyone knows now and will help. There is no more need to deny or have feelings of anger about your problem. This is a good step in moving forward in the fight.

Enjoy your day tomorrow.

[rubywillow]

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At the end of the day though-I wake up with myself. That's profound, Cindi. Mr, you've heard from some of the best here. It's true, no matter how many ways we turn the puzzle and look at it, the problem remains the same - our relationship to AL. If you stay here, and are honest, you can find support, help, and people who care where you are, and how you are. I hope you chose to do this now.

[Closer To Free]

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Cindi, Bright, Ruby- Thanks for all of the words of advice and encouragement. I know that my father would be happier to see me try and fight this than face the other fate. I just have to get over the embarrasment factor of failing again! He keeps on wanting me to go to AA meetings because that worked for him but I'm so uncomfortable at those meetings. I think that I already got more out of this site in a day than attending the meetings in person. Maybe I can bring this up to him.

Cindi-I hope that in a month we can realize that we don't need this crap. I think that I'll jump on a December AF thread when somebody starts one. I know that I won't drink at my parents for a couple of days so maybe I can start early.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!

[penelope pit stop]

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Mr V,
Good on you for coming clean with you folks. Good on you for sharing your self with all at MWO. It's a bugger when one grows up with alcohol, and alcoholics and one repeats the history. Yeah, I get the party stuff, everyone thinks you're a pretty cool dude. But amongst that , you know the reality. I've been here since late October and now into my 10th day AF. I'm looking forward to you sticking around here Mr V, it really is a fabulous place. Good on you,
Penelope x

[AnyaPrincess]

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MrVodka;764185 wrote: Cindi, Bright, Ruby- Thanks for all of the words of advice and encouragement. I know that my father would be happier to see me try and fight this than face the other fate. I just have to get over the embarrasment factor of failing again! He keeps on wanting me to go to AA meetings because that worked for him but I'm so uncomfortable at those meetings. I think that I already got more out of this site in a day than attending the meetings in person. Maybe I can bring this up to him.

Cindi-I hope that in a month we can realize that we don't need this crap. I think that I'll jump on a December AF thread when somebody starts one. I know that I won't drink at my parents for a couple of days so maybe I can start early.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!

Mr. V,

I think you should tell your Dad that you're happy that AA worked so well for him, but the solution isn't always the same for all people. I don't KNOW for sure that AA wouldn't work for me, but I do know that I didn't want to have to go to those meetings. I was so thankful to find this group and to find the medication and supplements and the CD's from this site. What a Godsend.

You can download the book from the store on this site for $12 (approximately) so you have it in your hands ASAP. I would highly recommend doing that.

And you may not believe in this, but I would change your name from Mr. Vodka to Mr. Victory or something like that! I may be superstitious, but I believe that what we speak about ourselves is very powerful. inkele:

Annie

[Closer To Free]

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Penelope- Thank you so much for the reply and congrats on day 10!! And yes, I do know the reality but just haven't figured out the solution.

Annie- Thank you as well for your reply. It's going to be tough telling my dad what's going on but as Bright said, he is/will be my biggest ally. As far as the username goes, I've been thinking about changing that all day long. It was just the name that described myself at that time. As you mentioned, I need to make it a positive name instead of a negative one. TBD

I ordered the book some time ago but I've been so unmotivated over the past several years and I didn't want to look for it. I had read about half of it and that was it. It was a good/easy read but I never finished it. Just seeing these replies, I actually got up and went through a couple of boxes. Wow! It took me a whole 2 minutes to find it!! I will not get to it tonight as I mentioned in a previous post that I would be out drinking as it's sort of a tradition.....being hungover at the parents' for Thanksgiving. Stupid!!

Anyways, thanks for all of the replies and here's to hoping tomorrow will be the beginning of my AF journey.

[biba bee]

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Hello to Mr V from me, Biba Bee! I'm on my 6th day alcohol free and life is good. Any tips? Log-in at least once a day to this site for support, change your routine so you are busy when the cravings are worst (Iwent to cinema last night). If you always drink when you go out at night, stay in for a week or so! Also, was very dubious about 'visualisations' but have found that for me, they really help. My favourite (I know it sounds silly), is to imagine my body all covered in smelly mud and dirt and stinking of cheap wine. I then stand under a refreshing shower which washes all the mess away leaving me clean and pure....

[Closer To Free]

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Thanks Biba Vee- Thank you for the reply and congrats on day 6! I'm at my folks for Thanksgiving for a couple of days so I probably won't be checking in very often. I know that I'm safe here so I hope this will be a good start to try and control this problem. When I'm out with my long time friends I won't drink because they know what's going on. I'm a little uncomfortable being out with them when they're drinking so I don't go out with them very often anymore. Then there are the drinking friends that I really get into trouble with. Unfortunately, I hang out them way too often. And it's not only the drinking when I'm out, I'll also have more when I get home. I do need to look into changing my routine but I'm such a creature of habit. Also, that's very interesting about the "visualisation" idea. I'll have to look into that a little further. Thanks again.