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[Chillgirl]

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Hi Guys
Ubuns you are doing fantastic...!!!
I managed last nite AF was in the chat room for hours but it got me through,
feel amazing today.....

[stirly-girly]

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Way to go Ladies!!! Keep up the good work!!
Will catch up to you later either by posts or in the chat room
XXOO Stirly

[Bree]

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Hi all,
Good to see some familar faces. Day 27 AF for me, I think, I have actually lost count.
Xmas is going to be a challenge for all of us, but I made a promise to my DD 14, that I wouldn't drink, now all I have to do is keep that promise. I have been doing quite well, no cravings hardly, although the last two days have been a bit of a bummer for me. Hubbie was out, and nothing on TV, so I was mooching around the house, just thinking, if I had a glass of wine, I wouldn't be as fed up. I poured an orange juice and did a crossword instead. Hope that always works for me!!!Lol!!!
Keep up the good work all, and remember what we have to gain by been AF.

[Grim]

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Hey Liath, nice to see you again although the situation is not the best for you right now.

Well done for posting and stating your intention and good work on day 3. You are so right in what your say about "that not quite right feeling" and day by day one starts to see that all can be well without the bastard AL!

There is an infinite amount of good to be gained from this journey and it is a daily reassurance to come here to MWO and know that we are not travelling alone...

[Hartley]

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Liath;776078 wrote: Great to see everyone hangin in! I had such a busy day between work, an appointment, and then christmas shopping that I am beat! But I know I can deal with my day tommorrow because being a little tired is NOTHING like having a killer hangover to deal with.. or the constant 'not quite right feeling' that comes with daily drinking. I NEVER want to go back to that ugly place!

DAY 3!!!!!!!!!!!

Liath

That "NQR" feeling is a dangerous one. It's as if you don't feel quite whole - as if a part of you is missing. Keep a close eye on it. It can swell until it takes over your every waking thought and then you will drink.

Do all you can to keep it a small, idiotic trick of the mind and treat it with the dismissiveness it deserves. Eventually it will get bored and retreat to think up some other devious plan.

[Liath]

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Everyone who has posted, thank you so much. If I am feeling bad I can read posts, or chat, it really helps! I am getting through day 4. I had a very tough task at work today, stayed late, and in the recent past this would have been more than enough of an excuse to pick up a six pack. But I did not do it and I am keeping myself distracted through the evening hours here.

Everyone who is just starting, Urban, Stirly, Chill, Ultra, Lissie, you are doing great, still here, I am thrilled!

One thing that frightens me is that I was in this head space over the summer. I was ready to quit. Times got tough and I found myself right back where I started! I have to find a way to deal with pain, disapointment, uncertainty, and the like WITHOUT drinking. I think some of us may have been using AL to cope with our problems that we don't know what else to do. Hmmm, self destruction just does not make sense.. and that's why we are here!

DAY 4!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ultrabunny]

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My life has been so tough for the last 3 years but I think I invite some of the drama in sometimes. And I don't deal with things the way I should do when I'm drinking and make things a lot worse.

2010 for me is going to be as drama-free as possible. I want peace and quiet. I want to be able to hear my pain and insecurities and deal with them instead of drowning them with wine.

It's like, giving yourself permission and saying it's ok, that hurts but it's ok. And I know nothing stays the same either, no pain lasts forever.

I just woke up to a nasty text from someone and I read it and nearly text back, but instead I just walked away and I am going to ignore it. Bullies go away if they don't get attention. Last week and before when I was drinking, I would have dealt with that differently.

This time next week will be xmas day and I am going to enjoy it sober!! I'm looking at my children for inspiration, they don't need to have a drink to enjoy themselves.

Day 5! Bring it on! Well done everybody and THANK YOU!!

[stirly-girly]

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Congrats to all of you who are still AF!! It's not easy especially at this time of year with parties, family gatherings, etc. Keep up the good work.
For you who are still struggling, don't give up. When it's the right day for you to be AF you'll know it. In the meantime, all of us are here for you. Everybody's in this together. Have a great day......Stirly

[Liath]

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Good morning!

Gosh Ultra, I can sympathize. I too have drowned pain and insecurities with AL. And I too have made things worse by drinking. Typically, when I am feeling unhappy with my BF, I have went out to the bar with a friend and gotten myself worked up and drunk. Rather than deal with the problem head on, I find someone to encourage me to break it off, and I try to bail out rather than deal with the problem. When drinking, I seem to invite or encourage drama. I am confrontational, I spill my secrets, I run to the wrong person for comfort. I miss work, I break down.. oh its ugly, my friends, just ugly.

How did we get here? I am going to start a thread about that. Reading a great book right now on the subject.

[Rusty]

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Dear Liath,

I know EXACTLY what you're going through.

You can count on me for help. I have a graduate degree also and a fabulous, lucrative career but alcohol will eventually destroy it if I don't get it under control. You are courageous to write and ask for help.

You are NOT a drunk! I HATE when people say that about people with drinking problems. How derogatory! Here is a quick resource for you: Women For Sobriety. Welcome to Women For Sobriety, Inc..

I can understand the "I don't want to give up alcohol forever or say goodbye to alcohol forever. " I am in the same boat. Forever is way too long, isn't it?

Take baby steps if you're afraid of withdrawal. You went 10 days without drinking and didn't get withdrawal symptoms, so I think you would be fine if you quit, or as my former therapist said...decrease your drinking by a third for a few days to avoid withdrawal if you're afraid.

As far as the relationship....well, you're obviously well-educated and bright and maybe he's holding you back? Cutting back and not drinking for a few days and being able to sever the ties might help you. I know from experience that I cannot make a good decision under the influence.

We live in the same state. I have two names of doctors who could prescribe Campral and a fabulous therapist who can help you. I saw her for several months and she is amazing and non-judgmental. She also had practical business-wise ideas for me as she is a very successful businesswoman herself. She has helped me in more ways than one.

Liath, you can send me a private message and I will respond within hours.

Wishing you peace,

Rusty

[Liath]

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Thanks Rusty. I am interested to talk with you further. I am getting busy here as the holidays approach and will be going out of town but I am going to PM you quick to touch base.

Anyone else reading this, today I am AF for 7 days!!!!!!

[mollyka]

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me too Liath, day 7, well done an enjoy Christmas as I will sober and tranquil (fingers crossed)